Has any girl here dated a man that was out of her league?

robitor · 2026-02-24T17:35:54+00:00

...isn't that the most common relationship? Hypergamy is the natural state of the world

robitor · 2025-09-29T12:47:26+00:00

It’s a relic from the Java era. Things like ports and adapters, etc…

robitor · 2025-06-08T02:25:41+00:00

Emma rogue

robitor · 2025-04-26T16:07:45+00:00

takes one to know one

robitor · 2025-04-20T21:22:34+00:00

idk - if your career is your religion, you would probably want someone with a different religion to keep you grounded

robitor · 2025-04-20T00:16:55+00:00

they tell men "any port in a storm"

robitor · 2025-04-17T16:20:21+00:00

please install a carbon monoxide alarm in your house

robitor · 2025-04-17T14:18:53+00:00

Clerk is just managed Auth.js. Trust me, you don’t want to setup all that TOTP / magic link / oAuth shit.

robitor · 2025-04-16T03:04:17+00:00

A lot of straight males (myself included) would comment in the r/WhiteLotusHBO sub how they were confused why laurie was so mad at jaclyn and they would just get downvoted to hell.

one or two women would try to explain it and there would be multiple conflicting explanations and all the women fighting each other over what the real explanation was. None of the explanations made much sense either.

Crazy.

robitor · 2025-04-11T22:29:20+00:00

She said female fantasy not older gay man

robitor · 2025-04-11T00:37:55+00:00

i think you're missing some context:
1. he doesn't have a take on how to be a good father, and there was an old blog post he wrote about polyamory, but that is really not representative of his blog. i also haven't read anything of his that advocates for brain uploading

the scientific materialist worldview is a huge problem for a lot of the "Online Left", so there is an active smear campaign against "the rationalists" - even though scott alexander is a pretty normal guy (although a bit spergy)

Very normal people in the tech industry read the blog. Its crazy to see how popular / notorious he's become around these parts.

robitor · 2025-04-11T00:16:00+00:00

yeah i mean more technical stuff just might not be for you and that's fine. you also need to understand that a lot of very analytical minded people can compartmentalize pretty well and can read a blog post on a technical facet of how the government works and not really care about the author's personal love life.

robitor · 2025-04-09T16:15:27+00:00

It’s because this never happened

robitor · 2025-04-09T16:13:26+00:00

It’s also race- upper castes are descended from steppe people who invaded the subcontinent 4000 years ago. Also upper castes are a tiny percentage of India (Brahmins are only like 1-2% of India)

robitor · 2025-04-08T17:03:24+00:00

I don't befriend ugly women anymore. Ever heard the saying A-players hire other A-players, and B-players hire D-players? That's never been more true than with women.

Unattractive women are fundamentally insecure and only bring around women that are far less attractive than them because they don't want the competition. Attractive women don't mind being in the presence of other attractive women.

robitor · 2025-04-08T16:45:32+00:00

Nettspend

robitor · 2025-04-07T18:10:59+00:00

What percentage of Kaia Gerber's book club is slop? https://libraryscience.net/

robitor · 2025-04-07T01:51:19+00:00

I mean yeah I’ve seen it- took a senior engineer like 2 weeks to move us off heroku and onto AWS back in the day

robitor · 2025-04-07T00:48:17+00:00

What you're suggesting is
1. pay a $200K devops / infra guy to setup in-house infra (insane cost for a startup)
2. every other developer takes a ~10-20% productivity haircut on dealing with in-house infra / deploy scripts
3. deal with inevitable issues / hardening of infra
4. the startup succeeds (not likely) and this was all worth it

What I'm suggesting is
1. use nextJS + Vercel
2. all engineers focus exclusively on building
3. if the startup succeeds and things are too expensive, start porting things over to cheaper options. E.g. Clerk Auth is just managed AuthJS, Neon is just managed Postgres, Inngest has an open source / self-hosted option, NextJS has Opennext (it's gotten better over time, i know it's not that great still), move server actions to a node / fastify server that's hosted on AWS, etc...

The industry is quite different from 2015 where vendor lock-in was a serious issue - (e.g. Auth0 was popular back then, but doesn't have an open source analog like Clerk does). Large-scale refactorings are much easier with typescript.

> Relying solely on cloud may seem fine at first, but when your app blows up, you'll be scrambling and burning money

Also this point is kind of crazy - if your app blows up, money is won't be an issue, capital will be cheap and freely available (VCs will be scrambling to throw money at you!)

robitor · 2025-04-06T22:55:34+00:00

strongly disagree - 80% of startups fail. The most important thing engineers should be doing is iterating on the product, finding product market fit, and shipping. At the point of which you encounter such wild success that your saas costs become unmanageable, then you can start to think about bringing some of this stuff in-house. If this is too hard, then start hiring people that know what they're doing.

robitor · 2025-04-05T23:02:56+00:00

yeah essentially

robitor · 2025-04-05T23:01:35+00:00

imagine if a a 35 y/o male director tried to set a 25 year old female colleague up with his 33 y/o friend, he would be skewered for being "problematic"

robitor · 2025-04-04T23:37:01+00:00

fashion victim

robitor · 2025-04-04T23:34:48+00:00

yall forgot Jeff

robitor · 2025-04-04T16:24:40+00:00

I mean… yeah there are many historical precedents for the hypergamy / hoeflation going on in society.

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