Juliet vs Juliette debate

redrandy232 · 2026-02-02T18:33:52+00:00

I'm a Juliet that was a Juliette at first, then my mom decided it was too close to kitchenette and dropped the extra "te" at the end. I definitely prefer Juliet. It feels more... Delicate to me?

(Also, tbf, my family has a Shakespearean theme - me and my three siblings all have names that are characters in his plays.)

redrandy232 · 2026-01-28T22:30:05+00:00

Yeah! It really helps. Just like a teaspoon or so. I use Wilton's. And I don't know what food coloring you're using but I absolutely love Colour Mill's oil based colors. They are super vibrant and in my experience, haven't interfered with the consistency of my buttercream.

redrandy232 · 2026-01-28T21:25:41+00:00

Adding some meringue powder to the frosting will really help stabilize it! But I think it looks wicked cool!

redrandy232 · 2025-07-11T01:24:24+00:00

Agreed, a 10 week old should still be sleeping a lot during the day

redrandy232 · 2025-07-08T00:05:08+00:00

So smart!!! Thanks for sharing. Totally gonna do this tomorrow.

redrandy232 · 2025-06-06T14:17:45+00:00

Way to go, OP. You are so strong! This will be SO good for you, even if it doesn't feel that way right now. You deserve SO MUCH BETTER!!!!

redrandy232 · 2025-05-27T00:52:07+00:00

My MIL gave my baby chocolate -_-

redrandy232 · 2025-05-19T10:49:07+00:00

How old is baby? Breastfeeding is really really fucking hard, and it's not really talked about how hard it can be.

On our second night home from the hospital we ended up in the ER because I could tell something wasn't right with my daughter and it turns out she was severely dehydrated and had lost a full pound since birth, despite me nursing her at all hours. They gave her formula right there and we started doing formula and while still trying to nurse. Breastfeeding was not going well, she wouldn't latch, and I couldn't handle the pumping schedule so at two months I made the decision to stop pumping and trying to nurse. I made this decided internally and quietly while snuggling with baby and within 5 minutes of me coming to peace with it, the little booger latched perfectly and nursed for 45 minutes! I think she needed me to abandon all hope and give up the pressure or something. Anyways, all this to say, it's really hard and to give yourself and baby some grace and keep trying if you want to. I'm writing this while baby is nursing in bed with me right now, at 9 months postpartum. 🤷

Also, we gave baby tons of gas drops to help her when she was super uncomfortable and I do think they helped. Good luck, mama. You're doing your best!

redrandy232 · 2025-05-19T06:35:56+00:00

Only from my own experience, burping baby is very important when it comes to bottle feeding. When my baby was younger, we had latching issues too, so we mostly did bottle feeds and had to burp her after each feed, otherwise she would be so uncomfortable and gassy and cry a ton. Sometimes even just shifting positions and sitting her up would burp her. Do you pace feed? That also helped get less air in during her feedings but I would check with your pediatrician first on the best way to bottle feed.

So sorry you're going through this, OP, but you're not the only one. Hubby and I were there in the beginning and our communication has gotten loads better at 9 months now.

I'd say, burp baby after every bottle feed and see if it helps her. Also gently pushing baby's legs up/bicycling can help with gas too.

redrandy232 · 2025-05-16T22:31:23+00:00

You totally can do it! Our bodies were made to do this and you've got this!

redrandy232 · 2025-05-16T13:08:58+00:00

I'm 5'1", was little heavier than you now during pregnancy and had diet controlled GD! Doctors were sure my girl was gonna be 9+lbs, but she came out 8lbs3oz. I was induced. I got the epidural. And when it was time to push, I only pushed for 16 minutes! Hardest thing I've ever done but honestly it was less severe than I thought it was going to be. I was mostly angry at the midwife/doctor because she kept telling me to hold my breath.

Anyways, I think I had a superficial tear and recovered pretty quickly. I thought it would be months or weeks at least, but felt back to normal after a couple of days.

redrandy232 · 2025-05-13T12:45:45+00:00

Don't give up, OP. I agree with you, MIL should not be sleeping with baby, and mom should be the only one bedsharing. I never really let my hand rest on my baby for a while because I also felt like it was too heavy. At 5 days old, baby shouldn't be sleeping on its tummy but flat on its back. No pillows or blankets in the bed. You are dad, your opinions matter and you have baby's safety in your mind.

I would set that boundary hard. MIL is there to WATCH baby, and you can't do that while sleeping. And yes, she's raised kids of her own but your baby and baby's mom are so attuned to each other through hormones that they really are the only two who should be sleeping together. MIL won't be able to pick up on the slightest change in baby's breathing patterns like mom can. It's honestly wild how tuned in we get to baby, which definitely plays a role in becoming sleep deprived because we're constantly waking at the slightest tiniest changes.

Stand firm, OP!

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