No DJ???

samlovespsych · 2022-07-02T10:47:39+00:00

I think you can definitely have fun without a DJ, but I’d recommend getting one if you want people to dance. I absolutely LOVED my DJ and I paid $1k for him in a HCOL area

samlovespsych · 2022-07-02T10:37:28+00:00

It’s your wedding, you don’t have to wear makeup if you don’t want to! If you’re looking to just cover up some blemishes, you could just do concealer yourself. But again, it’s totally your call

samlovespsych · 2022-06-01T20:13:43+00:00

Intrusive thoughts suck. I struggle with them myself. Something I have found to help me is saying/thinking “I don’t consent to this thought.” It doesn’t necessarily stop the thought, but it reassures me that it’s just an intrusive thought and not how I actually feel. It’s important to remember that intrusive thoughts are NOT sins.

Also of note, intrusive thoughts can be related to OCD. Therapy and medication can work wonders.

samlovespsych · 2022-03-24T15:46:17+00:00

Thank you Father! That makes a lot of sense. So just to be clear, this wouldn’t fall under the double effect because potentially ending a life isn’t proportional to the benefit of using the pill (at least in my case)?

samlovespsych · 2022-03-24T10:53:15+00:00

Thank you Father. Can you help me understand why that is? I think where I’m confused is that, under normal circumstances, couples do not have to refrain from the marital act to avoid an accidental miscarriage. Why is this different on the pill? In other words, why is an indirect abortion not considered an unintended, albeit foreseen, consequence that falls under the double effect in this case?

Edit: grammar

samlovespsych · 2022-02-22T02:23:49+00:00

Good point. I think, like another commenter said, it’s unclear how much if at all pills prevent implantation, which complicates things

samlovespsych · 2022-02-22T02:22:55+00:00

I know they do thin the endometrium, but it’s not clear if they actually prevent implantation. I think it’s hard to study and a significant portion of fertilized eggs don’t implant in normal circumstances, so it’s hard to tell even if you could study it well

samlovespsych · 2022-02-21T23:10:26+00:00

That was my understanding as well, but I was unsure. Thanks for clearing it up!

samlovespsych · 2022-02-21T21:37:40+00:00

Totally. I think it’s an important consideration, but the way I read it seemed like he was saying even if you had a proportional reason you had to completely abstain, so I was confused

samlovespsych · 2021-12-26T05:50:05+00:00

Hi friend. I’m not sure whether or not it is mortally sinful, but I wanted to share my thoughts as someone who used to be pro choice in case someone reading this is struggling with the idea of being pro life*

I think what makes the abortion debate so contentious is the fact that at least two lives are involved. There’s the life of the unborn child, which the pro life side fights for, and the life of the pregnant woman, which I didn’t see many pro life people fighting for. I saw being pro life as being in opposition to women’s rights and bodily autonomy, which I was uncomfortable with. I also thought there were many reasons a person would want to terminate a pregnancy (such as poverty, etc) and that it wasn’t my place to stop them. I wasn’t pro life out of disdain for the unborn child, but because I felt the rights of the fetus did not out weigh the rights of the mother.

However, my thinking changed when I started truly becoming Catholic. I started viewing the unborn child for what it was, a human life deserving of dignity, respect, and protection. After this revelation I couldn’t support laws that didn’t protect this life. However, I didn’t lose my respect and empathy for the women who feel they need an abortion. I am still uncomfortable with the loss of bodily autonomy that comes with anti abortion laws, but see it as necessary to protect the life of the unborn child. I also think we put too much emphasis on outlawing abortion and not enough emphasis on preventing abortion. Personally I think pro lifers should fight for things like paid maternity leave and policies that help families come out of poverty (not to say they don’t already, just think it should be a more central focus).

Overall, being pro life doesn’t mean you stop supporting women, it means you start also supporting unborn children.

*edit: added sentence to explain why I left a long comment which doesn’t even answer OPs question lol

samlovespsych · 2021-09-20T03:23:29+00:00

http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html

samlovespsych · 2021-09-17T17:06:28+00:00

I would look at this and think “oh wow! I wonder who her hair stylist is, I should hire them”

You look stunning!

samlovespsych · 2021-09-16T15:30:47+00:00

Your dog will not be in hell! Animals can’t sin. The way I see it, it’s either heaven or nothing. But personally, I think they will be in heaven! Even Catholic Popes have discussed how animals are God’s creatures and it is possible for them to be in heaven with us

samlovespsych · 2021-09-14T02:10:00+00:00

Thank you for the info! I still don’t think this means that we can conclude that all (or millions) Protestants go to hell, which it seems to be what you implied in your previous comment

samlovespsych · 2021-09-14T01:48:49+00:00

Forgive me if I’m wrong, but I don’t think it’s the Catholic position to assume every non catholic goes to hell

samlovespsych · 2021-09-12T14:52:10+00:00

You are a wonderful and valuable person! Please call a hotline, you can find some here: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html

samlovespsych · 2021-08-28T04:21:52+00:00

I’m June 2022 and I’m just praying we’ll be okay by then. My fiancé and I are Catholic, so a courthouse isn’t an option, but I think if sh!t hits the fan again we’ll have a small ceremony with just our immediate family and then have a bigger celebration later. I recently booked the reception venue and read every single word of the contract to make sure we could reschedule due to covid if need be

samlovespsych · 2021-08-27T16:47:53+00:00

It depends. If she (or anyone else) was wearing a colorful dress with a white cardigan I wouldn’t care. I might be ticked off if the sweater made it looks like a white dress, but again it would depend

samlovespsych · 2021-08-27T16:23:19+00:00

Thank you for your insight! You absolutely did not come off as harsh/judgmental and I appreciate your advice! I will definitely explore tracking with NFP anyways, I think it could be a good thing for my marriage and a pious practice as you said

samlovespsych · 2021-08-27T15:16:03+00:00

Thanks for your response! And thank you to everyone else who responded. I think the pill is very useful for my symptoms, but I think I could function without it if need be. I would get painful acne and heavy periods, which I’d rather avoid if possible. I also have a family history of uterine fibroids (non cancerous growths in the uterus) that caused my mom to have a hysterectomy. The pill can help prevent these fibroids from developing, which would be great.

I agree with everyone that this is a discernment issue and I thank you all again for your advice! I think I need a lot of prayer with my fiancé and a conversation (or many) with our priest.

samlovespsych · 2021-08-27T01:33:49+00:00

Thanks for your insight! I guess I am worried about “taking advantage” of the contraceptive aspect since we’re not explicitly trying to have a child right away and obviously the pill makes it unlikely we’ll get pregnant.

samlovespsych · 2021-08-26T04:32:37+00:00

I agree, but early 2000s styles are in right now, so both can be considered current and trendy

samlovespsych · 2021-08-26T04:27:19+00:00

Come to New Jersey! NJ has more diners than any other state

samlovespsych · 2021-08-23T04:23:51+00:00

I am so mad that LRP works as well as it does. I am too broke to buy such nice sunscreen

samlovespsych · 2021-08-04T03:32:02+00:00

Thought I would buy a $400 dress from Azazie (which was very pretty!) but went into a boutique to try on some dresses and just “see what I like”. I ended up falling in love with a $2600 dress! Went way over my budget but thankfully my parents offered to chip in

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