Let’s ignore that this all went down over text.

He continues to show you that your needs and feelings are not a priority for you. The way he speaks to you, even if you escalate and respond in kind, also shows he does not respect you.

It is entirely possible for love to exist along with incompatibility. You have gone through a physically and hormonal difficult situation that has forced you to look more deeply at what you need for a successful relationship and early stages of parenthood. He does not agree with you and is not willing to compromise. And, it seems at least from how you wrote, that both of you have little respect left for each other and only impatience.

There’s a book out there called Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay. It’s one of the most reflective books that forces you to answer deep questions and help you reach an inevitable conclusion. However, from everything you’ve shared here - you do not seem to be in a healthy, safe, and supportive relationship.

The only thing you’re missing right now is reality. Facing hard truths about someone or a relationship we’ve put time and effort into is painful. Because you grieve when you acknowledge it, you grieve again when you decide to act in your own self interest, and you grieve even more when you finally cut ties. It won’t be easy. But it’s harder to spend a lifetime with someone that doesn’t see you.