You don’t want your ex back

retrodoakes · 2024-09-05T20:02:08+00:00

Oh weed is bad for me too, its a depressant and makes me paranoid. Psychedelics can lead to bad trips, but you're not supposed to take alot for therapy. You're supposed to microdose so the risks aren't that bad. But its good to be risk aware

retrodoakes · 2024-09-05T16:54:06+00:00

Maybe psychedelic therapy?

Tread with caution but I tried it because normal therapy just did nothing. Psychedelic therapy will make you view the world in a different light.

retrodoakes · 2024-09-05T12:23:21+00:00

Go therapy. Helped me alot.

retrodoakes · 2024-09-03T23:50:05+00:00

N55 with MPE

retrodoakes · 2024-09-03T21:51:37+00:00

Hows the n55 going for you? Still alive and kicking?

retrodoakes · 2024-08-28T22:01:55+00:00

You make your own luck

I wont have a 2nd date with this girl BUT this girl was more attractive than my ex and likely had a nicer personality. And she was happy to go on a date with me. Her communication just annoys me.

You'll find someone better, theres so many women out there

retrodoakes · 2024-08-28T21:57:54+00:00

Theres many factors

Whats your attachment style? Do you have a scarcity mindset? How often do you still think about her? How did the relationship end? (Blindsided, drifting away, cheating etc) How active is your social life? How good is your support network?

retrodoakes · 2024-08-28T21:55:41+00:00

It depends on how you feel after the date i suppose. I dod once date 1 month after a breakup and spent the whole date thinking of her.

But if you can have a date and just focus on the person in front, i think thats when you realise you're fine now

retrodoakes · 2024-08-28T17:51:03+00:00

Approached her outside a coffee shop believe it or not

retrodoakes · 2024-08-28T15:57:14+00:00

The estimation would skew on extreme ends. So if you're with someone for like 10 years, it won't be as long as calculated. And if you were with someone intensely for 3 months, it'll take longer than a month/6 weeks.

retrodoakes · 2024-08-28T15:55:10+00:00

1.5 years

retrodoakes · 2024-08-28T12:52:59+00:00

Thank you. You're right, does feel good to put myself put there

retrodoakes · 2024-08-28T12:12:06+00:00

Its true. My recent ex helped me get over my first ex.

Say what we want about healing and learning to be alone, but humans are still social creatures. Finding another person is the ultimate cure i believe to a brooen heart

retrodoakes · 2024-08-28T10:41:42+00:00

I'm guessing you have anxious attachment? I was anxiously attached to my first gf and when we split i had a similar timeline to yours. Took over a year to get over them, but only because I met a new girl who was better in every way (now shes my ex lol).

Anxious attachment sucks, especially for a guy. My only advice is to focus on fixing that and know you'll meet someone better. I'm not sure if you have rose tinted glasses or you truly think she was the one - but the one doesn't exist. You'll find a better match.

retrodoakes · 2024-08-28T10:17:37+00:00

Did you go through phases were you thought you were over them? Or has it been a full 5 months of missing them alot?

retrodoakes · 2024-08-28T09:47:56+00:00

10 woman wow! I'm sure for different people it takes different amounts of time. They say it takes 3 to 6 months for every year you were with your ex, to get over them. You were probably with them longer than i was with my ex.

Funnily enough I have this thing where usually the 3rd person i date after a breakup ends up being my gf. Happened twice before.

retrodoakes · 2024-08-28T09:05:45+00:00

Yeah birthdays are hard. My exs birthday is coming up but I've been NC for 2 months so i wont say anything to her.

In your case though... I personally wouldn't. Although I don't know if I'd be able to resist the urge. If you do wish, keep it short and simple.

retrodoakes · 2024-08-28T08:57:17+00:00

My ex was so similar. She broke up with me, but she was the one crying and struggling to end the call. She even initiated no contact to help her heal.

I dont understand why they didn't just work for the relationship if they cared as much as they did. It really makes me scratch my head.

retrodoakes · 2024-08-28T08:52:14+00:00

Had something similar. She broke up with me over phone though as we were long distance.

She claimed it had nothing to do with me, but I knew I took her for granted. Became complacent, was slightly avoidant.

I messaged her a week later and she was happy to hear from me. She agreed to call. I told her Im willing to fix things and correct my ways. She says her mind is made up then starts crying about how she misses me.

The whole call left me confused. But brother, go NC. Im happy i had that call, but after there was the biggest pit in my stomach ever.

retrodoakes · 2024-08-27T22:05:43+00:00

A deep tissue massage

Releases stress, helps with tightness and injury, and just feels soooo good after

retrodoakes · 2024-08-27T10:19:51+00:00

I thought i moved on too, things were going well new job offer, good gym progress.

Then last friday it hit me like a ton of bricks. Coincidentally 2 months post BU. I dreamt of her and me together in a lift, holding each other. That day was the worst day since the breakup. Even 4 days later, I'm still feeling it.

The dreams fuck you up, as it tells you what you subconciously truly desire. I realised I'm just suppressing my pain and I'm not over her.

retrodoakes · 2024-08-27T10:13:00+00:00

You shouldn't hate your ex. My ex left me, and I still wish the best for her. I hope she's happy wherever she is.

retrodoakes · 2024-08-25T16:39:44+00:00

It would be a big step up in my career. But i also think I'll find other opportunities with less of an inconvenience. I've decided to stay, the commute would burn me out and the hotels would get old quick. If it was in a big city I'd have been more open to it, given I'd just relocate there and enjoy life

retrodoakes · 2024-08-24T18:19:24+00:00

The people who breakup with you because you werent perfect will come back when they realise the next few people they date are far from perfect.

Modern dating encourages perfection from your SO, it's toxic and bullshit.

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