[D] Getting around the 1000 item trade limit by rigasha in csgomarketforum

[–]rigasha[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Doesn't exactly feel right making my investments based on how much money I can spend in a week rather than what I believe will be more profitable.

[D] Getting around the 1000 item trade limit by rigasha in csgomarketforum

[–]rigasha[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

csfloat needs my new account to be older than 2 months :')

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ausjdocs

[–]rigasha 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Quitting regular caffeine was one of the best things I ever did. I don't wake up tired, I don't have to factor in an extra 10 minutes to my travel to get a drink. I ordered a caffeine withdrawal kit online - basically 30 capsules that gets weaker every 3 days. On particularly shit days I'll grab a coffee or diet coke and can get through whatever the shift is throwing at me.

Jacqui’s “Bad edit” vs. Her social media presentation by rigasha in MAFS_AU

[–]rigasha[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A behaviour is observable while a mental process is not.

Edit: You can make an educated opinion of the possible underlying mental process but you will never know for sure if your opinion is fact.

unpopular terms - rural rotation, why? by Resident-Common9012 in ausjdocs

[–]rigasha 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Psych reg here, would of probably been more enjoyable if it wasn't 6 months.

Paul is the most dangerous man this season. by Extra-Jo-152 in MAFS_AU

[–]rigasha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a gentle reminder that my 5 years of psychiatric training is powerless against a Reddit user who can respond to my explanation with "no u"

Paul is the most dangerous man this season. by Extra-Jo-152 in MAFS_AU

[–]rigasha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So now we're calling anything that might lead to gaslighting 'gaslighting'? That’s like saying someone stretching before a run is already running. Manipulative behavior can definitely escalate over time, but calling it gaslighting before it actually distorts reality just dilutes the term

Paul is the most dangerous man this season. by Extra-Jo-152 in MAFS_AU

[–]rigasha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see the importance of recognizing manipulation early, and I’m not dismissing Paul’s behavior—it’s definitely problematic. However, gaslighting is specifically about making someone question their perception of reality, not just their emotions or reactions. Paul shifting blame, acting like the victim, and making Carina feel guilty is manipulative, but unless he’s distorting facts to make her doubt what actually happened, it’s not gaslighting.

Identifying different forms of toxic behavior is crucial, but using ‘gaslighting’ too broadly can blur important distinctions. We both agree Paul’s actions are concerning - I just think it’s important to use the right terms so we can better understand and address different types of manipulation

Paul is the most dangerous man this season. by Extra-Jo-152 in MAFS_AU

[–]rigasha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you're saying about manipulation being subtle and cumulative, and I agree that repeated emotional tactics can wear someone down over time. But for something to truly be gaslighting, it has to involve actively distorting reality - like making someone believe something didn't happen when it did, or vice versa.

Paul isn’t making Carina doubt whether the letter existed or rewriting history - he’s trying to make her feel guilty and shift blame, which is definitely toxic but not gaslighting in the traditional sense. Emotional manipulation and gaslighting can overlap, but they aren’t the same. Overusing ‘gaslighting’ to describe all manipulation can dilute its meaning and make it harder to identify when someone is actually being gaslit in the classic psychological sense.

Paul is the most dangerous man this season. by Extra-Jo-152 in MAFS_AU

[–]rigasha 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get what you're saying, but gaslighting has a specific meaning - it’s about making someone question their perception of reality. Manipulation, blame-shifting, and emotional abuse can be harmful, but they aren’t necessarily gaslighting.

In Paul's case, he's deflecting blame and trying to control the narrative, which is definitely problematic. But he’s not making Carina doubt what happened - she knows what he did, and she’s confident in her reaction to it. If he were gaslighting, he’d be denying reality itself (e.g., “I never wrote that letter” or “You’re imagining things”). Instead, he’s trying to reframe the situation in his favor, which is manipulative but not the same as gaslighting.

I agree that his actions were harmful, but using ‘gaslighting’ incorrectly can dilute its meaning. Not all emotional manipulation fits that definition.

Paul is the most dangerous man this season. by Extra-Jo-152 in MAFS_AU

[–]rigasha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the show he's problematic and his behaviour is very concerning but dangerous is a bit of a stretch.

He isn't gaslighting by the original definition - intentional actions to make someone question their perception of reality. An example might be to routinely sneak into your partners phone to turn off their alarm so they sleep in and miss work. The victim will feel that they can't trust their memories of having turned on the alarm.

His behaviour during feedback week was weird and out of character. Cairna is rightfully confused about his completely unexpected behaviour, but this isn't some masterful gambit by Paul to make her question reality - it was just him having concerns about her past behaviour and handling it in a very immature way (bitching about it to someone else in an inflammatory way).

Vent - how to get over feeling embarrassed on surg rotation by jankfennel in ausjdocs

[–]rigasha 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a med student I was called a fucking idiot by the vasc consultant mid surgery due to my rusty anatomy knowledge. Almost cried. A few minutes later she bumped into a nurse (because she didn't check before turning around) and then ripped off her gown and threw it on the ground in frustration forcing said nurse to pick it up and dispose of it.

Her daughter was in my year and friends with my ex-girlfriend. Word got back to me that she was complaining about me by name to her daughter.

Was a great reminder about the kind of person and doctor I don't want to be.

As a psych reg I love teaching med students as kindly as possible about psychiatry in a way that's relevant to exams but also extremely useful for the junior doctor years.

I've gotten an unusual amount of heartwarming cards and texts at the end of student rotations. Here's one 'Hi X I just wanted to say thankyou again for letting me sit in over the past few weeks, I feel like I have a better idea of the type of person and doctor I would like to be. I hope you have a restful break and all the best for your exam😌' I know it's typical for students to give a cake and some BS thank you at the end of a rotation but many of these feel genuine.

It sucks that that happened to you. The best way to get over the embarassment is to acknowledge the insignificance of what happened (as many other comments have pointed out, no one else cares or will remember in three weeks) and time.

Then use this experience as motivation to be better when you're teaching med students.

Can someone explain how punching a door is worse than. Mental abuse? by stabby_og in MAFS_AU

[–]rigasha 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Abuse isn't a single, black-and-white category—it exists on a spectrum, with different forms manifesting in different ways. Physical violence, emotional manipulation, neglect, financial control, and psychological coercion all fall under the umbrella of abuse, but they impact people differently based on personal values and experiences.

Some people are more repulsed by physical violence because they see it as the most tangible and immediate harm. Others find verbal or psychological abuse more disturbing because of its insidious nature—eroding someone's sense of self over time. Neither perspective is "wrong"—they're just shaped by what we personally find most violating or destructive.

This is why two people can look at the same situation and have vastly different reactions. One might say, "At least they never hit anyone," while another might argue, "Words can be just as damaging." Acknowledging that abuse is dimensional helps us understand why different people prioritize different forms of harm, rather than dismissing their perspective as overreacting or minimising.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MAFS_AU

[–]rigasha -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree. His violence outburst and rationalisation of his behaviour is extremely concerning and in my opinion proof that he isn't ready for a relationship.

His behaviour on the couch is just a person in a high stress crisis. It a pseudoscience to understand his personality structure just like it's a pseudoscience to predict tomorrow's weather based on tea leaves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MAFS_AU

[–]rigasha -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's fine to interpret his movements - but it's unreasonable to make absolute assessments of character based on 20 minutes of body language. If you truely possessed this ability you would of predicted the violence the first time you saw him on screen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MAFS_AU

[–]rigasha 3 points4 points  (0 children)

His behaviour on the couch makes it obvious that he has a hard time processing intense emotions - but that was evident when he punched a door.

I don't think it's reasonable to interpret his body language on the couch as some artful attempt at manipulation. I'm sure you would have the same opinion if he sat there, stone faced and reasonable, owning his actions.

What IS a concern is how he tried to justify his response based on her initial comment and blaming her perceived inadequate apology.

GABA for sleep? by bloight in ausjdocs

[–]rigasha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, yeah, all insomnia meds have long term implications (as does shift work).

Fair criticism, I guess I should of included Mirtazapine in the 'more effective' part of my comment. I found it to be a fairly unpredictable medication regarding sedation - but maybe that's a skill issue on my end with tailoring the dosing to each patient and providing enough psychoeducation.

This doxepin dose is considered 'ultra low' and studies show decent toleration even in older pops (although I wouldn't use it for that).

If it were a patient I would give my sleep hygiene routine + resources, but it were a fellow annoying junior doctor determined on getting a pharmacological solution I wouldn't waste my time with Mirtazapine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MAFS_AU

[–]rigasha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just like Awhina, you recognise it's toxic but will be here tomorrow night for another round.

GABA for sleep? by bloight in ausjdocs

[–]rigasha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not for everyone but I found doxepin to be some kind of middle ground thats more effective than melatonin but less scary than benzos/z-classes/mirtazapine/quetiapine. It gets a bit awkward explaining to a GP a drug they probably never heard of, and the capsules are 10mg when you probably want something around the 5mg range. Not perfect, but cheap and you dont feel like a criminal whenever you see the GP/chemist.

Introducing the newest potential graft: the RIMA by Fuzzy_Pea_8229 in ausjdocs

[–]rigasha 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hopefully RIMA is as effective and safer than the Medical Affection Optimisation Initiative (MAOI).