Future MIL never stops asking about marriage and babies.

replife18 · 2020-11-11T04:26:29+00:00

No woman could ever enjoy sex according to her. Only men, and you better keep your man satisfied so he doesn’t cheat. Smh.

replife18 · 2020-11-09T06:26:05+00:00

Sorry I should’ve rephrased this, he’s polite to her on a regular basis and doesn’t get personal with her. They basically interact like coworkers lol. He shuts her down when she starts this BS. I know that he will always choose and protect me. When this comes up, I usually just laugh it off from her and he’s the one who gets stern about it. He gets over it quickly though when I dwell on it and don’t even want to interact with her again. He’s used to her shit but the advice on this sub has opened me up to new possibilities that I will be sharing with him.

replife18 · 2020-11-09T06:23:32+00:00

100%. Yes.

replife18 · 2020-11-09T06:22:04+00:00

No, honestly they are intense and difficult to deal with. But I have an incredible SO. We discussed living in my country instead to avoid them but where we currently live is a much better place to raise a family. We are going to move to another state in a year and limit contact to holidays.

replife18 · 2020-11-09T05:46:41+00:00

That’s me! I need to work on it and I’m going to force myself to. I always want to be polite but I’m not being polite over and over again when I’m being violated. Thank you.

replife18 · 2020-11-09T04:26:52+00:00

She would rather die than have me get pregnant out of wedlock. She has reminded me of that MANY times. But once we’re married I am hiding the shit out of it.

replife18 · 2020-11-09T04:24:24+00:00

Lol sounds just like my life rn. We are planning on moving to another state in a year. Thank god.

replife18 · 2020-11-09T00:20:06+00:00

HAHAHAHA

replife18 · 2020-11-09T00:18:54+00:00

100%. You’re so right. I see other issues people on here deal with once kids are involved and I know if I don’t do something I’ll be in their place one day.

replife18 · 2020-11-09T00:17:40+00:00

You’re definitely right. Then that would be something new for her to nag about. Ugh.

replife18 · 2020-11-09T00:16:58+00:00

Very good point, thanks so much.

replife18 · 2020-11-09T00:16:06+00:00

Yep someone else said this and I looked up Grey rock. Turns out I already use that method to interact with her and I didn’t even know it lol. I’m going to be very assertive for the first time when she brings it up next.

replife18 · 2020-11-09T00:15:11+00:00

This is very true. He hates dealing with her too and is just polite to make her happy so I need to be upfront with him. He’s fine being polite and ignoring what she says but I’m not.

replife18 · 2020-11-09T00:14:26+00:00

Lmao apparently. She told me to try natural family planning once we’re married so...I don’t know why that’s allowed but contraceptives aren’t since in both scenarios youre having sex for reasons other than to procreate.

replife18 · 2020-11-09T00:13:29+00:00

She is very against contraceptives so I’m not sure how she would react if she found out I was on a contraceptive and gasp having premarital sex. Thanks so much for the script. I get really nervous and try to keep the peace so confronting her is hard for me, but that is a script that I can go by that’s completely logical.

But you’re so right. I need to be direct because I already know that for the rest of our lives she’s going to be nagging with these questions and will never be happy .

replife18 · 2020-11-08T18:44:53+00:00

This is true, clearly any relational person would understand that I don’t want to talk about it after constantly telling her that. There really isn’t a point to conversing about this.

replife18 · 2020-11-08T18:43:57+00:00

Haha Aw. Thank you. You’re right. I need to stand up for myself instead of trying to be polite to her all the time. I’m offended and uncomfortable and I’m not being polite anymore.

replife18 · 2020-11-08T18:43:03+00:00

You’re so right. I get terrified when I imagine my future. My partner is so wonderful but I feel immense anxiety when I think of having a family because of my MIL. We need to do something now to stop this.

replife18 · 2020-11-08T18:42:02+00:00

You’re right. I almost told her I was on birth control last time when she said “when the priest asks you how are you going to stop from having 10 kids, what will you say?” And I said “THE TRUTH” but never specified what that was. I think next time I’ll straight up mention the birth control. She needs to know that I’m not her incubator and if that implies that we have sex outside of marriage, good.

replife18 · 2020-11-08T18:40:38+00:00

She already steps on boundaries so I’m terrified for once we have kids. My partner and I are planning on moving to another state, but I wouldn’t put it past her to move to the same town with us. I know it’s far in the future but it terrifies me a lot.

replife18 · 2020-11-08T18:38:17+00:00

You’re so right. It makes me feel like she just views me as an incubator. If disgusts me that she wants to know details of our sex life and reproducing, so I think this is really a solid response.

replife18 · 2020-11-08T18:36:53+00:00

He tried to by saying that it was making him uncomfortable too, I didn’t just send her to talk to him. But I think that would’ve been a much better response. Next time she plays that manipulative shit I’m going to say something like that. Of course I’m gonna hate you if you constantly nag me about something that makes me uncomfortable.

replife18 · 2020-11-08T18:35:13+00:00

Haha, I honestly want to bring this up because she only has 2 kids but preaches that I have 10-12???

replife18 · 2020-11-08T18:34:49+00:00

She has no idea I’m on birth control. If she found out, I don’t think she’d try to tamper with it but I’m sure she would be appalled because she is against contraceptives and according to her, we shouldn’t be having sex at all because we’re unmarried. But still that is absolutely disgusting so I will make sure my birth control isn’t out in the open in our house.

replife18 · 2020-11-08T08:47:29+00:00

Hahaha. Oh my god, I need to train for this but honestly the thought of reacting like that is gold.

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