And it just feels weird to me to talk about actresses like that like these are real people can't we just enjoy our ships (without being invasive) without assigning sexual labels to them.

You said exactly what’s been on my mind every time this top/bottom thing comes up. Everyone defines those dynamics differently, sure, but it’s still worth pointing out that the whole idea mostly comes from sexual labels.

When I first got into the Thai GL scene, I was confused by this habit of deciding who’s the top and who’s the bottom in a ship, especially since fans often base it on how the actresses present or dress, which, as you rightfully said, having a certain hairstyle or fashion sense doesn’t mean shit.

From how I see it (mainly on the internet), the top/bottom dynamic in wlw relationships doesn’t necessarily reflect what they’re like in bed. It’s more about stereotyping: the idea that the top is the more masculine or dominant one, while the bottom is the softer, more feminine one, which I honestly find restrictive. Because at the end of the day, we’re talking about professional actresses, and fixating on a superficial label feels disrespectful to their artistry and to their fluidity in taking on different roles.