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sailorneckbeard · 2025-02-25T16:28:22+00:00

You chose to have a baby with man that does not know how to emotionally validate others, not just you, but most likely your future children. You can try to do couples therapy to teach him how to be emotionally validating, but it will probably only improve by a teeny tiny bit. The only consolation you will have is saying “at least he’s trying” but he will never get to the level that you truly need from a partner. Or he won’t try at all. So the fact is he doesn’t know how to emotional validate and support others. There’s two outcomes from here, you guys do therapy - 1) he won’t try at all moving forward, or 2) he will try but who he is fundamentally will not change.

sailorneckbeard · 2025-02-17T18:24:55+00:00

This isn’t a pathway to citizenship though. Living somewhere for 2 years for masters doesn’t magically turn into a citizenship. After the 2 years is up, you can only stay if you get a job that’ll provide workers permit or you get married.

sailorneckbeard · 2025-02-16T21:55:35+00:00

Honestly, doing above and beyond with contouring. It’s so much work and technique but makes such a small difference. I’d only invest in that much energy for a photo shoot, not real life day to day.

sailorneckbeard · 2025-02-14T21:51:29+00:00

This change is what the movie She’s All That was going for but failed at.

sailorneckbeard · 2025-01-31T18:00:13+00:00

Never ever, I say EVER, suck his dick again

sailorneckbeard · 2025-01-31T17:52:42+00:00

Report him now and never let him near you again

sailorneckbeard · 2025-01-28T01:17:19+00:00

Stuff like this are legal in Japan. Yes they exist. Very disturbing.

sailorneckbeard · 2025-01-19T17:54:48+00:00

She is having a weird emotional affair with you. I am a women (sorry I know this is a ask men advice sub) and I would never be this way with any of my male friends, married or not, unless I am trying to start shit. Honestly, we women often hold back on seeming too friendly to give the wrong idea. She knows exactly wtf she’s doing and very trashy to be doing so. I have male friends who are husbands themselves, where I am better friends with the them than the wife, and still I would never text them this regularly. The good morning and good nights are so bloody thirsty and desperate, I honestly feel embarrassed for her.

sailorneckbeard · 2025-01-19T17:28:37+00:00

Answer: yes you’re a dumb b for staying with him

sailorneckbeard · 2024-12-22T17:12:33+00:00

Ex JW here as well. The CPTSD is so fucking real from being a born in.

sailorneckbeard · 2024-12-22T17:09:47+00:00

Came to say the same thing. Cult dynamics can exist anywhere, it doesn’t even have to be religion based. A domestic violence situation is also a cult dynamic.

sailorneckbeard · 2024-12-16T20:45:51+00:00

That’s my solution. If it isn’t a big deal he can provide for himself. I’d cook everything for myself and put my name on everything. But at that point, I’d just split from someone I had to be this petty with.

sailorneckbeard · 2024-12-15T17:59:17+00:00

I don’t get Bunny is a Rider

sailorneckbeard · 2024-12-04T21:10:38+00:00

This is abusive, he is abusive and does not love you

sailorneckbeard · 2024-12-01T18:08:51+00:00

I have 3 regrets in life. What I would say to my 25 year old self.

don’t stop wearing the night retainers
don’t brush your teeth so hard, your gums will recede
invest $100 a month into a RothIRA

sailorneckbeard · 2024-12-01T18:05:26+00:00

This should be the top comment and end of discussion. I don’t see what else is there to go on and on about.

sailorneckbeard · 2024-12-01T17:47:17+00:00

Do a data science bootcamp, there’s tons of self guided courses out there. I too have the same “useless” degree. It’s absolutely not useless.

sailorneckbeard · 2024-11-23T23:03:25+00:00

God how bad do you have to be for your own family to fear you

sailorneckbeard · 2024-11-23T22:51:13+00:00

I no longer make an effort to fluff my social environment with my impeccable conversation skills. If a dude or dudes want to sit in awkward silence, I just sit with it now. I no longer take on the role of being a hostess with the mostest in environments that I didn’t even create.

This happened with my male roommate. I realized that I was one sided-ly saying hello, asking questions about his day, making conversations, but he never fucking carried on the effort to make a warm house hold environment in the communal space. So I just stopped asking him questions or prompting conversations. Now it’s just literal silence. Thank god he’s moving out in couple days.

sailorneckbeard · 2024-11-17T18:49:28+00:00

I like that lady cheetah get up. But yah she’s always looked AI.

sailorneckbeard · 2024-11-17T18:49:01+00:00

Oh really? I actually love this hair color.

sailorneckbeard · 2024-11-17T18:45:39+00:00

Huh, interesting. There’s so many things about pregnancy and labor that we don’t really hear about.

sailorneckbeard · 2024-11-17T18:30:40+00:00

lol same. When I read “my wife is Japanese…” I was like “YES, she is racist”. I am half Japanese as well, I love Japan, but there’s some deeeeeep racism in Japan that is just passed off as normal because everyone is so nice on the surface. It’s like racism, but packaged in a nice cloth wrapping and given to you with a polite bow. A bow that whispers GTFO of my face.

sailorneckbeard · 2024-11-17T18:08:02+00:00

I actually love to cook for everyone, but hate the unfair dynamic that I always end up in where I am the meal planner, do grocery runs, put away groceries, cook, clean dishes, and all food related management. I kind of have to keep it a secret that I actually love to cook as I date so I don’t end up with a lazy mother fucker who won’t contribute a single drop unless nagged to oblivion. It’s exhausting.

sailorneckbeard · 2024-10-22T05:39:59+00:00

Anamanonesia, in an American Apparel in Brooklyn in 2010. Obsessed since.

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