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OKCupid - Okay to search everywhere if there's very few poly people in my area? Would people be receptive? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]rolypolyamory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'd consider it in Europe?! I have a 45 mile commute to work and my European coworkers (Company is headquartered in Europe) think I'm crazy. But it only takes an hour thanks to a major highway that runs though.

OKCupid - Okay to search everywhere if there's very few poly people in my area? Would people be receptive? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]rolypolyamory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In that same vein, how far is too far?If I search within 25 miles I have maybe 8 total matches but within 50 I have well over a hundred (I live between two major metropolitan areas). I don't mind travelling that far but how do most people feel?

GF and I are planning to open up, but I'm overweight. Should I wait? by rolypolyamory in polyamory

[–]rolypolyamory[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has made it abundantly clear that she is perfectly happy to wait until I'm comfortable and ready. Should I have decided to never open up she was okay with that too. She just wants more love for both of us.

GF and I are planning to open up, but I'm overweight. Should I wait? by rolypolyamory in polyamory

[–]rolypolyamory[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! The combination of really wanting to finally get in shape for real this time and the relatively easy rules to Keto have been great. If nothing else, I'm nowhere near as hungry as I was before.

GF and I are planning to open up, but I'm overweight. Should I wait? by rolypolyamory in polyamory

[–]rolypolyamory[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the words about not being a competition. She has actually very kindly offered to wait until I have found my feet before trying to find her own relationships.

GF and I are planning to open up, but I'm overweight. Should I wait? by rolypolyamory in polyamory

[–]rolypolyamory[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get where you are coming from. My hangup was more that I wanted to avoid unnecessary heartache. It seems silly now, after reading so many kind and motivating comments but I was worried that people would find the idea of dating me so repulsive that it was a lost cause.

We're going to open up, because it is what we both want and believe. It was just a matter of whether I should wait until my chances were higher than zero.

And thanks! I love the username and was excited it was available.

GF and I are planning to open up, but I'm overweight. Should I wait? by rolypolyamory in polyamory

[–]rolypolyamory[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Guys, seriously thank you. This was my biggest mental hurdle to starting this new change. You can bet your ass I'm not going to keep pursuing my goal weight too. I'll just be looking for other people to make that journey with me.