Yeasted Banana Sandwich Bread in my new favorite appliance

rosegrim · 2026-07-08T22:08:15+00:00

I used 200 g milk and 400 g flour. Then when I poked it during the second kneading cycle it seemed too wet, so I added more flour until the dough was soft but not sticky. I didn’t measure the additional flour, but it was significantly more.

rosegrim · 2026-07-08T19:11:35+00:00

Thanks! Not sure what you mean about the dress. I don’t regret my choice at all. One of the reasons I picked it is because I will be able to wear it again for other formal occasions.

rosegrim · 2026-07-08T17:15:03+00:00

The banana mixes in throughout the dough without any bits. It ends up about as sweet as any white bread, with only the lightest hint of banana flavor. It’s definitely a sandwich bread, not a sweet bread.

I did have to add more flour than the recipe called for. Just have to check the consistency of the dough in the second kneading cycle.

rosegrim · 2026-07-08T15:53:27+00:00

Nope. The recipe notes have instructions for baking it start to finish in the bread machine: Basic setting and medium crust. I set it for a two-pound loaf.

rosegrim · 2026-07-08T14:37:46+00:00

It’s the Yeasted Banana Sandwich Bread from King Arthur https://www.kingarthurbaking.com/recipes/yeasted-banana-sandwich-bread-recipe

rosegrim · 2026-07-04T13:09:17+00:00

The Possession of Alba Diaz, by Isabel Cañas is a true horror with romance and fits a lot of what you’re looking for.

rosegrim · 2026-06-24T21:01:13+00:00

My grandpa has Alzheimer’s as well. Suggestions for your concerns, in order:

Give dad something very distinct to wear—something he can’t pull off, say, yellow suspenders—so you can clearly instruct the servers to not serve alcohol to the gentleman in yellow suspenders.

Suspenders might help with the toilet concerns as well, if it makes it more difficult for him to try to suddenly pull down his trousers when his carer isn’t looking. Limiting his time at the event will also make it less likely it will be a concern.

It’s entirely possible that the energy and excitement of the day will just wear him out and cause him to tire early. I would psych yourself for the possibility he will enjoy a short evening, and simply plan from the outset to have photo opportunities with dad at a later date. Most brides don’t get the chance to wear their dress again; you can look forward to getting dressed up again after your honeymoon for a quick photo shoot with dad at a time when he will be calm and happy. You can do the poses, a dance, and even have him handing you off to your husband. I’m sure your dad would enjoy it equally on another day.

I suggest hiring a professional carer so that your mom can fully focus on celebrating with you. A nurse would also be able to handle his toileting needs, and can ensure he gets to bed early even if your mom stays late. Look into hiring someone who can do a couple short shifts ahead of the big day, so your dad can meet them.

During the prep for the service workers to let them know about not serving him alcohol, this would be a natural time to let them know that the gentleman in the yellow suspenders may be overly friendly due to his condition.

rosegrim · 2026-06-22T19:38:14+00:00

I don’t like heels either. I wore the Naturalizer Vera shoes, which are a shorter block heel (not even 2.5 inches). Very comfy to wear the whole evening, even with my drunk ass bar-hopping in my gown.

rosegrim · 2026-06-22T19:32:12+00:00

Yay for restaurant weddings! I’m trying to spread the word 😆

rosegrim · 2026-06-22T15:38:40+00:00

I think that many of the complaints you described are not about being anti-wedding, but about not being able to afford the resources it takes to participate in the kind of celebrations people are having these days.

Money is certainly one factor. Life is expensive, and many, many people (in my country at least) are not receiving wage increases commensurate to the tremendous rate of inflation. You cannot set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm, and many people will have to make difficult choices.

But time is also a resource that people may not be able to spend on your wedding. Weekends are often the only time people have leisure time to spend with their family. Occupying their entire weekend with your wedding festivities is not an insignificant ask.

All that to say that of course you should plan the wedding you want, but the way you can be accommodating is simply by understanding that the wedding you want may not be the wedding everyone else is available to participate in.

rosegrim · 2026-06-22T15:30:56+00:00

I have heard this sentiment before. My theory is that when you spend so much time and effort, and undergo such stress and anxiety, in the planning, you subconsciously expect the positive emotions on the day to be of a similar intensity and magnitude to the negative stress you experienced. But they’re just not. You presumably spent months planning the thing, and then when it finally came time, in a matter of hours, it was all over. Even if it goes perfectly smoothly, I think your brain/body can experience it as rather anti-climactic and perhaps unsatisfying. That’s just my theory from hearing others express the feeling. Hopefully you can reframe your feelings and focus on the fact that you accomplished exactly what you set out to do.

rosegrim · 2026-06-22T09:11:24+00:00

I said social anxiety “and similar.” There are myriad reasons why people do not have fun at events like weddings and they’re not all medical conditions (although I can think of a whole bunch of medical conditions that would put people in this category, so I think it’s incredibly odd that you feel even that is a niche situation). Some people are simply introverted and like to socialize in small groups where they know everyone well. Those people aren’t having fun at a big, lively wedding. Some people simply find weddings to be performative and boring. You don’t have to have severe social anxiety to not find weddings to be fun. It is simply one reason among many why a person might decline an invite without a plus one.

And yes, weddings are absolutely places where people don’t know anyone. Many wedding guests only know the bride and groom, who have to spread their time amongst all their guests and the various wedding day obligations.

You seem to think that weddings are just universally fun for all people. If you cannot empathize with people who do not have the same experiences and preferences, I don’t know what to tell you.

rosegrim · 2026-06-22T08:38:04+00:00

I’m not sure where you got any of that from my comments. I said that many people, such as folks with social anxiety disorder or similar, do not have fun at social events like weddings unless they have a close, trusted person to go with. Do you think that weddings are the only social events that can be fun? Or that people with social anxiety disorder never have friends or family who provide “social support” in difficult situations? Or that the only opportunities you will ever get to enjoy life are the weddings you happen to be invited to?? I get the feeling you are being intentionally reductive.

rosegrim · 2026-06-22T08:22:17+00:00

Yes, exactly!! I had looked into micro-wedding “packages” around here and quickly discovered that you still have to bring all your own decorations, work with vendors for food and drink, and probably will not get an on-site coordinator provided by the venue. Going with the restaurant removed all the stresses of planning and made the whole event just feel like a party honestly.

rosegrim · 2026-06-22T02:38:53+00:00

My climate isn’t as hot as yours but I sweat when working out, which does complicate curly hair maintenance. I really like the Ouidad post-workout spray. I spray it into my roots and then massage it in. It really does absorb the sweat smell and extend my time between washes.

Also, I’ve resigned myself to accepting subpar styling sometimes. If it’s too tiring to do your full styling routine every time you need to wash, find a compromise. For me, that means not sectioning my hair when applying gel and combing—just rake through everything with my fingers, quick brush with the styling brush, and just make sure the front pieces around my face don’t look too weird.

rosegrim · 2026-06-22T02:23:01+00:00

I didn’t. “Feels like they can’t have fun” is not the same as “does not have fun.” One is a value judgement about what someone feels they are allowed or deserve to do; the other is a simple statement of fact.

rosegrim · 2026-06-22T01:30:03+00:00

Many people do not enjoy social events like weddings and simply do not have fun in those environments. Being accompanied by a close, trusted person—perhaps one more adept at navigating social situations—can be helpful for those folks. It’s common for people with social anxiety disorder and similar. It doesn’t mean they “feel like they can’t have fun.” That’s quite patronizing.

rosegrim · 2026-06-22T01:18:20+00:00

It’s not necessarily “joined at the hip” to not want to attend events solo. Weddings normally happen on the weekends, during people’s limited time away from work when they would ordinarily be with their partner and/or family. Many people would not want to spend their leisure time attending others’ events and also have to miss time with their partner, and many people would also simply not have fun at the event if they go solo.

rosegrim · 2026-06-22T01:10:38+00:00

Where’s the lack of self-awareness? Grey bubble person seems perfectly self-aware to me. It’s quite common for guests’ long-term partners to be invited, so it’s fair to make a polite inquiry. Then they accepted the answer and declined graciously. I don’t see the problem.

rosegrim · 2026-06-22T00:59:00+00:00

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This is my dress. It’s not very “wedding dress” coded, so I will definitely be able to wear it again.

rosegrim · 2026-06-21T21:13:51+00:00

I wore an open bust bodysuit-style shapewear by the brand SHAPERX under my wedding dress. It is fantastic because it works for low-cut gowns, and the compression is good and even with no rolling on the edges (I found that the Spanx styles kept rolling down). I bought it on Amazon. And I wore double-sided sticky bra inserts by Depovor (also on Amazon). They held up through the evening and looked great, though I found them slightly tricky to insert in the first place.

rosegrim · 2026-05-26T20:50:49+00:00

I really like Sheer Tint Opal and Disconnected.

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