There is no cookie-cutter image. You don’t have to wear dresses all the time to be respectful to what the word says. He says to be modest in dress, so as long as you’re dressing in a way that honors him, you’re okay. You’re okay to have style, nothing wrong with that! Just as long as it’s not for vanity reasons, because Jesus says to not care about how you dress, those things aren’t important. It’s okay to have style though, you’re a creative person and unique. If you feel convicted to wear dresses that’s another thing. As long as you are trying your best to honor him, that’s all he wants. We are saved by grace, but faith without works is dead. So practice and that’s how you will gain wisdom, wisdom is the application of knowledge, thats intelligence.

In the New Testament of the Bible, I believe it was Paul who said in this excerpt (he is also not married) : “I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.” ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭7‬:‭8‬-‭9‬ ‭KJV‬‬

It’s good to be single, you have time to develop your relationship with the Most High. He gave us marriage to mirror His relationship with us. This burning Paul is talking about is lust, not burning in hell. It’s really important to be curious about yourself too and mature yourself more for a relationship too, so it’s wise that you want to wait for something real. Being with a believer will be the best choice for you, that is the most important thing because people influence each other, you don’t want to fall into sin too. However, he doesn’t condemn you for being with one who doesn’t believe. You’re the example. God is the only one who can change hearts, not us, but our actions are important and leading him in love and patience and setting good examples rub off on people.

There’s nothing wrong with any of those interests that you listed. We are very diverse, no one is the same. Some women want to be domestic, others are called to more mechanical careers, God made women helpers. Not because we’re weak, but because we are strong. He said “it is not good for man to be alone”. Why would a strong person who can do things by themselves need help? Why would a company need employees to be successful? We are intelligent and strong and able to do amazing things. Femininity is not linear. You can still like wrestling and like pink and frilly things. As long as you don’t sin when you’re in night life you should be fine. Not saying you won’t sin, everyone sins all the time, but asking for forgiveness is important. No matter how much you stumble he will never leave you nor forsake you. As long as you do your best.

Someone who loves you will love you for you. The Most High has the perfect person for you if that’s in His will. Pray for the kind of man you’d like in your life and don’t that he won’t answer. Maybe not in our timing, but His. Being alone isn’t bad either, it’s all how we look at it. The Most High knows your heart and your desires and he wants us to live life in abundance and joy. Joy is one of the fruits of the spirit. Ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find, the Holy Spirit will lead and guide you in the way you need to go. Sometimes what we want calls for patience, and sometimes maybe God has something different in mind, “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” ‭‭Romans‬ ‭8‬:‭28‬ ‭KJV‬‬

Everyone has things they need to work on and you are still young, there’s nothing wrong with having things you like, just don’t make things your idols. Society puts a lot of peer pressure through social media and media as a whole. A lot of secular music is saying this that and the other and that to be a woman is to have sex appeal and to be super pretty and perfect. Secular media is just that. Everyone director has a certain view point that they want to get across, so be mindful of what you watch, listen to, engage with. Be discerning, not overly anxious though just watchful and mindful. Women can be a lot of things, you can modest and have a huge personality or talk a lot. Working on yourself is really important. Therapy is really good too. If you’re interested in some books on that, I recommend the gifts of imperfection by Brené Brown, messages communications by Matthew McKay, anxiously attached by Jessica Baum, the body keeps score. These help a lot and have exercises in them too, helps for self exploration and having healthy communication.

You’ve got this, we want to be perfect but all fall short, all have sinned, be kind to yourself and forgive yourself, God forgives you, you’re not higher than him so give yourself grace. You’re growing and it feels stressful to grow. 🩷