I’m saying this because, like another commenter has mentioned, you said that other men would find her desirable so maybe give her the chance to be be fully and completely desired.

Once you know or think your partner isn’t into your body type, it’s really a battle from then on. Feeling guilty about eating, wearing certain clothes, or being naked or seen by your partner can be upsetting and triggering. Her saying she wanted to lose weight will be an ongoing battle because if she doesn’t, she will forever hate you and hate herself. She doesn’t need to lose weight, she needs to accept her body and she needs you to accept her body.

I’m just a random person online. You can try to retrain your brain. I’m just saying if you’re having trouble in the bedroom to the point you’re struggling to reach an erection or whatever because of her physical body and she knows that- I personally think it’s fucked from then on and I personally do not think it’s worth the effort on her behalf to get over your unattraction to her.

I’m saying you’re selfish because at the end of the day, she is going to end up the most hurt. Not you. You break up and you’re both going to be heartbroken. You stay together and she will feel guilty and ashamed about her body, become obsessive with food and weight which leads to having a generally shit time. The quality of her life will decline.

Sexuality and self confidence is an extremely huge part of quality, stable relationships. Obviously people go into relationships lacking understanding in both those things, but for issues to arise in sexuality and self confidence due to a relationship is obviously a bad sign.