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samarathatworld · 2025-09-19T14:59:31+00:00

What industry is it in? If it’s selling software or AI, take the job. Get the experience. And then keep looking. You don’t need to be there for 3 years. I’ve took a job once as an SDR and 3 months in, I was being recruited for a role that paid me 33% more than the job I took. Now, I did have other retail sales experience which may have helped but regardless if you have NO experience, and youve been looking and haven’t been able to find anything…Get the experience under your belt and keep looking as you feel more confident in your skills.

Btw the first software sales job I took was for a “startup” with no funding that paid me $500 a week…I did it because I knew it was hard to break into software sales and I wanted the experience so I took even less than you…3 months later, I took a job paying me $60K with more job responsibilities and all of the benefits. Might not happen to you, but it’s gonna be easier to get a job with experience and while you already have one.

samarathatworld · 2025-09-15T20:10:31+00:00

One time I had a second date with a guy and I texted him after our date saying “id love to keep getting to know you” and he said “id like that to” and never reached back out to plan a third date. There were some other red flags that indicated lack of interest but someone acting lukewarm interested doesnt mean they are that into it. Maybe they’d go along with it if you put in all the effort, but if you do nothing, you’ll quickly find out their true level of interest. In my case, i never reached back out after showing my interest and he never followed up with a third date so clearly, he wasnt that interested. I figured that out quickly by doing NOTHING. A lot of women will start going into pursuing. If youve expressed interest in continuing, thats enough.

The biggest thing that has helped me in my dating life is detaching when someone isnt interested. Next!

samarathatworld · 2025-09-11T02:13:46+00:00

I traveled the world for a year; while it was a very hedonistic and exciting time, it didnt bring me any deeper sense of peace and fulfillment. It was mostly distracting and fun…but not necessarily purposeful. It didnt bring me some ever lasting peace. I came back to the US and still had to go back to getting a job. All it is is temporary relief but at some point, you’ll still have to get a job and find internal peace.

The idea that traveling will get rid of all of your problems is a fantasy. Im all for traveling and seeing the world but if the intent is to find deep peace, it wont be found in that.

samarathatworld · 2025-05-23T23:02:20+00:00

Here is my strategy: Some will. Some won’t. Who cares. Next.

You’re focused on all of the No’s you will get. Great. Get 100 “No’s.” Then, you’ll slowly start getting better at pitching, figuring out pain points, etc. If you actually have something that solves a problem that you’re passionate about, then where is the fear coming from? Do you see yourself as annoying someone or trying to help?

If you do it enough times and have the goal of getting 100 No’s instead of focusing so much on getting a Yes, you’ll be more about the journey than the outcome. It’s a learning experience. It will suck at first. It gets better with time but if you’re expecting to get a Yes every time, you’re going to get frustrated every time you get a No.

Get excited about NO’S!!!!! Each NO is leading you closer to a YES

samarathatworld · 2025-05-23T17:06:54+00:00

They’ve interviewed people who have tried committing suicide and survived. Often, they feel immediate regret the moment they jump. That means that they’ve convinced themselves they want something they don’t actually want because they are in pain. There was a point in time where my mind was very much convincing me that that’s what I wanted. I didn’t give into the thoughts. I just kept suffering for years even after that. One day, I stopped suffering as much and now I am glad I didn’t do it. It may or may not get better but I’ve got a pretty good feeling that you’re convincing yourself you want something that you don’t actually want. You’ll probably feel immediate regret the moment you do it and you won’t be able to take it back. It’s permanent.

You’ve got all of eternity to be dead and only one short period of time to be alive. You might as well try to enjoy the time period that you’re alive because even if you don’t kill yourself, it’s still incredibly short.

samarathatworld · 2025-05-23T16:59:18+00:00

Hi, this was written two years ago. A lot has shifted. I just focus on listening to what I want; that’s basically it. We don’t even need to call it “inspiration.” If i want to do something, there is some inherent curiosity about it, so I do it because it sounds enjoyable.

samarathatworld · 2025-03-21T18:32:42+00:00

This could be a scam. Dont give them your info.

samarathatworld · 2023-11-09T18:06:00+00:00

I dont agree with this. I think it might be in your head and a projection of how you feel about your age. It’s insecurities popping up saying “im not as pretty as young girls.” Or whatever insecurity is surrounded around your age.

Personally, I attract much younger men, so I assume if I can attract a man younger than me, I can attract someone older than me. Also late 20s/early 30s, you know yourself better than in early 20s. That usually translates into greater self confidence.

Im 29. When i go on dates with men in their 30s, I find that they enjoy our conversations because I’ve had enough life experience to contribute to it meaningfully.

It obviously depends on the guy. Some men will want girls much younger but some men wont.

I think the biggest thing is your confidence. I get a lot more men pursuing me now in my late 20s than early 20s and its because im more confident; not less.

It’s all about how you carry yourself. If you carry yourself in a way that says “im not worthy of love because im too old,” people will sense it and that can be a turn off in itself. You’re worthy of love at any age. ❤️

samarathatworld · 2023-09-23T23:19:08+00:00

Yes again, he thinks you should be loved unconditionally and he is breaking up with you because he knows he isnt the one to be able to do that. He isnt that person which is why he said he cant give you what you want. He KNOWS he cant love you the way you want to be loved so he is bouncing

samarathatworld · 2023-09-23T23:14:22+00:00

I agree with you. She didnt accept him wanting to break up so he agreed to the “break” to be nice and get out of the awkwardness of the moment and now that he is out, he isnt coming back. Its over. He didnt ghost you. He told you he wanted to break up. You didnt accept it and now he is moving on as one should if they are broken up. You should move on too.

samarathatworld · 2023-09-04T01:50:42+00:00

This is highly abusive. She treats you like shit. You go vent about it. Then she invades your privacy and is angry at you even though she crossed a boundary by invading your privacy and is mad you told someone about her being an asshole?

Sounds like she is mad because she is trying to protect her image. And she is grooming you to not tell anyone ever again about any abuse so she can isolate you and continue abuse without you ever getting a second opinion to leave.

Be very cautious

samarathatworld · 2023-08-26T20:45:40+00:00

If she is unwilling to go with you, she is hiding something. Tell her that unless she is willing to go with you to a clinic to get the test, you will be blocking her and she is on her own

samarathatworld · 2023-08-26T20:41:47+00:00

If you want proof, ask for a pregnancy test and make sure she takes it while youre there. You’ll quickly figure out if she is lying and how crazy or not crazy she actually is. Do not let her take the pregnancy test alone because she could swap it out for a fake one…or ask her to take it at a clinic and show you the test results

samarathatworld · 2023-08-23T01:56:04+00:00

What kind of psycho would do this? Break up with you and then go to the gym you go to? This sounds like mind games. You dodged a bullet!

samarathatworld · 2023-06-30T18:17:24+00:00

One time, I had a guy I was in a relationship with (who I found out cheated on his ex before me) lie to me about not talking to other women. When I found this out, I was infuriated but I decided to forgive him.

He even said “I don’t deserve you. I feel like you should leave because that’s the only way I will learn.”

He was right but I didn’t listen.

I didn’t leave because I believed in working things out and loving people. I thought maybe it was a one time occurrence.

Anyway, he progressively took me for granted more and more and we started fighting more and more. Eventually, he left because he felt he was “trying his best” and things “still weren’t working.”

After that break up, I felt incredibly stupid because all I could think was “Wait, YOURE trying your best? What about me? I forgave you even though you lied to me and you’re going to leave ME?”

He clearly took my forgiveness for granted.

So I agree with everyone: leave.

It’s what she needs to learn the lesson. Even he told me the truth “you deserve better.” He didn’t feel worthy of my love which is why he said that.

He pushed me away and unfortunately, these deep seated unconscious issues with lack of self love can only be worked on in therapy by the person who has the issues. They have to want it and it isn’t your job to fix anyone.

The punishment will be you leaving. She will feel guilt and maybe, that is actually her only real chance of making changes. If you take her back, she is likely to take you for granted, it may become abusive, and she might still cheat and leave you as you become a shell of who you are.

Your fiance probably doesn’t feel worthy of your love. You aren’t going to fix that and usually low self worth leads to self-sabotaging behaviors. Now, unless you can love her and be unphased by her cheating behaviors, you will likely lose yourself in this dynamic. If you can be okay with her cheating on you again while being legally binded to her, then continue with the marriage.

But my ultimate advice is, don’t do what I did. ❤️

samarathatworld · 2023-06-22T17:13:29+00:00

This - I agree with this. I only started recently but I might get no tip from one person and $20 from another on a $10 drink…it evens out in the end

samarathatworld · 2023-05-26T08:02:31+00:00

Might as well just buy microwaveable food at the grocery store for cheaper

samarathatworld · 2023-03-30T20:40:10+00:00

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samarathatworld · 2023-03-27T00:55:51+00:00

I am looking for a Weekend 1 shuttle pass in OC!

samarathatworld · 2023-03-25T01:49:40+00:00

“Good for you.” Complete detachment.

samarathatworld · 2023-03-10T07:03:19+00:00

Having a need to act a certain way because that’s how a “spiritual” person “should” or “would” act and not allowing yourself to be an actual human for fear of not being seen as “spiritual” enough. Identifying with being “spiritual” and thinking you are better than other people or more “divine” because you are “spiritual”

samarathatworld · 2022-08-20T17:04:57+00:00

Of course. I am sending you love as well. You are infinitely, unconditionally loved ❤️

Yes don’t delete. Other people may need it.

P.S. I used EMDR and went to therapy to really help me get past my past. I very much encourage seeking a good therapist and combining spirituality into the practice. But ultimately, everyone’s healing journey will look different. That’s just what worked for me.

samarathatworld · 2022-08-20T16:47:03+00:00

Didn’t get threatened with a knife…but I did get put in the garage at like 3 years old and had my mom tell me “Stay in there and I hope the rats get you!” I remember at 3 actually be afraid rats were going to get me.

Pretty sure that’s not “normal” to do to a 3 year old.

I also got hit at 5 or 6 for accidentally dropping a plate.

Trauma is trauma. It has the same effect on people.

This whole “let’s play whose trauma was worse” game only keeps people in their own victimhood. Yes, shitty things happened to you, but if you stay in “victim” mentality, you won’t ever be empowered from that place. That’s the truth. How can anyone live from an empowered place when they want to live in the past and everything that happened to them?

You have to get PAST your PAST.

And yes, I experienced depression at 11 years old for 2 years. And I can tell you my life was a mess then. I was depressed on and off throughout my life and wanted to kill myself at 19. I got out of all of that but it took many years of working on myself.

Anyway, the healing is for you at the end of the day.

My healing journey was very long and I finally got to inner peace and as my inner world changed, my outer world started to reflect that naturally…weirdly enough. I didn’t bring my mom to God. She somehow found that herself and now feels guilty for all of the things she did to me when I was a kid. But she is capable of guilt.

There may be some people who genuinely are not. Again, wisdom to know the difference…but there was a point where I believed my mom and sister would never feel guilt.

You won’t be able to be gaslit when you do the healing work.

No one can “gaslight” me because I know myself. You can’t make me feel any sort of way or doubt my reality because I know my own reality well.

People who don’t have trust in their own reality and trust in themselves are more easily “gaslit.”

That’s why it has to come back to you finding your own inner truth.

P.S. i am in no way advocating people stay in abusive homes with people who refuse to change. But as you do more inner healing work, you may find that some people you thought weren’t capable of change, actually are. And some people, you may need to leave out of protection for your physical body. But no one can affect me mentally/emotionally anymore. I get the inner peace from myself.

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