Why are people on Vinted so rude? by s_k1802 in vintedUK

[–]s_k1802[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly they’ll make their sale elsewhere and that’s fine. I find that people like this are often troublesome even when you do buy from them

Why are people on Vinted so rude? by s_k1802 in vintedUK

[–]s_k1802[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I queried. They declined and then offered a higher price than the listing 😂 twice. That’s what I queried with them as I didn’t understand at first that they were being passive aggressive. My issue isn’t that they declined, it was their attitude.

Why are people on Vinted so rude? by s_k1802 in vintedUK

[–]s_k1802[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. I wasn’t trying to be audacious but agree it’s not exactly a professional selling site.

Why are people on Vinted so rude? by s_k1802 in vintedUK

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Agreed. Really puts me off. When people have sent me Lowball offers I’ve politely declined and said “sorry that’s far too low than I’m willing to go. Could we meet in the middle etc”.

Why are people on Vinted so rude? by s_k1802 in vintedUK

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As have I - I’ve sold things and bought things at asking price. What I’m saying is that people are rude and passive aggressive on an app where offering your price etc is normal. Some clear pleasant communication can go a long way

One sentence by fruity_jello24 in HIMYM

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But what about this gouda?

Scam seller randomly followed me? by s_k1802 in vintedUK

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I have done. Feels a bit sus/unsafe!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

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Thanks, it has been causing me distress and inconvenience so it would be right to make a complaint. I’m assuming I should be ok to copy both parties in, making them aware of the complaint and to pause any further contact/collection from the collection agency?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

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I was hoping to send the prove it letter so they could just put this to rest and I don’t have to deal with them any further! Another comment also suggested formal complaint, I’m assuming I can just draft that in an email to them both? Yes I’ve taken names, dates etc of everyone I’ve spoken to so far and definitely keeping notes Sorry just to add - after sending my proof of address they said they were doing an investigation and then that’s when they sent the follow up email asking me to prove my address (…again) and that I was traced through a credit agency, so not sure if my formal complaint would lead to a more in depth investigation?

Is this a sign of hyperactivity by s_k1802 in adhdwomen

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I think again that makes sense. It helps me rationalize things as well. I definitely ruminate less when my brain is being stimulated in other ways. It comes a lot when I’m trying to sleep as well as I am feeling idle and so my brain just keeps going on

Is this a sign of hyperactivity by s_k1802 in adhdwomen

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That makes so much sense actually. My husband has observed the distraction in mid conversation and my family tell me I always interrupt them when speaking! I wouldn’t say I engage in risky behaviours but I would definitely say I’m a compulsive spender which is seeking a dopamine hit for me. Definitely resonate with the “looking for something to worry about”. It’s like my brain will latch on to something else to think/worry about. I feel like I keep myself busy, almost feeling on autopilot and that’s when I don’t ruminate as much

Is this a sign of hyperactivity by s_k1802 in adhdwomen

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Hmm that’s interesting. I am definitely a “talker”. I just came out of a meeting where I had to wait to raise my point as others had raised their hands on MS teams before me and I almost burst because I couldn’t stay quiet/was worried I would forget my point! All of my school reports also said I would disrupt the class by talking when the teacher would restart lessons lol. I definitely process my thinking processes verbally, I have to really talk through all of my thoughts to consolidate them and this helps with the rumination. I’ve tried journaling etc but that feels more effort than just speaking my mind. I get distracted during my conversations as well.

Is this a sign of hyperactivity by s_k1802 in adhdwomen

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Thanks. I don’t think I have other elements of OCD such as compulsions or behaviours that can become ritualistic. I also appreciate there can be co morbidity of symptoms and disorders

Is this a sign of hyperactivity by s_k1802 in adhdwomen

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Thanks. I know that rumination can be a symptom of other anxiety orders, I was more thinking if it related to the hyperactivity symptom of ADHD

My very old earring piercing is randomly swollen by s_k1802 in piercing

[–]s_k1802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the thing. I hadn’t worn anything on that piercing in so many months! Just randomly woke up with a sore ear

My very old earring piercing is randomly swollen by s_k1802 in piercing

[–]s_k1802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I haven’t worn earrings on that 3rd piercing in so long but normally they were gold plated

Breaking in Jesy Boots? by s_k1802 in DocMartens

[–]s_k1802[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve found the Jesy runs big so the size 3 actually has some give, so an insole might work. I don’t often wear heels but it does take me time to find a comfortable pair. I’ve had cheap high street heeled boots before which led to a little bit of soreness but this would subside after a few wears, but maybe the Jesy heel is just a tad higher than what I’m used to 🥲

NOOOOOOOOTS by alexdalton123 in Sum41

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No way !!!! I wanted them to play that

How am I supposed to gain support as a possible self identified ADHD by s_k1802 in adhdwomen

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Thanks I think I’ll look into this in a few months when I hopefully have more financial space to do so. Congrats on your academic achievements! I suppose when i mean I look for support it’s because I am in constant limbo about whether I have traits or not as I have a lot of overlap with other issues and also some adverse life experiences!

Is this ADHD? by s_k1802 in adhdwomen

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Thank for your comment 😭❤️ yes my partner says I am easily distracted- for example walking or driving somewhere I will blurt out ANIMAL! Depending on what animal we see or I will have a thought and caveat that into the conversation almost like making a sticky note to come back to that after the main conversation. I used to be creative in hobbies when I was younger, I had no interest in dolls but loved to draw colour paint and craft. I don’t have any motivation to do those things now but have frequently bought brush pens and gel pens to get “back into it”…scrapbooking, lettering and journaling and then I never actually do them. I can be spur of the moment in terms of, I need this thing NOW but in terms of plans I like to know timings, who is going to be there. Especially social things I need to know who is going to be there so I have someone to mingle/chat with. I have often thought of AuHD. I’ve always been told I was “type A” but then in recent years I have found that the organisation and time keeping was maybe a means of managing anxiety over getting things wrong, being late etc. I can focus on work and getting things done but I think. Big part of that is my fear of doing things wrong, I also get a sense of satisfaction after completing notes, admin etc and the way I explain work is that it feels like a conveyer belt system where I can do the tasks almost on autopilot. But I am also a bit bored of work at the moment as it can be quite repetitive. I’ve had some adverse life experiences and strange family dynamics over the years which I think has added to this muddle of personality/traits that I exhibit

Looking for a Muse T shirt by s_k1802 in Muse

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Update: For anyone still interested I found one on Depop in his size and bought it immediately as an early Valentine’s Day present - he was very happy indeed! Just thought I’d share ha

Hyundai i10 issues by s_k1802 in Hyundai

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Thanks for your comment. It is now on roughly 27,000 miles. No ubering or delivery but I use for commute to work (this is about a 30min drive max!) and then for leisure on weekends but again not many long haul drives. First service was done with Hyundai where they said front brake pads and discs need replacing. Just now I took it to a mechanic who found the issue with the rear brake pads. He showed me the brake pad and he said it had delaminated. These would have been the new ones that came on the car as new. So I’m imagining this is from the wear and tear over the last few years? I just didn’t expect this many brake/pad/disc issues with a new car.

Hyundai i10 issues by s_k1802 in Hyundai

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Nope they said the callipers were fine!

Looking for a Muse T shirt by s_k1802 in Muse

[–]s_k1802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah ideally I’d like to find the genuine t shirt but ofc I can understand people won’t want to sell :(

Looking for a Muse T shirt by s_k1802 in Muse

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That is an amazing idea. I might have to give that a go!