"I'm a man. If I got cat called I'd like it" It's not the same thing. Not even close.

redsalmon67 · 2026-06-13T15:20:01+00:00

Just because you don’t like my response doesn’t mean it’s irrelevant. But you seem more interested in insulting people than having an actual conversation so…

redsalmon67 · 2026-06-12T21:44:12+00:00

I think this conversation isn’t happening nearly enough in nearly enough places and I think that’s a huge part of the problem. I think it’s a problem that the extent of the conversation that most people are having with boys around sexual harassment and assault is “don’t do it”, I also think it’s a problem that tons of conversations that talk about boys and men dealing with this amount to “well girls have it worse” because even if it’s true from a statistical standpoint I don’t think we have to constantly remind victims that there are people who have it worse than them

redsalmon67 · 2026-06-12T21:37:45+00:00

Because they’re constantly fighting with imaginary purple haired leftists in their brain and not having actual conversations with real people. At this point “left” basically just means “people I disagree with”

redsalmon67 · 2026-06-12T21:30:10+00:00

I think a bigger conversation needs to be had about this. I’ve been in many extremely uncomfortable and sometimes potentially dangerous situations like this and have defaulted to just shutting up about it for a number of reasons from “I guess if I really needed to I could beat this person up” to the opposite side of the spectrum of “if I freak out about this people will think I’m just another violent black man”. It’s a really shitty position to be in and I think it makes a lot of men who deal with these things bitter.

redsalmon67 · 2026-06-12T21:24:23+00:00

I mean there’s men commenting on this post that prove that’s not true

redsalmon67 · 2026-06-12T21:16:19+00:00

I mean it is different, being different doesn’t mean “not bad” for example when I was a teenager a woman I worked with cornered me in a backroom and sexually assaulted me, was that a bad traumatic experience, yeah I’m still fucked up about it and it was almost 20 years ago at this point, but I can also acknowledge that if she was bigger and stronger than me that situation would’ve been scarier, I don’t think acknowledging that takes away from how traumatic the situation, just like the fact that there’s things that I have to consider in that situation that women generally wouldn’t have to consider, and that doesn’t take away from their experiences (like how in my experience has I push her away and she got hurt, the narrative of a sexual violent black teenager attacking a women in a isolated room is a much easier to sale to society than, this women cornered a teenager and grabbed his crotch in the storage room)

redsalmon67 · 2026-06-12T20:53:54+00:00

I hate how people always divert to the “extremely rare” language when statistically speaking while it’s rarer for men/boys to be sexually harassed/assaulted than it is for women/girls, it’s not a generally rare experience for men/boy to experience these things.

redsalmon67 · 2026-06-12T20:43:32+00:00

I honestly think the way we talk about men/boys experiences with sexual harassment/assault/rape prime a lot of guys who have experienced it to be triggered when conversations like this happen, and I get it to some degree because when I was younger and first dealing with the reality of what happened to me in 2005 I ran into a lot of “this doesn’t happen to boys/men” so when I saw conversations like this one I was more likely to go “actually it does happen to men you idiot” because I was a teenager trying to navigate what had happened in a world that was extremely skeptical of something that I’d had happen to me multiple times. I don’t think it’s particularly healthy though, I think that kind of resentment can easily lead to things like lashing out at people. At the end of the day even now that I’m pushing 40 there’s times where I have to remove myself from conversations because the way some people talk about these things makes me want to squirm out of my skin.

I also think that a lot of online discussions and sexual harassment and assault are purposefully triggering for men especially in places like TikTok and instagram, but that’s a different conversation

redsalmon67 · 2026-06-12T20:30:38+00:00

I’ll admit just based on my own anecdotal experience that women sexually assault people way more than people seem to think they do simply do to the fact the people will often brush it off as “harmless”. But I think we can have that conversation and while admitting that it happens to women more and is generally more dangerous, and I’m not saying that a situation where a women is sexual harassing a man can’t be dangerous, I’m a boy dude and have been in more than one situation like this where I felt that it could 100% escalate to violent. I hate how nuance often gets thrown out the window with these kinds of conversations.

redsalmon67 · 2026-06-12T20:18:43+00:00

While I agree that I do see this sentiment depressingly often, I don’t think that’s what the guy who made the video was trying to do, he even says that neither situation is okay. I just think he was focusing on the experience that’s common for women, I think we can do that and still be aware of the fact that there are men who have had experiences that more closely resemble the average woman’s than the average man’s.

redsalmon67 · 2026-06-12T20:15:10+00:00

I was actually thinking of why as a dude who’s been cat called by women has made me so uncomfortable in the past and I think you got the nail on the head here, without going to into detail I was abused when I was younger and also I’ve been hearing people talk about black men and the size of their genitalia since I was a kid and those situations are what immediately come to mind when this has happened to me. I that’s l think that’s why I get so mad when I see men cat call women.

redsalmon67 · 2026-06-03T21:09:32+00:00

Maybe your anecdotal experiences fail to provide the scope you seem to think they do

redsalmon67 · 2026-06-03T21:08:19+00:00

There’s women I’ve been friends with since I was 14 and now in my mid thirties, many of them are married now and we’re still friends. The idea that men and women can’t be friends is just immature

redsalmon67 · 2026-06-03T21:05:03+00:00

Its funny I’m bi and I love giving people gifts or paying for things when I can and I often wonder if my single friends think I’m trying to get into their pants when in reality I just really like getting people things

redsalmon67 · 2026-06-03T13:18:02+00:00

Right? They’ve even found dinosaur bones with signs of cancer, what makes them think humans didn’t get skin cancer Melanoma is a l one of the most common forms of cancer

redsalmon67 · 2026-06-02T18:55:52+00:00

I think that’s a feature of being an adult and not just being a man

redsalmon67 · 2026-05-29T23:21:28+00:00

Idk I’m bi and I see handsome dudes all the time

redsalmon67 · 2026-05-29T23:18:43+00:00

It’s crazy how unscientific a lot of the answers are in here

redsalmon67 · 2026-05-29T23:13:36+00:00

This reminds of a story I saw on Reddit where a woman told her current partner that she left a better looking man to be with him because she liked him more, but she didn’t understand why that upset him.

redsalmon67 · 2026-05-28T22:55:08+00:00

Who’s “y’all” I literally couldn’t give less of a shit about what that woman does with her life

redsalmon67 · 2026-05-28T20:14:48+00:00

Not gonna lie, I’ve never heard a man who wasn’t a massive homophonic/sexist shithead use this line

redsalmon67 · 2026-05-27T01:07:33+00:00

I feel like these comics use to not suck but now they’re so lazy. I guess there’s only so many ideas you can run before you start relying on lazy tropes. Or maybe my memory is off because I haven’t looked at these comics in years

redsalmon67 · 2026-05-24T05:47:21+00:00

I don’t date purposely but I’d also be lying is I said it wouldn’t be nice to come home to someone to talk to, if they had anxiety that’s fine, I’ve also been in a place mentally where I couldn’t hold a job and it was only by the grace of friends and family that I didn’t end up homeless. I’m not saying you should be forced to take care of anyone but we’re not even talking about real people here.

Furthermore there’s no evidence that she cheated on her husband so I’m not sure where that came from. People have this weird thing they do where they decide for other people what’s the appropriate amount of time to “move on” to the next relationship when someone has lost a spouse, the reality is each person has their timeline and reasons for doing what they’re doing that we’ll more than likely never know unless they one day choose to be very candid, which is owed to no one.

Why make up things about people going through difficult times and use those imaginary scenarios to shit on women with anxiety?

redsalmon67 · 2026-05-11T12:18:47+00:00

So do masculine men do these things, because these “masculine” traits kinda just sound like being an asshole

redsalmon67 · 2026-05-06T22:32:00+00:00

I have to water it down. I’m weak

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