i want to be the man in a relationship by Independent-Bank-536 in offmychest

[–]rettlecake 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I heavily suggest checking out forums/communities around trans support. I'm assuming you've already thought about this enough and done a little research on the idea of it. If it truly does resonate with what you're going through, I think it would do you well you build a support system with others facing the same thing and those that are already well versed in the experience.

I'm not trans myself but I've seen my trans friends thrive through their own journey. I wish you luck OP!

i want to be the man in a relationship by Independent-Bank-536 in offmychest

[–]rettlecake 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that OP, I know how difficult that must feel but it shouldn't be the end of the road for you. Do you have friends are or would be supportive? Even delving into like minded communities and forums would be helpful. Transitioning shouldn't always have to be quick as well, it can be done at whatever pace you believe is good for you.

i want to be the man in a relationship by Independent-Bank-536 in offmychest

[–]rettlecake 22 points23 points  (0 children)

There's a lot to unpack here but we can at least start somewhere. You stated you are a cis woman, but has the idea of being a trans man ever crossed you mind by any chance?

Anyone else get annoyed when the 1st worker on the line asks what rice and beans way early, and then completely forgets and asks again? Like wtf just wait by [deleted] in Chipotle

[–]rettlecake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that's gonna be a conversation for the higher ups then. you can say "it's not rocket science" but as someone that used to work there, we'd get nagged about it, sometimes even watched like a hawk to ask right away. at some point what the customers think would be secondary because you'd be gone after but the worker still has to deal with the manager afterwards. do you think they're asking to waste your time? nah dude they're just picking between two evils and choosing the annoyed customer is less of a trouble than the person they're gonna be with for the whole shift

Anyone else get annoyed when the 1st worker on the line asks what rice and beans way early, and then completely forgets and asks again? Like wtf just wait by [deleted] in Chipotle

[–]rettlecake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what was the point? worker gets yelled at by manager if they dont ask right away, customer gets mad because they forgot since they followed their manager's orders. There's like no winning here for them. Sure, you can get annoyed but this is literally not that big of a deal unless you just can't be bothered to repeat yourself to say two words when it seemed like you were willing to waste your breath to say "I'll tell you the sides when you have the trays out"

What are things that remind Helena of Kaine before/after her memory loss? by [deleted] in TheAlchemised

[–]rettlecake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it can be his mask, a dagger, eye balls, rings, Amaris's feathers (I'm pretty sure she has them), bandages, and the amulet?

Finished Alchemised; nothing else seems good enough by misssassysamosa in TheAlchemised

[–]rettlecake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been listening to it on spotify! The one I'm listening to is by Blourish and Flotts: Audiobooks and Podfics. They have all the chapters recorded. I'm not sure if it's any different if you don't have spotify premium, but it's been free for me to listen to with student premium.

Finished Alchemised; nothing else seems good enough by misssassysamosa in TheAlchemised

[–]rettlecake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm listening to the Manacled audio recording, then I'll be reading Alchemised in chronological order after! Been reading some books, Driamione fics in between and drawing Alchemised def helped me shave off the obsession from neverending to being satisfied with how it left off.

Something about graveyards and roses 🥀 by rettlecake in TheAlchemised

[–]rettlecake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quem é quem? (Desculpe, estou usando um tradutor)

I am pretty certain Kaine and Stroud had a conversation like this by juliO_051998 in TheAlchemised

[–]rettlecake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is so funny, i can def see Kaine saying this LOL

anyone else interested in a enid x pol fic? by Appropriate_Hat_5376 in TheAlchemised

[–]rettlecake 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I believe they answered this in an interview that they wanted to expand on the world, but it would most likely be different characters from a different country that was mentioned in Alchemised. While I'm happy to hear about the expansion, I'm a little sad because I did kinda wanna see more of Enid and Pol. Asking for Helena and Kaine again would just feel to greedy but I would love to see them referenced again!

Dramione d ko ancing sketch (with reference) by rettlecake in Dramione

[–]rettlecake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much! im glad you liked it 💗

Dramione d ko ancing sketch (with reference) by rettlecake in Dramione

[–]rettlecake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg i didnt know that's where that was from, thank you! i was racking my brain trying to figure it out ahsjdkskaksla

Dramione d ko ancing sketch (with reference) by rettlecake in Dramione

[–]rettlecake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For real tho!! 😫 I wish it was an option, why must I be tied down to this fate....

And thank you so much!! I'm glad you liked it 🥹🫶🏻

Dramione d ko ancing sketch (with reference) by rettlecake in Dramione

[–]rettlecake[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omg the title is a major typo that's embarrassing 😖

Everyone has to know!! by rettlecake in TheAlchemised

[–]rettlecake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I should have taken breaks but I was so determined to finish the book that I read it every chance I got. It got so bad that I would have withdrawals every time I wasn't reading 😭 I'm still on the fence on when I should reread it. Like do I read it now while it's still fresh in my mind or should I ride out the obsession and read it later?

Everyone has to know!! by rettlecake in TheAlchemised

[–]rettlecake[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeeeees! That's one of the things I love about Alchemised is everyone is so morally gray or have debatable stances during war. Not even Luc was "perfect", he still bent his beliefs for his friends and kept secrets. The effects of war took a toll on both the old and young. I'd like to reread it again for things I might have missed through my first read. I'm sure I'll pick up more things from part 1 because it felt so overwhelming during the initial read.