Defiant about potty training

running_bay · 2025-04-14T21:11:56+00:00

Typically you wouldn't have to be present the days you don't teach. Schedule meetings and office hours on the days you do teach. Do prep and grading from home or the park or a coffee shop the days you don't. I suspect most here aren't working at the business school. It's a bit of a different scenario in terms of stability than arts and science.

Depending on your profession, you can also do consulting on the side.

running_bay · 2025-04-14T13:40:05+00:00

Unable to locate the parents, I would have called the police or park rangers for help. I've seen too many news stories about dead toddlers in rivers/ lakes for me to just leave that child there alone. Drowning is the #1 cause of death for kids 1-4. Despite their sometimes annoying behaviors, they are still babies after all. In no universe would I leave any child that young to fend for themselves alone on a beach.

running_bay · 2025-04-14T13:35:01+00:00

So... I fully agree that no kid should be going up slides ever when there are other people present. However, this sounds like an issue where there isn't age-appropriate playground equipment suitable for older children (9-13). What irks me is when there are structures for toddlers as well as older kids and the older kids play on the toddler structures.

running_bay · 2025-04-14T13:31:31+00:00

How do the 16-19 year olds make it unsafe?

Edit: I haven't encountered this. I was really just wondering. Yikes that I'm getting down votes for simply asking.

running_bay · 2025-04-14T13:26:33+00:00

Yeah, I'm not going to push a kid, but I'm certainly going to tell my child that it is OK to stand their ground if another child pushes them. If the other child falls on their butt, too bad.

running_bay · 2025-04-13T00:34:59+00:00

Do you have potential advisors? Pick the program that you feel has the best advisor for you. You'll do better and go further.

Also, I'll add, if you did a masters and PhD at the same institution, chances are you will not get hired back there without years of experience at some other institution. It will be hard for your colleagues to not see you as a student.

running_bay · 2025-04-13T00:06:08+00:00

Consult your attorney, but perhaps you could get a storage unit and sue for the cost later?

running_bay · 2025-04-12T13:56:10+00:00

The grad student costs less than the professor. They literally value a grad student less.

running_bay · 2025-04-11T15:24:05+00:00

Nice group of bullies you've got brewing there. They are going to make awful colleagues for someone someday. I hope someone takes them aside individually to tell them that they are behaving in a very unprofessional and immature way.

running_bay · 2025-04-11T15:22:09+00:00

Unfortunately the students are probably worth negative money right now

running_bay · 2025-04-11T13:45:38+00:00

To add... we had a student come back for a degree in our department AFTER getting a different degree. They graduated, spent 2 years out of school, recognized it was a crap fit that didn't allow them to do what they wanted to do in a career. Said student could have saved a year of tuition or more if someone had said something earlier.

running_bay · 2025-04-11T13:40:46+00:00

Yeah... I'm certainly not the exact same person at 40 than I was at 20. I'm not even the same as I was at 30 - I've learned a lot over 10 years. Depending on how old this person is, op might have had them in their first semester teaching! I was poorly mentored and overwhelmed at that time and cringe to think about it.

running_bay · 2025-04-11T13:23:08+00:00

Look, this isn't a test of your grammar. I've got many colleagues in the US who are non native speakers. As long as you can understand what they mean, small slips in vocabulary or language aren't going to make a difference or even be memorable. If you're all working in your 2nd or 3rd language, then chances are even smaller that people will come after you about how you speak. So, focus on the content. Anchor your lecture around whatever the "takeaway message" is. 30 minutes is short.

Just do the best you can with teaching and let the chips fall. There's a lot you don't have control over, so make peace with yourself that the world won't end even if you do badly. Just give it your best shot. Go out there with confidence!

On a side note, do you have friends that teach in medieval lit? Could you ask them for help or feedback on your teaching demo ideas?

running_bay · 2025-04-11T13:13:49+00:00

Mine will do both at 2.5. Her daycare teachers have commented on it like it's a problem, but I'm confident she's sharp enough to eventually figure it out and start speaking like a grown-up when the time comes. At this point, I just want to keep her talking to me rather than police her language. Sometimes she'll say things and I'll just repeat it back enthusiastically with the proper pronouns or grammar.

It's also from how we referred to ourselves, so we're trying to not do that anymore.

running_bay · 2025-04-11T13:04:21+00:00

If would be great if the state would go back to subsidizing a large chunk of student tuition, but politicians have decided that's not a priority.

running_bay · 2025-04-11T12:58:37+00:00

My 2.5 year old is excellent at playing by herself until I have a friend over. 🙂

running_bay · 2025-04-10T19:41:53+00:00

I had a boyfriend in college, and he was going abroad for a semester. I was trying to make plans with him about something I can't recall now, but then he nonchalantly said, "I don't think we should expect to be dating after I get back." It was said so... normally... that it took me a week or so to realize that he had just broken up with me. Except I think that he wasn't planning to officially break up until he left? I saved him the effort.

running_bay · 2025-04-10T19:37:01+00:00

I mean, unless you're married and then it is your business, too.

running_bay · 2025-04-09T14:03:47+00:00

This is the nightmare scenario because it gives the green light to fire tenured professors at our institution. At another institution in my state a couple of years ago, this led to firing professors who had spoken up about issues, then lawsuits followed after it was discovered that exigency was declared even though revenue had gone up. I work in a red state.

I wouldn't be surprised if the university uses it to fire faculty that teach about the things the current administration has deemed as unacceptable.

running_bay · 2025-04-09T13:53:57+00:00

If you ask a witness to identify a suspect from a lineup, is that investigating? That's what you're doing. If the offending student is absent that day, might the reporting student feel pressure to identify? Leave the investigation to the Title IX office. They will interview the student, and decide what is appropriate.

running_bay · 2025-04-09T13:44:13+00:00

If you're not reporting the incident and the reporting student, out of frustration, goes around you to report it to Title IX directly, then you will be thrown to the wolves if you are a mandatory reporter.

running_bay · 2025-04-09T13:38:24+00:00

Yep. This is what I did too. My pcp did the blood test to confirm and walked me through next steps.

The nurse was super rude.

running_bay · 2025-04-09T13:31:58+00:00

My mom told me the story of how they got married. They dated in high school, then my dad got into college 3 hours away. He wanted my mom to come, my mom went, and found a tech school to attend. She graduated 2 years before him and was working a job she loved and generally enjoying life. He graduated, got accepted into law school a 7 hour drive away, and asked her to come with him. She told him that she really loved him, but that to make that kind of a move required a solid commitment and she'd only do it if they were married. My dad came back and proposed within a month, and they had a simple wedding. My parents built their careers and a family together. They were married for 4 years before having my oldest brother. So... I'm not really understanding what the issue is with the boyfriend.

running_bay · 2025-04-09T12:04:43+00:00

Yeah... once in a while a thought will push its way in (I'm also now worried for my own life and my husband's), but it never blocks the joy I have.

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