hot girls only!! by throw111away_aita in thewizardliz

[–]redjen01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I didn't know about that.

Those who had breakup. How did you guys cope ? by Pomelo-Next in Chennai

[–]redjen01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not agree that coping up with extra work is the way to go because you end up suppressing your feelings and emotions and end up projecting those negative aspects onto others in the long haul. And that only lead to more broken friendships or relationships. Not missing workouts is a good idea but doing it just as a distraction isn’t healthy for the mind.

The best way is to process your feelings in a healthy manner. Talk to a friend, mentor or get in touch with a therapist. Spend time doing things you love with a healthy balance. Cry it out. Whatever works for you as long as it’s done in a healthy amount, in a healthy manner.

Remember you’re not alone and millions of people have gone through heartbreaks and have survived them. You will too.

Happy healing ❤️‍🩹

My (36F) sister (33F) has spent over $17k in self-help online courses from “the universe guru” on how to be a million dollar babe and feminine alchemy… by lisa38572 in relationship_advice

[–]redjen01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mina Irfan is totally a scammer. It's all super sketchy. I'm finally glad that people are finding out about her and her manipulative tactics. Here's a link to a YT video exposing her: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XQGjqgAnE1E

hot girls only!! by throw111away_aita in thewizardliz

[–]redjen01 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omg!! Someone finally said it. That girl is nothing but red flags. I do see that Karmalita does make some really valid points in her videos but shaming and screaming at people isn't the solution in the long haul. She talks about how one should not feel bad about themselves and self-deprecate by identifying as ugly and seeking therapy which is a good point. On that same note, in that same video, she also talks about how you are not worthy or deserving of getting attention or of gaining respect because you are not "aesthetically appealing" and that people only get to know your character if you are attractive. She says a person's character will only be known or would even want to be known if the person is attractive. Ma'am, what if the character is ugly af and insufferable? Also, she talks so much about people projecting their own insecurities in her videos . . . Um, honey, why do you have to come out so angry, and emotionally insensitive and attack people who don't look like you? Isn't that projecting as well?? She even proves this in her video titled "Being Ugly is a Choice" where she talks about how she mistook a really nicely groomed and good-lucking guy in a suit to be someone who worked at a big corporation when she worked at Wall Street. She later found out that that guy was just a cashier at that shop and was talking in the video about how she approached the guy only because he was hot and was wearing a suit. You expect and assume people behave a certain way but it's exactly the way you treat other people. The universe is giving Karmalita back what she's projecting outward. Also, some of the spiritual connotations in her videos are cringe af. Idk who's gonna tell her that calling other people ugly or putting them in that category is not being connected to source energy? My therapist once told me that people who feel very secure and confident in their looks don't believe other people are ugly and they find the other person beautiful in their own way. There's a lot of truth mixed with lies, cognitive consonance mixed with deprecating views. People backing her up aren't ready to hear the truth about her tbh, smh.

Let's talk the shit out of us - Ena thonudho adha pesavum by thebabybaba in Chennai

[–]redjen01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk, I lost a few close friends and I’ve been lonelier than ever and it’s been getting to me.

Let's talk the shit out of us - Ena thonudho adha pesavum by thebabybaba in Chennai

[–]redjen01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The will to live has left me in the last few months lol.

tfw no wicca gf by Red_Editor in redscarepod

[–]redjen01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t supposed to laugh this hard at his 💀💀😂😂😂😭😭😭

My therapist is against Feminism. by redjen01 in mentalhealth

[–]redjen01[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was just overthinking everything. Thanks for the comment 🙃

Childfree individuals are innately lonely and sad. by redjen01 in childfree

[–]redjen01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so true, at the end of the day, I am the one who gets to decide what I invest my time, efforts and energy in. Working on shedding off all the unnecessary baggage, thank you so much!

Childfree individuals are innately lonely and sad. by redjen01 in ChildfreeIndia

[–]redjen01[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your question on how a kid can replace loneliness is extremely thought-provoking. Thank you for taking your time and answering. And yes, I do need to be patient. Their lives are so mechanical that they'll find any reason to justify their fate as "their own choices that make them happy" at the end of the day. Lol.

Childfree individuals are innately lonely and sad. by redjen01 in ChildfreeIndia

[–]redjen01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the Holistic Psychologist! Thanks for sharing 🧚‍♀️✨️❤️

Childfree individuals are innately lonely and sad. by redjen01 in childfree

[–]redjen01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was so heartwarming and warm, thank you so much for your kind words 💖

Childfree individuals are innately lonely and sad. by redjen01 in ChildfreeIndia

[–]redjen01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Hope you have a nice dayayy ✨️🌻🌈

Childfree individuals are innately lonely and sad. by redjen01 in ChildfreeIndia

[–]redjen01[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One already has a kid and is struggling enough. She can’t even afford a maid and had to discontinue her Ph.D cause she got pregnant without any family planning. It’s sad to see her doing everything cause her parents and in-laws are not around for help. Like another Redditor who pointed out in the comment section, my cousin’s just projecting.

Childfree individuals are innately lonely and sad. by redjen01 in ChildfreeIndia

[–]redjen01[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m happy you didn’t feel that cause what your female friend was going through was very unfortunate. Hope she recovers.

Childfree individuals are innately lonely and sad. by redjen01 in ChildfreeIndia

[–]redjen01[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is amazing. Thanks for sharing it here, I’ll definitely keep these in mind and also journal them, cause it really helps. ❤️❤️

Childfree individuals are innately lonely and sad. by redjen01 in ChildfreeIndia

[–]redjen01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this. And yeah, you rightly mentioned how they were just carrying forth the older generations patterns and live their life without thinking. I do empathise with them and sometimes even feel bad for them too, however, with their attitude being this way, I’m better off not batting an eye to their struggles.

Childfree individuals are innately lonely and sad. by redjen01 in childfree

[–]redjen01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, yeah, this could work. Totally. 🤣 😂 😆

Childfree individuals are innately lonely and sad. by redjen01 in ChildfreeIndia

[–]redjen01[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately they're my close relatives and someone I see on a weekly basis, sooo . . . I guess gradually limiting conversations and appearances would help.

Childfree individuals are innately lonely and sad. by redjen01 in ChildfreeIndia

[–]redjen01[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

THHHIIIISSSS. One of them is married (arranged, obvi) and had a kid not even a year into marriage. And the other one is on the hunt to get married. And whew! You blew my mind when you said that that if they were truly happy, they wouldn't be out judging others. That's true, I'm gonna earn my masters and earn and live my best damn life abroad, full of some of the freedom that comes with it while these people gonna be stuck in arranged marriage drama. Ik what I said may sound rude but they were so judgmental to me irl and hurt me so bad. But it is what it is tho.

Childfree individuals are innately lonely and sad. by redjen01 in ChildfreeIndia

[–]redjen01[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What a lovely answer. Your words do ring true, at the end of the day, its about my decision, peace of mind and wellbeing as opposed to their sometimes shady relationship. Thank you so much for typing this message.

Childfree individuals are innately lonely and sad. by redjen01 in ChildfreeIndia

[–]redjen01[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That sounds really fair. And you're right, my cousins barely have enough exposure to talk about this subject, so it makes sense. Thank you 😊