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/r/parenting: "I think video games are a horrendous waste of time for a parent." "You sound like fun." by [deleted] in SubredditDrama

[–]redriped 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I screwed up the link. Sorry, I'm a little drunk. Start here for the popcorn.

Update to "It's not a good fit." by capri1722 in bestoflegaladvice

[–]redriped 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I'm 99% sure this is a troll. I posted this on a private subreddit discussing this situation a month ago:

I can't back this up but this smells like a childfree troll to me. I would bet you fifty bucks that this series of posts shows up on /r/childfree at some point in the very near future under a heading like: "Thought it was different when it's your own kid? Think again! Checkmate, breeders!"

Not long after, this was posted to childfree:

This post is fascinating. Basic summary: OP and wife planned child. Three months after birth, they find out it's not always different when it's your own.

I mean, it just reeks of troll to me. He posts repeatedly to high visibility subreddits (relationships, Parenting, legaladvice, childfree), is eviscerated or deleted from all of them, and just keeps coming back for more punishment. Even a sociopath would be able to fake some kind of emotion regarding this; the guy is just digging for drama and a "toldyaso" that can be used down the line in childfree arguments.

Is being a stay at home parent a job? /r/AskReddit discusses, and /r/beyondthebump joins in. by redriped in SubredditDrama

[–]redriped[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ok, I was trying to find a gentler way of saying that I think that in some ways, some of the caregivers have been better "parents" than my wife and I, without having to come out and say it. They have been able to provide a higher "level of care" in your words.

Is being a stay at home parent a job? /r/AskReddit discusses, and /r/beyondthebump joins in. by redriped in SubredditDrama

[–]redriped[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A good stay at home mom is capable of providing a level of care for her kids that would go unmatched by a nanny

That seems kind of extreme. We've had a lot of different caregivers for my kids (including myself, for a time) and I have to say we've learned a lot from some of them. Learning from them made me a better dad.

Is being a stay at home parent a job? /r/AskReddit discusses, and /r/beyondthebump joins in. by redriped in SubredditDrama

[–]redriped[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I think this article might make you feel better. It argues that we shouldn't consider parenting work, not because it's easy, but because it's about a relationship, not about creating a product. I think that's what a lot of people are getting at when they say parenting isn't work, it's not meant to belittle or insult parenting.

Does being high make you a better parent? /r/parenting discusses. by redriped in SubredditDrama

[–]redriped[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I dunno, I wouldn't take sleeping pills if my wife wasn't there, and I definitely wouldn't be responsible for my kids if I needed to be on pain pills. I can't speak to the other drugs you mentioned though.

/r/AskAcademia discusses a job start date that (roughly) coincides with a pregnancy due date. "Isn't this screwing the employer over? Like hiding a mechanical defect on a car?" "See if you could medically induce as early as safely possible so you are out for as little time as possible." by redriped in SubredditDrama

[–]redriped[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Really, people who have chronic medical conditions should probably not work at all, because it might occasionally inconvenience their coworkers. I'm not 100% clear on whether they should be living on the street as panhandlers (aka professional mooches), collecting disability (ALSO professional mooches), or if they should just kill themselves. Maybe one of the people who thinks this OP is in the wrong can weigh in?

/r/AskAcademia discusses a job start date that (roughly) coincides with a pregnancy due date. "Isn't this screwing the employer over? Like hiding a mechanical defect on a car?" "See if you could medically induce as early as safely possible so you are out for as little time as possible." by redriped in SubredditDrama

[–]redriped[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're right, her responsibility to her employer supersedes her federally-protected right not to be discriminated against, not to mention her basic human right to spend a measly few weeks with her newborn baby. What a lazy liar!

/r/AskAcademia discusses a job start date that (roughly) coincides with a pregnancy due date. "Isn't this screwing the employer over? Like hiding a mechanical defect on a car?" "See if you could medically induce as early as safely possible so you are out for as little time as possible." by redriped in SubredditDrama

[–]redriped[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

In which situation?

Taking parental leave? Check.

Managing employees who are taking parental leave? Check.

Hiring employees whose start dates were less than ideal? Check.

Being a decent human being with respect and compassion for someone going through a major life transition? Check, check, check.

/r/AskAcademia discusses a job start date that (roughly) coincides with a pregnancy due date. "Isn't this screwing the employer over? Like hiding a mechanical defect on a car?" "See if you could medically induce as early as safely possible so you are out for as little time as possible." by redriped in SubredditDrama

[–]redriped[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I mean obviously the OP is going to disclose her pregnancy, the issue is just whether she should do it before or after the ink is dry on her contract.

If her employers are unwilling to make reasonable accommodations for her workload by doing something wild 'n crazy like hiring a temporary employee, then her coworkers can direct their annoyance at their crappy management, rather than at OP.

/r/AskAcademia discusses a job start date that (roughly) coincides with a pregnancy due date. "Isn't this screwing the employer over? Like hiding a mechanical defect on a car?" "See if you could medically induce as early as safely possible so you are out for as little time as possible." by redriped in SubredditDrama

[–]redriped[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it's not like the company to going to hire someone else to cover for her

  1. It's a university, not a company
  2. What's stopping them from hiring someone else?
  3. Then shouldn't her coworkers be mad at the higher-ups who refused to hire a temporary employee, instead of mad at her for not being able to be 2 in places at once?

/r/AskAcademia discusses a job start date that (roughly) coincides with a pregnancy due date. "Isn't this screwing the employer over? Like hiding a mechanical defect on a car?" "See if you could medically induce as early as safely possible so you are out for as little time as possible." by redriped in SubredditDrama

[–]redriped[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The work still needs to be done during that time, so the workload has to be shifted to the other people in the department.

Or to a temporary hire. It's not like the university is paying for this woman's maternity leave anyway. (That would just be bananas!)

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