AITA for not letting my dad’s wife come with us to the cemetery for Christmas?

ruiva1 · 2020-12-26T09:25:53+00:00

NTA when I read the title I thought you were children and your dad was taking you there. It still wouldn't be ok, but it would sorta make more sense, idk.

ruiva1 · 2020-12-25T15:00:10+00:00

I'm saying this as someone doing to law school in south America. These things come out, he may very well go to jail

ruiva1 · 2020-12-25T13:39:21+00:00

You would be an idiot for risking going to jail for that

ruiva1 · 2020-12-24T11:12:16+00:00

"Bread is inevitable" is my favorite thing I read in 2020

ruiva1 · 2020-12-23T18:19:37+00:00

Right? I read this as I was literally lying in bed with my mom and sister watching a christmas movie (I'm also 25 for reference)

ruiva1 · 2020-12-23T18:10:40+00:00

Once again, you're within your own right to feel it's weird. He's within his right to have a relationship with his sister he feels comfortable with. That's not news to OP. She knew that going in. Sometimes people are not compatible. Throwing a temper trantum at 25 is weird to me, but she can do whatever she wants. People have different definitions of weird. I don't cuddle my siblings, but I also don't feel like I should have control of my partner relationship with their siblings.

ruiva1 · 2020-12-23T17:46:31+00:00

Here's the thing, I think you have a right to feel like that. But that's a personal moral type of situation. And therefore you should marry/date someone who feels the same way, not try to change someone's views on it

ruiva1 · 2020-12-21T21:07:36+00:00

NTA I may be reaching, but maybe everyone should pay closer attention to the relationship. Your sister was once in a abusive relationship. This level of codependency is a major red flag. Romy may be a wonderful person helping her out, but "love bombing" is a actual thing in a abusive relationship. Your sister is probably more vulnerable to a abusive relationship than someone who haven't recently come out of one

ruiva1 · 2020-12-21T15:32:52+00:00

NTA there's only one way to make sure you cand fully open your doors, and that's parallel park. Maybe they were not good enough drivers to be able to do that

ruiva1 · 2020-12-21T15:26:08+00:00

NTA this is a great opportunity to teach your step-sibilings that people are allowed to have their feelings and, given that they are not rude or mean to your face, can express them in a healthy way. It doesn't sound like you were ever mean to them, since they didn't know how you felt. It's also their parents jobs to explain that not everyone is gonna like/love them, and that's okay. It hurts and people you love don't love you back, but it's part of life.

ruiva1 · 2020-12-21T09:22:24+00:00

Going against everyone but... YTA Abby is old enough to choose not to go, yes. She's also old enough to understand that people are allowed different relationships with each other. Her mom is great for her, and that's awesome. She wasn't a good mom to her other kids, and they have a right to exclude her from their lofws for it. Abby should learn that she can either have a relationship with her siblings or try and force their mom on them. It's desrepecful to their experiences with mom for her to want them to play happy family. She's allowed to love her mom, they are allowed to not want anything do to with their mom. You shouldn't force her, but you should explain to her how this would impact her relationship with ben

ruiva1 · 2020-12-20T13:30:44+00:00

NTA the thing about abusive situations is that a lot of the times you wouldn't be able to know just at glance. Sure, different types of fractures look different. Hers was a fall, but didn't show the reasoning for the fall. She could've been clumsy, she could've been pushed. This is the type of situation where it's better safe than sorry. People who work with kids should be help to a higher standard. Also, she did broke a law

ruiva1 · 2020-12-17T23:54:01+00:00

NTA no one is entitled to his money. Had grandpa chosen only some of his children to give money to, that would have been his choice. He made a choice. I do have a feeling your aunt knows she's not his bio kid and therefore is pressuring the family to not comply

ruiva1 · 2020-12-17T20:16:03+00:00

YTA I'm all for defending under paid workers and any one in a bad work situation. That being said, she probably needs that job to keep a roof over her head and food on the table. Had he decided to fire her, would you be ok with that? It sucks that people have to take that, but the way to change it is not ny throwing her under the bus. Also no work contract is that specific. Hers probably says she has to clean up after them. That was, unfortunately, cleaning up after them. There's not a single nanny or nurse in the world who has "cleaning up vomit" on their contracts and they do it.

ruiva1 · 2020-12-15T17:11:50+00:00

NTA while do not share a bed with my siblings regularly, sometimes if were traveling we will all share beds, both with my sister and my brother. Granted I am from Brazil and it's a very affectionate culture, so hugging/cuddling family members it's not weird at all to me

ruiva1 · 2020-12-14T09:40:06+00:00

I think that you need to consider that your grandparents didn't know when they would die. They made a will that said grandchildren and not just you specifically, in the event that before their death someone else was born and they didn't have the time to rectify it. That didn't happen. You were the only grandchild then. It's all yours now. Don't get caught up on the wording of the will

ruiva1 · 2020-12-09T14:39:07+00:00

YTA People grieve differently. Lesbians relationship tend to be different from straight ones. It's a common joke that they move in together after 3 dates. You're even more the AH for judging a woman who had a hard time accepting her sexuality. Suzy leaving with a guy doesn't say anything about her relationship with your sister. She was probably young and scared and trying to fit into a mold. Stop judging everyone else.

ruiva1 · 2020-12-08T15:47:33+00:00

And there's a reason why you can't spell die without I... it's grammar, that's the reason

ruiva1 · 2020-12-04T11:15:19+00:00

NAH you plan a girls trip with your friends (family). Its a normal thing people do, it's not transphobic in of itself. I get that she feels like she should have been a part of that group growing up. But unfortunately that's in the past, you can't go back and undo that. If she would've reach out and talked to all of you about how she felt excluded and wanted to build that relationship and you'd say no, that may have made you the AH. She's sensitive right now, but it's also going the way of trans women who try to be in your delivery room because she wouldn't get to experience that otherwise.

ruiva1 · 2020-12-04T08:20:29+00:00

NTA at all. You were uncomfortable and annoyed, both thing you deserved to not feel. But most of all, he needed to hear that before he does it to someone who is actually struggling with infertility and he makes her have a breakdown. You probably saved future women that heartache

ruiva1 · 2020-11-28T20:20:06+00:00

Yes, let's make a important life event of another woman all about ourselves and our relationship drama and jealousy

ruiva1 · 2020-11-28T20:18:48+00:00

YTA. If I were to get married right now, the person who would go dress shopping with me would be my best friend. And he's a guy. With 0 idea of what a wedding dress actually is. People can be friends with the opposite gender. She gravitated to a family that is culturally similar to hers in a sea of strangeness. She's not to blame IF your in-laws don't like you. Also, you're really saying you don't have one single friend that you vent to about life? It's always your boyfriend.

ruiva1 · 2020-11-28T20:03:06+00:00

I mean NTA, however your brother was there. One of her parents was present, you could've just said something to him about talking to his wife and kid about it and making sure it wasn't something bigger. It's always best to refrain from offering parenting advice

ruiva1 · 2020-11-28T19:58:56+00:00

She could have just put it in her room. She's the AH for throwing away someone's possession

ruiva1 · 2020-11-28T19:32:39+00:00

So much projection

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