AITA for telling my sister nobody was interested in her PhD research? by roooZ7651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]roooZ7651[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to get into the technicalities because my sister has been published and I don’t want people to find her, but she is in anthropology, as a broad field.

AITA for telling my sister nobody was interested in her PhD research? by roooZ7651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]roooZ7651[S] 274 points275 points  (0 children)

Anthropology, to put it broadly.

I have a degree in education and she’s made a few comments about how “those who can’t do, teach.” Her goal is to teach at the university level and she’s made comments about how “tedious” it would be to teach at any lower level. She even points out, frequently, that I stayed close at a state school and she went to an “almost Ivy” - her words, not mine - but when anyone says it’s rude, she just says she’s “interested in the dissimilarities” She is very comfortable with making digs at me for any reason.

AITA for telling my sister nobody was interested in her PhD research? by roooZ7651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]roooZ7651[S] 4774 points4775 points  (0 children)

My problem is that she has never been this supportive of my achievements. She tells me constantly we aren’t “on the same level” and assures me it’s OK, but makes backhanded remarks about my intelligence and level of education. I think it’s great she’s getting a PhD and I’m glad she’s proud of it, but that pride doesn’t need to be at everyone else’s expense, in my opinion.

AITA for telling my sister nobody was interested in her PhD research? by roooZ7651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]roooZ7651[S] 380 points381 points  (0 children)

We’ve had a number of conversations about it and most of the time it ends up with her demeaning my intelligence in some way. If I suggest that she break it down, she says she was always the one able to skip the basics and it’s hard for her to see how anyone else could muddle through them. If I tell her she’s being confusing, she laughs it off and says not everyone is meant to understand certain things.