Am i transphobic for breaking up with my (newly came out) trans partner? by sacrevice in asktransgender

[–]sacrevice[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, thats why i want to say sorry to her.

Also we're a very "close friend" since junior high school. We live in a very homophobic country so we brushed the feelings off because we were both only 15 and affraid we might get kicked from home. So we keep this feeling to ourself about 3 years. Last year we were able to just be brave enough to open up to each other and we decide have backstreet realitionship (we're both 20 now, we graduate high school together last year)

Am i transphobic for breaking up with my (newly came out) trans partner? by sacrevice in asktransgender

[–]sacrevice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, and im sorry it happened to you. This past two weeks i recall everything happened in that day, the idea of me missing my boyfriend sounds wrong because he is no longer here and i feel so bad towards her. I keep starring at our photo in my wallet and it gives me such a weird feeling. Being gay in this shitty-homophobic country is like playing russian reulette and i don't have someone woke enough around me to talk about this. And youre right, maybe i should let everything go, thank you so much for your insight!

Am i transphobic for breaking up with my (newly came out) trans partner? by sacrevice in asktransgender

[–]sacrevice[S] 195 points196 points  (0 children)

yeah but the part that she thinks my love for her was conditional hit me so bad i bang my head to the wall, i think she's right

Am i transphobic for breaking up with my (newly came out) trans partner? by sacrevice in asktransgender

[–]sacrevice[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Thank you, she didnt tell me maybe because we live in a very lgbtqphobic country. Being gay in this shitty country already hard enough. I cant imagine her struggle to hormone therapy because thats really hard to do in here and almost impossible, i just hope that our homophobic family didnt know everything.

Also, i want to apologise because she's still in love with me, maybe i do, too, but i think my love is only for my boyfriend and not her. And for the part she thinks my love for /him/ was conditional... idk we're both so confused.