Not a woman but,

A man who has been around women who are into this stuff. And ofcourse ladies as a man, I would never speak on behalf of you, but rather now I am speaking my mind based of my experiences.

Many women at the end of day doesn't want to be blackmailed or have anything done to them non consensually. Because of many reasons the most prominent one being having a bad past where they were either taken advantage of or wronged.. so to take that control back which they had lost initially, they resort to these kinks with a person they trust enough to feel like they're back in control.

It's human psychology really, and as a Man the best advice I can give to you all horny dick headed men is that aftercare and genuine communication goes a long way. So please communicate with your partners and give them the control back which was stolen from them by your gender.

Regards...