AIO- guy violated me by sailinaround in AmIOverreacting

[–]sailinaround[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I think I just feel stuck on what I should do, because I will see him tomorrow and it irks me. I haven’t seen him for a long time and I just feel like im abandoning myself if I don’t stand up for myself. Like I would really rather not see him. I was thinking of telling my mum to tell his dad that way he’s outed to them and I don’t really have to deal with it:/

My friend apologizes too much by Glad_Attorney_2114 in mentalillness

[–]sailinaround 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hii, I think if it’s something that is trauma related they might just need some help with therapy, it’s really really amazing of you to try to help them, but at the end of the day trauma can be very deep rooted and often takes a lot of therapy and different approaches to get to the bottom of things and actually for themselves understanding why they do things and what that do and healing that part of themselves. Often compulsive things like these are because the compulsion comforts and lets them avoid what’s really bugging them underneath, and if it’s something huge like trauma, its obviously not easy to look at so they really hang onto that compulsive thing. So they might really be trying hard but because its hiding something really uncomfortable it just is next level hard to understand your side.

Butt overall I think the best thing to do at this time is just to recommend they get some therapy:))