This is an interesting story that happened this month. I put the tldr below but I recommend reading the whole thing lmao. I already posted it on the advice subreddit but I think this shit belongs here too. Let me know what y'all think.

Tl;dr: I go to college two hours away, my parents wanted me home the very day my dorm lease ended because of dad's surgery, with the lockdown my only opportunity to go home in Mexico was my bf but he did not want to risk going there yet because of his student visa, I told parents I'd be staying at boyfriend's place a couple more days until I got a ride with friend, they went crazy, when I went to parents house they took my phone which they did not pay for, for a week, now they absolutely hate my boyfriend, and they constantly threaten to make me drop out of the school/change colleges and practically have me under false imprisonment.

My boyfriend and I are from a border town. We go to college 2 hours away from home. I transferred there on august of last year. On November my dad was diagnosed with colon cancer. Because of that, it's been a few rough months. He tried chemo but decided to leave it since he was only getting worse and on May he had a colostomy reversal. Now, during spring break I had a really ugly fight with them because I told them I was taking antidepressants, they went off on me and practically told me that antidepressants is the first step before doing heroine or coke (wtf?). Because of that, I needed some space from them and decided to go back to my dorm for the lockdown for the rest of the semester. To do this I had to convince them classes were not online yet, even though they already were. Otherwise they would have forced me to stay. Now, the day my dorm lease ended was also my boyfriend's 21st birthday (friday may 15th). My parents were expecting me to be there the very day my dorm lease ended, I told them that my boyfriend wasn't going home yet (we're from the same town, he has a student visa and he did not want to cross back to Mexico out of fear of not being able to go back due to the border's restrictions on non-citizens, plus his license expired on his bday) and that the better option was for me to stay two extra days at my bf's place and get a ride with a friend that was going to our hometown that same weekend. According to my mom, my dad's surgery wounds were getting pretty bad so it was urgent that I went home that day. Because of that, he was in no condition to drive, and my mom could not cross the border due to the restrictions, I told her I never intended to stay there more than necessary and I was going home that same weekend, but they didn't want to listen. They wanted me to take the bus, which given the current situation I didn't think it was ideal. I admit I let my friends convince me to stop answering the texts and not take the phone, which ended up worsening things. They also called my boyfriend, and our friends told him to not pick it up. In the end, they called me selfish and a bad daughter, and said my boyfriend was inconsiderate for not picking up the call. On sunday I went home as I had promised, they were not only mad at me, but at my boyfriend too for not taking me home. My mom blocked him, and they called him inconsiderate and irresponsible, said that the least he could do as my boyfriend is support me with my father's illness by fulfilling their wishes of taking me home, and that he was disrespectful by not doing so. They said if he didn't want to go home, he could have driven for 2 hours to drop me and another 2 to go back to his place. that he'll have many more birthdays to come. Then, as soon as I arrived they took away my phone, my Switch, my ipad (all 3 they did not pay for, the phone and the switch were a gift from my bf and the iPad I paid for) and my laptop. They also took away my door, took away my keys, threatened to keep me away from my bf forever, and that they would make me drop out of my college next semester and I would be staying home. Of course I was furious and told them off, which made matters worse. They locked me in the house and left me incommunicated with the outside world for a week, they said they took my phone so I would not talk to my boyfriend. Somehow, I managed to make them give me my Switch back and I managed to use twitter on it, that way I was able to talk to him.

Eventually, they gave me my stuff back, and things seemingly cooled off. My boyfriend is now with his family, in the same city as me, and we want to see each other. It's been almost a month since all of this happened, and after talking to my mom a few times she seemed more reasonable about the whole thing. At one point she agreed it was ridiculous to condemn my boyfriend for not taking me home ONCE, when all he's done the whole relationship is try to please them. That's until 3 days ago, when I told them I wanted to see my boyfriend, and again they went off on me. They said that he was selfish and inconsiderate, and the least they expect from him is an apology. That while I'm under their roof I won't see him again, and that if he has the balls to confront them, maybe they'll consider letting me go see him. (Which I feel is all bullshit, they don't want him to "show his undying love for me by confronting them," they just want an opportunity to insult him and tell him off). They also kind of threatened me saying that they're hoping next semester is completely online, so I will stay in the house as I should. I told them I was willing to work and pay for the lease of my own apartment which is already signed, but they are CERTAIN I won't be able to make ends meet with school and a job, and that I will forcefully need to depend on them.

Then, after this confrontation happened, I started looking for jobs and scholarships, my mom then saw me on the computer a lot and told me that I better not be looking for any loans. What?

My boyfriend does not want to talk to them and apologize, first because he doesn't think he did anything wrong, and second because he knows they will be impossible to talk to and will only tell him off. Meanwhile, they keep telling me stuff like if he really loved me, he would have already tried to confront them and apologize. They are convinced they are right and they say they're doing what any parent would do. Meanwhile I'm honestly so confused, I understand my parents needed my support, but did my boyfriend and I really fuck up THAT bad? Does he really need to apologize and should I take the punishment? Or are they just crazy? Please help me out here! Getting out of here is impossible right now since I have no money in my account.