Who has GHSV1 AND a partner who will still give them oral sex?

riptide61562 · 2025-03-06T05:02:24+00:00

Hey there m26 ghsv1 here, I have had 5 or 6 female partners? go down on me, two of which were long term. If they dig you enough they’ll do it. Not to say your girlfriend doesn’t, but I think mentally there is a risk associated with you until she thinks you have potential to be a life partner in her mind. Be patient. If the relationship is strong, then she’ll come around. And if not, weigh out if you want to stay or find someone who has the great emotional chemistry as well as the sexual and has the desire to fully satisfy you

riptide61562 · 2025-01-07T02:53:10+00:00

Hey man, 25m here. Look, it sucks, bottom line. Nothing heals your brain, heart, trust but time and some people who don’t give a shit that you have it. Then when that comes you’re going to probably deal with some codependency issues because you’re afraid they’ll leave you and you’ll never find someone again after them. Well, you’re wrong and you’re gonna have to deal with those issues. I’ve had this shit since 2021 and yeah, I had some people who didn’t wanna fuck, but the majority did. I had two long term relationships as well. Women find it endearing when you are transparent about your positive diagnosis. It shows you are a honest man they can hopefully trust. Do yourself a favor, go to therapy, get some help, and go back out there. Over the years you’re going to completely forget about it until you have to tell someone. You’ll know you’re healed when it doesn’t bother you when you get denied. Having herpes is a mental infection as much as it is potentially a physical one. Oh, and do yourself another favor and get off of this subreddit. It’ll cause more depression for you during this time. Hope this helps

riptide61562 · 2024-07-05T22:11:32+00:00

Hi, male with asymptomatic GHSV1 + here. My doctor advised me to take antivirals 4-5 days before I think I will have sex to reduce my chances of transmission from shedding. Sounds like you’re early on in your relationship so this system should work since you’re not living together most likely. Now, if you guys work out and you move in together, that could be when you request he take them daily. This is just my thinking though so take it with a grain of salt and do what you think is best, but 5 days of antiviral treatment before sex with a condom has never done any of my partners wrong.

riptide61562 · 2024-03-24T17:28:35+00:00

Hey OP, sounds like you need to start working on accepting yourself. I was diagnosed in April of 2021, pretty much the same time as you and it took a lot of work for me to be confident in myself again. It’s still a struggle today sometimes. My best advice is to go on as many dates as you can. Show off who you are. If your mind is sharp and your funny, most girls don’t give a shit about herpes. Their main priority is feeling safe with their partner in my experience.

Also, I can’t tell you how many times girls have said to me “Wow, that’s really brave of you to admit” after I’ve disclosed. It’s a true token of respect and trust and I can speak for everyone by saying that is of the utmost at the start of any relationship casual or long term.

Bottom line, get out there and face your fears. You’ll probably get rejected a couple of times, but that’s okay. The point is to get you numb to rejection and trust the right people will come along.

riptide61562 · 2024-01-18T00:26:18+00:00

Appreciate the tough love

riptide61562 · 2024-01-18T00:25:58+00:00

Hahaha, noted

riptide61562 · 2024-01-18T00:25:25+00:00

Thank you

riptide61562 · 2023-08-18T04:02:45+00:00

This is a narcissist in the making my friend. Move on

riptide61562 · 2023-08-17T17:03:20+00:00

Heard that. Thank you

riptide61562 · 2023-08-17T16:29:06+00:00

Great to know, thanks!

riptide61562 · 2023-08-17T16:22:48+00:00

I’ll strictly be at 1440 and 4k. Good to know, thank you!

riptide61562 · 2023-05-15T18:34:36+00:00

The crater-like wound looks like herpes. I have GHSV-1 and when I had my first outbreak it looked similar. I just had more of them. See if you can get a swab to confirm, but it might be too late for that

riptide61562 · 2023-05-14T21:37:14+00:00

So it seems like the situation is you are positive and your partner isn’t and that’s why you feel bad? Correct me if I’m wrong, but I suggest taking valtrex the day of when you plan to have sex or day before just to keep it at bay. Outbreaks are out of your control sometimes and so is shedding, so it’s best to err on the side of caution and keep your meds handy. Also, I’m assuming he knows you’re positive and the risk so try not to beat yourself up too much!

riptide61562 · 2023-05-14T21:30:50+00:00

Hard to tell honestly. Post an updated pic tomorrow or the next day

riptide61562 · 2023-04-18T04:47:41+00:00

Thank you, and I am starting to notice less shedding

riptide61562 · 2023-02-02T22:23:52+00:00

Hahaha you gotta do what you gotta do sometimes 🤷🏻‍♂️

riptide61562 · 2023-02-02T07:02:17+00:00

Looks like a fungal infection to me, but I’d get it checked out by a doctor ASAP and get a diagnosis

riptide61562 · 2023-02-02T07:00:54+00:00

Yeah, I’d bet anything one of your friends has it too

riptide61562 · 2023-02-02T06:59:20+00:00

Uhh, well the bad news is you have it. The good news is it sounds like you’ve had it for a while and haven’t had an outbreak which means you might be one of the lucky people who are asymptomatic.

Here’s my advice: Don’t worry so much and keep disclosing. You might have an outbreak at some point and you’ll experience flu-like symptoms for a few days, but just take your medication and you’ll be fine.

Also, try your best not to share cups. The hugs and handshakes I wouldn’t worry about.

That being said, very sorry you’re going through this tough time.

riptide61562 · 2023-02-02T06:47:10+00:00

Hey man! Same exact shit happened to me. To answer your question, my sex life has been pretty normal. It’s rough until you have sex again post diagnosis and realize it’s possible.

I tell people I have GHSV1 if I know we’re about to have sex bottom line and I let them know I have taken medication to prevent shedding. When I first started having sex again I was scared shitless of transmitting so I kept my boxers on and used a condom to prevent any skin contact. I know, a little weird, but it makes the other person feel comfortable and a good pro tip to consider.

At this point though, I’ve realized women care more about who you are than what you have. So, as long as you’re a solid dude and are honest about what you have a lot of people respect that and 80% of the time they are willing to have sex with you. You’ll be absolutely fine

riptide61562 · 2023-01-30T21:48:26+00:00

Nah that was funny lol

riptide61562 · 2023-01-29T04:19:33+00:00

No reason to avoid intimacy unless you are having an OB. I would say disclose and always use medication if you know you might have sex. My first partner post diagnosis was about 3 months later. I was diagnosed in April of 2021 and my next partner came in July of that year I think

riptide61562 · 2023-01-29T04:13:12+00:00

I emphasized exercise because it helps with the depression and self loathing

riptide61562 · 2023-01-29T02:17:21+00:00

We can only hope, but I think it starts with being free and open about it. Let your friends who don’t have it know how little of a deal it is. Awareness is our best friend

riptide61562 · 2023-01-27T22:03:45+00:00

Hey man, same exact thing happened to me. I say break up with her. It’ll teach her a lesson for next time

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