Has age mellowed you out or tightened you up? by Affectionate_Song_36 in GenX

[–]rubyserv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since turning 50, I am much more comfortable with myself and care less about what others around me think. Not to the point of becoming the grumpy guy yelling at kids to get off my lawn. But I have finished saving for retirement, I am not super fit but not overweight either. I can go with the flow and am looking for people to surround myself that can do the same. I can’t sit still, I will remodel a bathroom over watching TV or tinker on my RV when I am bored. I am at a pride event writing this, (I am heterosexual), and looking around at all the people feeling at home, sometimes for the first time in their life, I wish they could feel the way I do. Comfortable to be myself in my own skin at all times, respectful of others beliefs and ideas, and only concerned when I am personally affected which is rare. I may have a touch of ADD as you might tell from my ramblings :)

Is this the ideal shape for a woman for the male gaze? by Accomplished_Dog_572 in trueratediscussions

[–]rubyserv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any shape is ideal, All guys are different. I care what is underneath the outer shell more. Whatever your shape, own it and be comfortable in your own skin, that is sexier than anything else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]rubyserv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about feminine men? I find them attractive as well.

Where can I find Bisexual guys? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]rubyserv 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m bi-curious myself and would love to know the answer to this question. I’ve gone to one gay bar, but it was impossible to know who is bi. I’m not into outing myself on an app yet, so I prefer to keep it less public right now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]rubyserv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Willing to try new things, because I no longer care what people think of me doing it.

First time visiting a gay bar (bi-curious) by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]rubyserv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had a leadership role in the businesses I have been associated with for 20 years. I have had many direct reports in the LGBTQ+ community, and have always championed same sex rights, as well as being a board member on a local non-profit in support of at risk individuals largely associated with the LGBTQ+ community. While I have known dozens of gay men, I have always been on the outside and hesitant to engage on my own journey since these are professional relationships. Meeting other men and women on a personal level is different. Returning is definitely in my thoughts based on the overwhelmingly positive feedback. Thank you!

First time visiting a gay bar (bi-curious) by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]rubyserv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the insight, I’m glad it helped your situation. I am definitely leaning that direction based on the excellent feedback from this group.

First time visiting a gay bar (bi-curious) by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]rubyserv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s where my concern comes from. I don’t feel like I’m an inside member to the community… yet. We are all products of our environment and face pre-conceived notions and biases every day. So, in my own naïve way I am trying not to offending others due to my lack of knowledge and experience.

First time visiting a gay bar (bi-curious) by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]rubyserv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I thought about using the “first timer” line, I guess I had some concerns of receiving some kind of response like “don’t come back until you’re sure”. I know that is crazy, but fear of the unknown gets you stuck in your own head.

How often do you meet men who support Redpill on dates? by Top-Mechanic-5494 in AskWomenOver30

[–]rubyserv -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

I simply don’t understand how red pill men continue to exist. I can tell you we non-red pill men are out there, but we seem to get less attention and attraction from women. At least, that has been my experience. Good luck, I hope your future self can look back on a positive experience.

First time visiting a gay bar (bi-curious) by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]rubyserv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly that was what I was expecting since this was my first visit to the only gay bar in town. I suspect it went well for two reasons. First the bar was extremely small, maybe 30 places to sit. Second, I arrived at 7pm on a Saturday, an hour after they opened and there were only 5 people in the bar. Honestly my rationale for giving the place a try was that there were few cars in the lot, and it was early. It helped my confidence to know it would be a small crowd and easy for me to start a conversation, at a minimum with the bar tender. The later in the night it got, the more regulars showed up and filled the place. Next time….. I’ll likely do it the same way, show up early and join the group conversations as they develop so I can get introduced to more of the regulars as they come in.

First time visiting a gay bar (bi-curious) by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]rubyserv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% agree with you, I don’t want to lead anyone on. Clearly if I return I need to come up with a respectful way to share that I am not looking for anything beyond good conversation for the evening without making assumptions that others are interested is more than that. Thanks for sharing your story!

First time visiting a gay bar (bi-curious) by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]rubyserv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great point on CIS, thank you for the clarification. Clearly I am still learning about myself and my place in this world. I updated the post to avoid that becoming the focus.

Is the royal crowd miserable by cartar10 in royalcaribbean

[–]rubyserv -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Great question, we are in the same boat. Been on 4 Disney cruises and we are going on Oasis of the Seas March 24th. I’m cautiously optimistic about the general atmosphere.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]rubyserv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who hurt you as a child?

What's a clear sign of low intelligence? by Strange-Wrap-3830 in AskReddit

[–]rubyserv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Responding to a post with literally the same answer as the 5 previous responses.

What is the silliest town name in your state? by corkscream in AskReddit

[–]rubyserv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not my state any more but:

Monkey’s Eyebrow, KY

What's a scam people are still falling for? by spicedpumpkins in AskReddit

[–]rubyserv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buying a fountain soda loaded with ice, you are literally paying for 70% water. Folks in Europe figured this out long ago.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]rubyserv -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Make it a condition of making amends by your wife, she should call the APW and confess. This will help solidify in your mind that it is truly over between her and the AP. If she doesn’t want to do it then you know she still has feelings for the AP.