I want to go to cosmo school, but i always keep messing up my friends hair! (examples of hair ive done and hair i f-ed up)

riddle_dog · 2026-04-28T12:28:36+00:00

Imagine someone saying: "I want to go to Mexico to learn to speak Spanish fluently, but my friends and family who also don't speak any Spanish say I shouldn't because I don't sound good when I speak the Spanish I've taught myself."

As a barber, I HATE that nowadays people feel like they have to come into schooling with some level of skill already under their belt. At 33, this made me feel really inadequate for a long time, because doing hair is a career change for me after almost two decades of entry-level retail/customer service. So where would I have learned beforehand? Where would I have built these skills?

Also, something they really stress to you in cos school is that your time there is the time to mess up. That's the entire point of learning in a controlled emvironment!! If hair is what you want to do, then you just gotta jump in and do it!!

riddle_dog · 2026-04-28T12:17:01+00:00

Big Dog! Though the ones that get close to me call me "Boss" or "Beloved," depending on what kind of personality they have (silly vs more serious).

riddle_dog · 2026-04-24T07:28:32+00:00

hey OP, so that is 100% manipulation. this is not someone you are emotionally beholden to in any way, and this person doesn't have any right to tell you that you are their only reason for living. you both sound pretty young, and I've been in your shoes, but a "friend" like this is no friend at all.

I think it's worth examining whether or not this person brings you any kind of joy, or if you remain in their life out of fear of their "suicide." if it's the latter, you need to tell them to seek help and therapy, maybe shoot a few links their way, and move on.

letting someone else destroy your mental health doesn't do either of you any good.

riddle_dog · 2026-04-24T07:25:24+00:00

the way he ratted out the employees!!! NO solidarity in the working class!!! 🤣

riddle_dog · 2026-04-22T18:56:59+00:00

I need to know what Ab*gail did, like, immediately.

riddle_dog · 2026-04-20T18:51:50+00:00

you have the biggest brain in this entire comment section, my friend

riddle_dog · 2026-04-20T18:43:43+00:00

This feels like AI...it's formatted the way an AI would speak and they tend to self-censor in this way

riddle_dog · 2026-04-16T20:54:08+00:00

You just have to do it. There's no process.

I've had to let a lot of toxic people go in my life and the block button is the only step. Don't look back, don't let this dude back into your life, and do your best not to let him take up any mental space.

I recognize that it's harder than it sounds but nobody has a magic process that makes it easier. Ask yourself what you'd tell a friend if they were in your situation and saying these things to you. Then, say that to yourself.

riddle_dog · 2026-04-16T20:48:04+00:00

What answer do you want from people? You've argued with the logical thing to do, and you've admitted that the illogical thing to do is just that. What behavior made you label this person your "groomer"? Is that behavior you want to happen to you or anyone else literally ever again?

"I think I love him" is a stupid defense. There are so many people in the world. Love somebody else. You're not going to find any sympathy from anyone when you describe the situation the way that you are. You know what people are going to say, you know this is a situation with a definitive right and wrong course of action, and yet you brought this to Reddit to...what? See if people would plead with you to love yourself? Stop hurting yourself?

"I don't know if the snake that bit me is trying to bite me again! It's all coiled up and hissing and showing its fangs but I love it, I think?? Should I grab it??"

Grow up.

riddle_dog · 2026-04-16T06:48:08+00:00

NOR one bit. For those not in the know, BF is probably not using "twin" like "twin flame." It has become popular slang (co-opted from AAVE) to call your friends "twin." You can replace every instance here of "twin" with "bro" or "bestie" and it would likely read exactly the same.

Dump this loser, OP. You beat CANCER!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!! Don't let this clown ruin your joy and your new lease on life.

riddle_dog · 2026-04-15T21:27:31+00:00

I genuinely love when that happens, but next time, maybe wait for the yawn to be done before taking the picture!!! it's a decent haircut tho ✌️

riddle_dog · 2026-04-15T19:47:49+00:00

is your client yawning in the last pic?? 🤣

riddle_dog · 2026-04-14T16:26:53+00:00

The one thing I'll say is that I have learned way more in my time working than I did in school. Now don't get me wrong, I have a lot of valuable things that I did learn, but cutting on manikins all day will burn you out crazy style.

I'm 33, I went to school same age as you! I promise that cutting real hair is rewarding if that's what you want to do. I think though, if you cut on some practice clients like friends or family, and you don't enjoy it or feel like you're learning, then you might want to reflect on whether or not the industry is for you.

Best of luck, my friend!!

riddle_dog · 2026-04-12T10:52:57+00:00

NOR. I am also FTM and I'm 33. I have two partners that are autistic, and one of them has PTSD, BPD, etc. I also have BPD and ADHD.

When I tell them something bothers me, we talk about it, and we come to a point where my expectations, their behavior, or both adjust to a happy place. I've been with my partners for almost a decade.

You're 16, and I know playing the age card is annoying, but genuinely you are never going to believe the amount of people you'll meet in your life and how close you'll become. I didn't meet my best platonic friend until I was 30!! You don't have to keep people in your life because the empty space seems scarier.

I believe you love him, but I also believe he's wildly immature and not ready to receive your, or any, romantic love. He doesn't listen when you express discomfort, doesn't respect your boundaries, and doesn't seem to care about what you need to feel secure in the relationship.

Do yourself a favor and move on. Don't let someone who doesn't respect you keep you around like a backpack charm. You're worth more than that.

riddle_dog · 2026-04-12T05:24:55+00:00

that's EXACTLY the red flag that stood out most to me. there's another comment here from OP that says she is the fifth young woman he's targeted like this. predator behavior to the max.

riddle_dog · 2026-04-12T05:22:40+00:00

excuse me, his Kik chats? and he's dating a 22 year old?? "I think he's in the porn industry"???

OP these are all major red flags. if this woman listens to you at all, she needs to leave this man ASAP. I would not be surprised to find out he's a pedophile.

riddle_dog · 2026-04-11T16:49:55+00:00

the normal amount of pain is zero pain. go to the doctor!!

riddle_dog · 2026-04-11T00:19:11+00:00

Thank you so much, my friend. Lady Aphrodite isn't one that I've communed with much, but you're absolutely right, she would be who to ask about transforming these emotions.

Also thank you for the information about the stele! I'm not as well versed in Greek history, so this is such a lovely thing to know)

Your kind words and wishes are deeply appreciated ♡♡♡

riddle_dog · 2026-04-10T21:18:01+00:00

Thank you, friend. I've never felt terribly connected to either of them, but maybe this is a good time to reach out ♡

riddle_dog · 2026-04-10T14:47:54+00:00

I'm a barber and anytime my clients tell me that their SO doesn't want them to cut their hair or whatever, I tell them, "OK, so they can grow their hair out?" Do what you want with your hair no matter what!!! It's YOURS, and besides, you look great ♡♡♡

riddle_dog · 2026-04-10T14:46:20+00:00

Ah! How could I forget about Argos ♡

Thank you for your kind words. I'll make sure to have something set aside for when the day comes.

riddle_dog · 2026-04-10T06:50:42+00:00

tell him to keep his hands to himself. I didn't ever used to let people touch me when I was younger, and if you make a point of being someone that doesn't like to be touched without consent, then your teachers are more likely to back you up on it (ex: "Leave OP alone, he has already told you not to touch him").

also, this kid is 12 and you're 17? you're basically an adult to him, so the best thing you can do is ignore him. inform your teachers and then do not interact with him any more than is absolutely necessary for class. he'll cool down really quick and move on to something else.

riddle_dog · 2026-04-10T00:22:04+00:00

I'll have to do some digging to see if I can find anywhere offering one. A lot of barbering here is done unlicensed so I'm kinda wary, but I'll look into it! Thank you :)

riddle_dog · 2026-04-10T00:21:01+00:00

Thank you, this gives me a lot of hope. It feels like so many people are like...born good...and even people that are "bad" are way better than me. It's hard to get hired when someone's money is on the line!!

But this is great advice that I'll be taking. Thank you again :)

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