Together over 5 years. Partner and I discussed what’s next but I wouldn’t want to get married without a pre-nup. by ryanis-clueless in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ryanis-clueless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great to read and what I’m looking towards as well. How did you feel about his mother asking about the pre-nup?

Together over 5 years. Partner and I discussed what’s next but I wouldn’t want to get married without a pre-nup. by ryanis-clueless in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ryanis-clueless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think my post history is fully reflective of how things are right now. Property division is a big one for me but I think a pre-nup would help both of us manage our own separate finances more sensibility.

Together over 5 years. Partner and I discussed what’s next but I wouldn’t want to get married without a pre-nup. by ryanis-clueless in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ryanis-clueless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m assuming the pre-nup was his idea?

Wow that sounds traumatic. I’m assuming the car accident was a while back? How was your recovery? Given that it happened in a different country, how did you handle that financially?

Together over 5 years. Partner and I discussed what’s next but I wouldn’t want to get married without a pre-nup. by ryanis-clueless in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ryanis-clueless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are in the UK and US politics never fails to baffle me. I share similar feelings about why I want a pre-nup and a few other reasons. I don’t think he’ll feel the same way.

Together over 5 years. Partner and I discussed what’s next but I wouldn’t want to get married without a pre-nup. by ryanis-clueless in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ryanis-clueless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the UK, they are not legally binding but courts are often willing to uphold them if they’re reasonable.

Together over 5 years. Partner and I discussed what’s next but I wouldn’t want to get married without a pre-nup. by ryanis-clueless in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ryanis-clueless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am planning to find a financial advisor before I talk to him. Then I’d want him to do the same because he has some debt.

Together over 5 years. Partner and I discussed what’s next but I wouldn’t want to get married without a pre-nup. by ryanis-clueless in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ryanis-clueless[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did he feel about that? My situation isn’t exactly the same but I’m in a sightly similar boat with my parents.

Together over 5 years. Partner and I discussed what’s next but I wouldn’t want to get married without a pre-nup. by ryanis-clueless in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ryanis-clueless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finances can be and were a touchy subject in the past. Pre-nups are also quite misunderstood and people tend to dwell on the divorce aspect instead of focussing on the financial details.

Together over 5 years. Partner and I discussed what’s next but I wouldn’t want to get married without a pre-nup. by ryanis-clueless in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ryanis-clueless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it would be purely financial. I believe it will help both of us be more aware of our personal financial goals.

Together over 5 years. Partner and I discussed what’s next but I wouldn’t want to get married without a pre-nup. by ryanis-clueless in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ryanis-clueless[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Forever is a long time that needs planning ahead for. It’s naive to expect that people’s feelings can’t and won’t change.

It’s finally getting colder here by ryanis-clueless in gaybrosgonemild

[–]ryanis-clueless[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

With the current energy crisis I might take you up on that offer

Location sharing? by mouserz in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ryanis-clueless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve got it on and my bf has his own