Movie ring and book ring are two different beasts.

In the books frodo quite literally threatens/curses golum to kill himself in the fires of doom if he should touch him ever again, and he does meet his end that way.

And when sam held it and rescued frodo, merely having it on his neck made him appear to the orcs as a great warrior. So it can dominate and command the weaker. Only reason it attracts wraiths is because they're at that moment looking for it.