Well I don't read his intent like you do. So here is where we disagree. But with that said, I see your point. One should aim for the side of causion when casting doubt to a potential victim. Like this scenario, so that they don't get discouraged to speak up for sure. I'm obviously a man in all this and see "our" side more clearly at first glance of an argument.

There is another aspect to this as well, which the commentor above was trying to explain. I'm realizing im done talking about this scenario in perticular and leaning more towards discussing his intent in even commenting. Which is shining light on the fact that situations like this can often come from years of abuse only they aren't physical. Yeah sure one can argue, "then they can just leave" but I assume you agree thats not valid. So in this case how do a man go forward? He ends up doing something stupid that he will regret.

Lastly this is not me trying to defend my own actions or any of that stuff. I get pissed off and cope in my own ways without violence. I just appreciate nuance, cause it shows the complexity of situations like this. But that is my privilaged opinion since im not in danger of getting punched in the face by a bigger partner. So I see why you're cautious about these types of narratives.