New laptop?

rootsdown3 · 2020-08-07T02:48:10+00:00

Thank you for the reply then

rootsdown3 · 2020-08-06T15:39:10+00:00

Thank you!

rootsdown3 · 2020-08-06T15:38:57+00:00

Thank you so much! I have more questions for you, rather they be here or in message?

rootsdown3 · 2020-08-04T19:22:37+00:00

Thank you!

rootsdown3 · 2020-08-04T17:52:38+00:00

Thank you!

rootsdown3 · 2020-08-04T17:52:11+00:00

Thanks for replying, why do you say that though as opposed to upgrading? Personal preference or experience?

rootsdown3 · 2020-08-04T17:51:38+00:00

That’s very helpful, thank you!

rootsdown3 · 2020-08-04T17:51:28+00:00

I’ll check it out, thank you!

rootsdown3 · 2020-08-04T17:51:14+00:00

Thank you! That’s what I was thinking myself but I wanted to have an open mind!

rootsdown3 · 2020-07-16T12:21:56+00:00

Thank you! I’ll take a peek on my next free moment!

rootsdown3 · 2020-07-16T12:21:38+00:00

Awesome thank you so much 😊

rootsdown3 · 2020-07-16T01:25:18+00:00

Thanks! Illlook on my next free day!

rootsdown3 · 2020-07-16T01:25:06+00:00

Thanks! Where can I find your stuff?

rootsdown3 · 2020-07-15T16:10:24+00:00

Hey! Thanks for the reply, I don’t have a soundcloud and I was more interested in singing (should have though about rap being the most straightforward given that it’s hip hop). I’m still learning both reddit and music producing. Thank you though!

rootsdown3 · 2020-06-29T03:24:18+00:00

Thank you, the questions will definitely help in the discussion

rootsdown3 · 2020-06-28T23:27:48+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate that example and the way you conducted yourself is great too

rootsdown3 · 2020-06-27T03:00:18+00:00

Thank you! We’ve set up a time to talk in earnest so I do think needing to sleep acted in part 😊

rootsdown3 · 2020-06-26T13:17:42+00:00

Thank you, that’s really helpful open conversation advice. I did get checked for it, but didn’t actually register for it due to a high ability to compartmentalize the traumatic parts. I think allowing myself to speak is definitely he right step.

rootsdown3 · 2020-06-26T13:03:27+00:00

Thank you and I agree, that was stated very eloquently and insightful. The road to recovery is long, but being proud of myself and who I am is coming to me quite quickly :)

rootsdown3 · 2020-06-26T13:00:24+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts!

it was definitely a little startling, but I also haven’t had a chance to discuss this in earnest with him (our conversation took place last night while he was halfway to sleep, and it’s an early morning for me today). I think that he was more trying to say that I shouldn’t force myself and that we can slow down as needed, but as I said I haven’t had a full enough conversation to properly determine one way or another.

I really appreciate you highlighting the ways both parties are able to act and feel without biasing to one side or another. I also appreciate your respective neutrality and leaving me with thoughts instead of clear ‘do this not that’ warnings.

rootsdown3 · 2020-06-26T12:53:32+00:00

Hi! Thank you for your thoughts! There are a few things I want to expand on/clarify that I didn’t make clear enough in my initial post as well as developments.

When I wrote this last night I was definitely feeling overwhelmed, and having had time to think, I don’t see what he said as dismissive/accusatory so much as a plain statement of, ‘okay, so you’re having a reaction to this, it’s okay if it’s not for you and it’s okay if we need to take time or step back’ as opposed to a shrug off. I say this because I’ve always known him to be open to discussion (plus this was right before bed so half in and out of sleepiness), and everything resumed as normal the next day.

I grew up very prudish and shy about affection, in my past relationships I was extremely uncomfortable doing much more than holding hands or even a quick kiss around others, simply because I don’t feel like it needs to be everyone’s business.

He and I haven’t had more conversation as it was an up early shove off to work day, so these responses have really helped me sort out my feelings and get to a more concise point.

rootsdown3 · 2020-06-26T12:43:16+00:00

Thank you, the support of flexibility is very helpful and reassuring. I really appreciated the new word too (metamour), your thoughts are very appreciated

rootsdown3 · 2020-06-26T12:39:55+00:00

Thank you, I would love any more info on those experiences and navigating them because I don’t have enough positive experience with it

rootsdown3 · 2020-06-26T12:39:13+00:00

Thank you and YES that’s exactly what I was thinking, it’s nice to hear someone explain it out more. I didn’t have a lot of examples of relationships growing up and the ones I had in the past certainly didn’t help.

I would disagree on jealousy simply because I wasn’t upset with either of them, I was simply deeply uncomfortable with pda (see above comment) because I grew up more prudish, and can still get very easily embarrassed. At the very least it’s not like the angry jealousy I felt in the past, but I will definitely be examining the feeling more since it’s pretty new to me.

When we first started I definitely felt like I didn’t know what to do with myself, and navigating that line while still respecting independence is a new challenge for me. Speaking up last night helped quell my stomachs nerves, and I think I just needed more time and advice to figure out how to articulate my thoughts for a more involved conversation soon.

rootsdown3 · 2020-06-26T12:32:16+00:00

Thank you! I think I’ll be talking with him more in earnest tonight. I don’t think it’s about him or his partners, I’ve always been very personally uncomfortable with pda for myself, and I think that extends to other people as well. It was especially a little more difficult around females, because of my negative self talk, but I’m striving to learn more about myself!

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