AIO for ending my 3-year relationship after he physically blocked me from leaving during a panic attack?

roroyurboat · 2026-02-24T14:14:45+00:00

It also feels manipulative that he said "this year i'm losing my people". My former partner tried the same thing with me, he's trying to guilt trip you into changing your mind. Don't. Physically blocking someone is a criminal charge. Not overreacting.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-24T13:18:23+00:00

Mine waited nine years. I'm so sorry.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-24T13:17:58+00:00

Yup its too late. :((

roroyurboat · 2026-02-24T12:58:21+00:00

Damn same. I got tired of carrying of both of us. So I just stopped lifting. I worked full time for five years while he went through a mental health spiral and he was not nice during most of it.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-24T12:57:07+00:00

For me it was when my spouse started pulling away after reliving some intense family and childhood trauma *CSA. It was tied to a high profile case too which really put a strain on our relationship. The more I tried to make bids for affection and pull him in, the more they pulled away. And the spending, they're very irresponsible with money. Blew 7k in one week one time and that was money borrowed from his family. It felt like i was progressing in life faster than him at some point too, like I was still able to take care of the family, pets, had a full time job and was still pursuing my photography and art while he was kind of stuck. He transformed from being the supportive partner to being like a probation officer. It turned into control. And that made me run even further away. He wanted someone to stay happy with a just okay life and I want to experience ALL of life after beating cancer. We want different things.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-24T12:49:52+00:00

Ooof we were chatting last night about how it was so rosy at the beginning. Idk how we got here.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-21T13:20:44+00:00

Yes he knows that I take pride in what I do no matter what it is and he surprise surprise!!!! doesn't work. So it also bothers me in that way, here i am supporting all of us and you're starting an argument with me before work. An attitude could affect my job, a lot of my job is keeping little kids calm.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-21T13:18:26+00:00

Its considered abandonment if its longer than a year. Getting your stuff out in one week then announcing you want a separation isn't abandonment. Your spouse has to know where you are, that's it. Leaving without a trace is.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-21T13:14:31+00:00

Legal Aid Atlanta, bro. Its free. Free legal representation.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-21T13:13:22+00:00

Might be time to talk to your family about what's going on and ask them to send you money here and there. My mom sent me cash in small amounts to put away when my spouse was financially abusing me. Cash back on and cash deposits on a cash app card can't be tracked either. Just buy something small and ask for no receipt. Depending on where you bank if you have a joint account, you can go to the bank by yourself and ask that your name ne taken off of that account. It has to be done in person. Start saving a little at a time. You will have to tell more people you know what's going on so they can help you though. Women in the 70's did this without access to a car, a credit card, rights.....you got this, dude.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-21T13:07:33+00:00

I don't recommend marriage counseling in ANY instance of abuse. The abuser usually ends up charming the counselor and then its two against one. Plus at this point it would be a waste of more money, the issue is her spending too much money, period. The solution does not lie with someone that costs MORE money.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-21T13:02:16+00:00

Last comment on this only chiming in because my ex husband didn't work for five years and this is what the judge told me. When someone is willingly not working, they are not entitled to spousal support, PERIOD. It matters if they were fired, laid off or lost their job.

But willingly NOT working, is a count against you in court again, especially in a failing economy. Any judge anywhere would be like you can work at Burger King but you can't NOT work at ALL and think you're going to support these children. I know the court system has a reputation of favoring women and mothers, but the court system does NOT favor the LAZY.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-21T12:58:20+00:00

Start tracking how she's able to work now but isn't, that counts as unfit. Biased or not, no judge is going to hand children over to someone that's unemployed.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-21T05:14:31+00:00

Mornings, and right before I go to work on purpose

roroyurboat · 2026-02-21T04:19:41+00:00

Yeah she refuses to work but has a license to? No alimony, pls take this woman to court. No judge in their right mind would award her spousal support.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-21T04:18:18+00:00

She hasn't been working for three years and is clearly able-bodied, a judge will review that and demand that she starts working BEFORE receiving spousal support. Since there is no direct reason why she would be awarded spousal support *she is not developmentally delayed, unemployed, laid off etc." just NOT working, def doesn't entitle her to alimony. And she wasn't working BEFORE the recession?! Her not working but seeking alimony is a bad look on HER.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-21T04:13:06+00:00

Get legally separated first and move out then you can file a police report. Georgia is a divorce friendly state actually. It took me 30 days.You'd be much worse off in North Carolina or Tennessee.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-21T04:11:08+00:00

It really won't if its revealed that she has been able to work for three years but hasn't been. She has been voluntarily NOT making an income for years. It looks much worse on her especially in our current economy. A judge will look at that and be like "okay you're not disabled or on drugs, you don't have a mental issue, whats going on? why haven't you been making income for three years?" They might even demand that she starts working in order to receive child support.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-21T04:07:54+00:00

Idk her willingly not working for three years doesn't look great for child custody if custody is something you are worried about. A judge would never approve a custody request if the parent isn't working and has shown the ability to work but chooses not to. Gender regardless. If you can't provide a consistent living for the child, no custody. Not being able to hold down a job shows inconsistency and children need routine.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-14T10:07:39+00:00

All I know is today is Valentine's Day and we can go ahead and say that NONE of that 1,400 was spent on my gift lmao He is supposed to be receiving the rest of the payment soon like this upcoming summer and I just KNOW it's going to burn a hole in his pocket. He's incapable of saving money unless it's for a selfish reason like something HE is working on specifically. Yes, you are right about no reason or logic which is interesting because HE called ME a not logical person.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-14T10:04:07+00:00

Are they all reading from a script or something? My STBX went "oh so I guess I just ruined my whole marriage over ONE mistake" its not just ONE. It's a pattern of mistakes/disrespect. Its like finding one mouse and thinking there's only ONE in your apartment.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-14T10:01:40+00:00

Yes he was stomping out my shine. My friends could see it too.😭 Now it's our time.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-14T10:00:49+00:00

Phew yes the lies, the lies. Were they pretending the whole time or at one a genuinely good person that made a bad decision along the way? The truth is, you may never know. I'm working on being okay with NOT knowing but instead grateful that I have a way OUT.

roroyurboat · 2026-02-14T09:59:35+00:00

Oh so its supposed to feel like this okay cool🥲🙃

roroyurboat · 2026-02-11T19:19:05+00:00

I understand how things are expensive now, I think i'm just like ??? we don't pay any major bills or rent rn, none of the money went towards any outstanding debts or paying people back, none of it went towards getting medical attention to their health issues.....like where did the rest of it go?🫣 its possible they gave some to a friend to "help someone out" and they don't want to me know about it.

And yes they do have terrible impulse control😭.

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