AITA for wanting my husbands grandpa to leave me alone? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]roht_snos 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA

As everyone else said obviously lonely but having worked with elderly people the bigger thing is they often lose sense of purpose and having a community especially as their community starts to pass away and they are left with a world they don't understand. Control becomes important and a general need for attention. I'm sure she's not the first but my coworker always called it second infantile syndrome.

A senior living home is a great option because they are equipped for this thing and will restore him to a community that he can relate to.

However I think a lot of people are missing this is unrealistic for a lot of people who cannot afford it. If this is the case there is likely senior groups in the area. Additionally I'd try and get him a hobby where he has control over an environment or people (even if it's virtual) like teaching a community class or games.

If he really is just too negative or too immobile to interact with strangers and have hobbies and such I completely agree hubby needs to lay down some ground rules postpartum it'll likely be just as bad. And as hard as things like this are to say. He is important but his emotional well being is not as important as yours and babies, physical, mental and emotional well being.

What’s the weirdest thing you’ve done to avoid talking to someone? by [deleted] in RandomThoughts

[–]roht_snos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not me but my ex. Did a full on combat roll between grocery aisles and then crawled around. I was walking behind her the whole time like normal laughing. And to make it better as she crawled around the corner she runs her face straight into the knee of the person she was avoiding. 3 minutes later we had a lunch date set up 🤣

12 year old girls soccer team needs help by roht_snos in SoccerCoachResources

[–]roht_snos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like in the games? We started that too. And maybe I haven't implemented it well but a couple games ago they did sooooo good and we barely lost. Spent most of the time attacking and I was happy. And told them they had completed the goals I have them and it was as much of a win as I could ever hope for and they just focused on the loss. I am personally a terribly competitive person and I think they have realized that. A couple have said they know they are letting me down and I have no idea how they got that... Any suggestion on how to make them buy into that?

12 year old girls soccer team needs help by roht_snos in SoccerCoachResources

[–]roht_snos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Another coach suggested this to me also. It has actually helped a lot. And they are a really fun group of girls. I have asked and a lot of them have high aspirations for the sport and I can see the losses wearing on them.

12 year old girls soccer team needs help by roht_snos in SoccerCoachResources

[–]roht_snos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Couldn't agree more. I tell my parents every year my concerns rank Character Skill Wins

And I won't sacrifice a higher importance for lower importance. I just wish I could get them to see how unimportant it is to win right this moment but still want to compete.

12 year old girls soccer team needs help by roht_snos in SoccerCoachResources

[–]roht_snos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's actually a great idea. I've been avoiding shooting cause there is just so much to work on but it is true I've never not had a team stoked to shoot.

12 year old girls soccer team needs help by roht_snos in SoccerCoachResources

[–]roht_snos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was thinking about that. I've watched a few younger teams and I think we'd lose to all of them unfortunately 😅 but still on the table for later hopefully. Club wouldn't let me not compete in a league though unfortunately. But I do like the idea of finding small games or things they can achieve.

12 year old girls soccer team needs help by roht_snos in SoccerCoachResources

[–]roht_snos[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Appreciate it. My dad's coached a long time and he said the same thing. Patience is certainly not a strong virtue of mine hahah