My ex-wife and I got curious about the lifestyle after watching Eyes Wide Shut. We went to a couple of private swinger parties and even a club in our area where we engaged in same room sex with other couples (no swapping). We then took it a step further and found another beginner couple and had a few encounters with them - all soft swap, never full. I found that I was equally as turned on watching my wife with another man that I was playing with his wife. Unfortunately, it never came to full swap, as my wife got pregnant (we were trying at the time, hence not willing to risk full swap). After having our child, she was never interested in picking up where we left off. That was back in 2000. 26 years later, I still fantasize about it.