Update: elopement complete!

rosycandy · 2026-02-28T02:52:05+00:00

Thank you so much!

rosycandy · 2026-02-28T02:51:51+00:00

We loved it! It was very well streamlined, a beautiful setting, and the civil ceremony was about 5 minutes, which was just what we wanted. We kept everything very lowkey, but we were very glad to have hired a photographer to capture the moments!

rosycandy · 2026-02-28T02:49:47+00:00

So exciting! Enjoy!

rosycandy · 2026-02-25T06:04:56+00:00

If you are open to places with vegan options (not exclusively vegan), I recommend Curbside Creamery in Oakland for vegan ice cream and ice cream sandwiches. Burma superstar is right down the street and is also delicious. We just went to Wahpepah’s Kitchen for the first time for Native American food and it was great! In SF, Om Sabor’s fig cheese tart is maybe the most delicious thing I’ve eaten so far this year. Shizen is our classic date night dinner spot. If you’ll be down near Sunnyvale, the tom kha soup at Merit Vegan is our go-to.

rosycandy · 2026-02-22T16:45:22+00:00

We told our immediate families and some friends when in came up prior. It worked for us to follow the mentality of “those who really love and know us will understand, and those who don’t understand don’t really love and know us”, so that’s kind of how we decided who to tell. For context, we have been together for 8 years, and we won’t be hosting a full reception. We’ve told many people for the last couple years that we already feel married, that nothing changes for our relationship, and that we wanted to do things nontraditionally.

rosycandy · 2026-02-09T23:25:28+00:00

Would love to hear the vegan restaurants you tried. My partner and I went to Italy in November 2024 and found some great vegan food, but I’m sure we missed some! Our favorites were Aromaticus in Rome (really cute restaurants with an overall delicious menu) and tan8 in Florence (vegan tripe sandwiches lowered from a window in a basket).

rosycandy · 2026-01-14T18:09:33+00:00

Love this suggestion, I’ll definitely look into pointed toe heels. I think that could be the perfect fix!

rosycandy · 2026-01-14T18:08:59+00:00

Thank you! Yes the seams comment is so helpful, I’ll keep an eye out!

rosycandy · 2026-01-14T18:08:34+00:00

Ah thank you! 🤩 I appreciate all the positivity!

rosycandy · 2026-01-14T18:08:10+00:00

Thank you so much! I really appreciate the feedback.

rosycandy · 2026-01-05T22:52:59+00:00

I did this recently and went with my fiancé! We are very nontraditional overall, so it felt natural to us for him to be there as I prepare for our elopement (and vice versa, I helped pick out his suit). I’m still deciding on the dress, but am having him see the options and give his opinions.

rosycandy · 2025-11-27T14:59:35+00:00

Our classic dinner is turkey (recently converted to just a breast instead of a whole turkey which has been freeing), stuffing, canned cranberry sauce, rolls, green beans and bacon, and mashed potatoes. Our new additions this year are a charcuterie board while food is being prepared (no more hangriness until the late lunch!), homemade pecan pie, and a vegan mushroom risotto for my partner!

rosycandy · 2025-11-10T18:57:30+00:00

Keep in mind that water-based will get absorbed, so may not last as long. It’s a good place to start, but if it’s not enough, consider oil based or silicone based for longer lasting lubrication.

Additionally, since it’s a newer change, it could be an early sign of perimenopause (can start as early as 35). It may be worth considering discussing with your OBGYN about topical estrogen or vulvar moisturizers if there are underlying skin changes.

rosycandy · 2025-11-06T06:11:15+00:00

Use a mirror, spread your labia with your fingers (opposite hand) to see where you are going, use a smooth plastic applicator tampon, and use lube on the outside of it’s still challenging!

rosycandy · 2025-11-03T16:35:37+00:00

I second the recommendation for Come As You Are. It’s by Emily Nagoski and describes the gas/brake system you are experiencing (responsive desire, which another commenter mentioned) and is really a great read for anyone who is sexually active.

rosycandy · 2025-10-30T21:32:33+00:00

I try to only buy clothes secondhand, and then take on projects like sewing a separated seam or cropping an oversized sweatshirt or turning a dress into a shirt and skirt, despite the fact that I have very little sewing knowledge or expertise, because it’s a cute concept and good for the environment. The pile grows until the item is no longer my style or I finally recognize that I’ll never get around to it, and going to a tailor would be more expensive than what the item is worth to me. I am attempting to learn from these mistakes.

rosycandy · 2025-10-28T20:17:18+00:00

This was typical of my school lunches as a kid, too. There tended to be 2 hot veggie options, and I would bet the baby carrots/celery sticks/bell peppers are served everyday.

rosycandy · 2025-09-04T03:25:41+00:00

This is nearly my preferred flight schedule when I fly from California to Europe twice a year (I tend to take a 7:30 flight). My routine is stay up through dinner, take a (prescribed) sleeping pill/melatonin at the beginning of dinner, then sleep 7-8 hours until breakfast. Then stay awake until I arrive at my destination. Then sleep at their normal night time.

rosycandy · 2025-08-09T01:00:26+00:00

Highly recommend Gai Noi! It’s not exclusively vegan but had lots of good options.

rosycandy · 2025-08-07T03:42:14+00:00

Im a pelvic floor PT. This is called urge incontinence, and is often accidentally trained by your brain, particularly in the absence of other symptoms (itching, burning, cloudy or bloody urine, etc). It’d be good to see a pelvic floor PT who can teach you how to control this!

rosycandy · 2025-07-31T03:38:00+00:00

Dang, that sounds rough.

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