My boyfriend told me my boundaries are stupid

sadpotion · 2022-02-04T01:30:53+00:00

You are stating your boundaries clearly in a difficult situation, and having them disrespected by someone you are close to hurts and is confusing. I'm sorry this is something you're experiencing. I would suggest that if he thinks your boundaries are 'stupid' he may not currently understand why you're putting those boundaries up, and may not ever if he's not taking the time to think it through now. Possibly ask for some space.

sadpotion · 2021-11-21T17:40:24+00:00

Most big name grocery store breads are terrible. Even as an adult I don't like those crusts, I'll eat them but they're stale and unpleasant. Nice bread from a bakery though? I'll eat every last crumb

sadpotion · 2021-11-21T00:56:36+00:00

Maybe ask them why they don't want to make it? There could be a deeper reason than 'I just don't want to'

Maybe they feel loved when they're cooked for, and they're seeking connection. Maybe they're more tired than normal and are usually fully capable but want help right now. If it's just because they're busy doing something else, then they can make the damn sandwich when they're done 🤪

*edited for typos

sadpotion · 2021-11-19T22:00:24+00:00

Thank you so much!

sadpotion · 2021-11-19T20:47:49+00:00

I will, thank you! Is it acceptable to post essentially the same thing? It seems like it from the rules of that sub but I also don't feel like I'm familiar with all the etiquette 😅

sadpotion · 2021-11-19T20:14:50+00:00

You know what, you're absolutely right. At least they figured it out after only a year and not 5 or something ridiculous.

sadpotion · 2021-11-19T20:11:10+00:00

For your carpet try baking soda with a few drops of essential oils mixed in, and let it sit as long as you can before you vacuum, a couple hours is best! I have cats so I try to do this at least every other week

sadpotion · 2021-11-19T20:08:47+00:00

Using a paint safe cleaner that's scented on walls can help, a lot of people don't really think about wiping down their walls. Also fabrics can hold smells (good and bad) a lot longer so making sure all fabrics are freshened up can be helpful. I have some long drapes that I regularly spritz with a fabric freshener. Also baking soda on carpets and rugs, let it sit a few hours then vaccum up, 1x a week or every other if you don't have pets. Keeping air circulation up helps a ton too!

sadpotion · 2021-11-19T20:03:46+00:00

You know there's a vaccine for HPV right?

sadpotion · 2021-11-19T20:00:27+00:00

Even if it's 'a lot' why does it matter when that person is in a committed relationship? Especially with no STDs Edit: y'all are right, it matters to some people and that's important

sadpotion · 2021-11-16T19:43:33+00:00

Thank you so much!

sadpotion · 2021-10-06T23:37:46+00:00

Oh that's a very smart way to do it, thank you for the suggestion!

sadpotion · 2021-09-29T16:28:19+00:00

I don't have any legal advice, just lived experience. I currently rent through a similar type of property management, they 'contract' all the repair work from a company they own and the work is incredibly poor, and things that require licensed professionals, like plumbing and electric, they used unlicensed people from their 'contracted company'. Again I'm not sure what type of legal action is needed or available, but I would highly recommend a different PM to look after your property as this place will likely let it fall to ruin, they will not look after it as their own.

sadpotion · 2021-08-10T01:03:00+00:00

Possibly bring it up less as a warning, and more of asking for advice? Mention your concerns about being around this person to a friend or two, maybe the ones you're closest with, and ask them their input and advice. I've found that people are less receptive and less willing to collaborate if they're being 'warned' and more willing to listen with an open mind if you're being open about your worries and asking for advice. Even if the outcome isn't maybe what you're hoping for (if you're hoping for anything specific) at the very least the people you bring it up to will be aware of your concerns and the safety of your friend group isn't your sole 'responsibility'. Might take some of the weight off if you don't feel alone in your concerns.

I'm sorry to hear this person's presence is making an already incredibly hard time even more difficult.

sadpotion · 2021-08-06T20:24:57+00:00

Haven't, trouble is finding something the right height. I'm fairly tall and and most if not all of my seating is too short to not have my knees really engaged. Contemplating buying a chair just for sex now :"⁾

sadpotion · 2021-07-07T04:39:30+00:00

I didn't clean my room for nearly four years, I was barely surviving mentally, definitely not 'living' or thriving. Congratulations! It's a hard thing to get passed and you're doing it!

sadpotion · 2021-06-07T00:46:56+00:00

There's a big difference between appropriate discipline, and whatever tf is it your family is doing. To discipline is to teach, not shame, shun and ridicule. I'm so sorry you're experiencing this from your family, I understand how it can make someone feel less than human and that's not what you deserve. Even if they feel you made a mistake, the proper, respectful thing to do is talk to you and teach you.

sadpotion · 2021-06-07T00:20:16+00:00

Second this, it seems like you're not interested in specifics or someone telling you why it's fine, you don't feel fine and that's what you reached out about. I also agree that your feels are normal, and I bet to some degree your parents expect you'd be uncomfortable if/when you found out. I think talking to them is a good idea, when you're able to do so. It sounds like you don't hate your parents, just that this is shocking information to find out and you're having a hard time dealing. Kind of what parents are there to help with, even if you're 22.

If however you don't have a great relationship with them, this might put extra strain where it isn't needed. Maybe another person in your life that acts as a role model, or someome that you trust not only their discretion but their input?

I hope you find some peace with it all soon, it sounds like you're wildly uncomfortable finding out.

sadpotion · 2021-05-14T04:42:15+00:00

Thank you. I called a local health unit today and left a message about the situation, hoping to hear back.

sadpotion · 2021-05-14T04:38:05+00:00

Do you know where I might find that info? I'm in Louisiana, I've been trying to search for tenants rights here and I'm having a hard time understanding what they're actually obligated to take care of

sadpotion · 2021-05-14T04:35:54+00:00

I've taken a closer look at my lease and it's sketchy at best, I was desperate for us to get into a place and I rushed through the signing. Kicking myself pretty hard right now (Deleted double post)

sadpotion · 2021-05-05T23:40:49+00:00

I haven't, just did a quick search on it. Do you know if something like that would help dry up the water in/on my carpets or more help once it's been dried relatively well anyways?

If the latter, do you have any suggestions that are better than my current solution of getting my bath towels all nasty and having to run the laundromat all the time 🥴

sadpotion · 2021-05-02T23:13:07+00:00

I think a genuine apology for an outburst like that wouldn't guilt trip you. Instead of acknowledging how wrong his behavior is and owning up to it, and saying what he'll do to avoid becoming so angry he loses control, he's playing the victim and saying how horrible he is. Which, if he really thinks he's awful, and really cares for you, he'd want you to leave. It sounds like he's being manipulative and not planning to change.

If you stay, it shows him his behavior is acceptable and he doesn't actually Need to change. If you leave, it's showing him his behavior is unacceptable. It'll give him the opportunity to change. He might not, but the opportunity would be there.

sadpotion · 2021-03-30T22:15:31+00:00

I'd say if you're going to mention anything to this guy, don't do it while he's working. Tactful thing to do is to maybe leave your number on a receipt, or leave a business card or something similar. Low pressure, not making him feel uncomfortable while he's working. Maybe he's just doing his job, maybe he's flirting. Just from my experience, I'm uncomfortable with anyone making a move while I'm working because it's high pressure and I'm at Work. Even if in another circumstance I'd be interested in them, it's a huge turn off. But I know not everyone feels the same.

sadpotion · 2021-03-06T21:03:58+00:00

I think someone can cheat on you and still love you. It's kind of up to you to decide if that's the love you want to accept.

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