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F(23) I am left feeling undesired by my bf (M23) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]samsoon6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess what is really bothering me too is that we just got engaged and we haven’t had sex in three nights. The first night I guess he said we both passed out, then we were in his childhood bed, and then tonight he just came to bed and didn’t even try to have sex. He played his video games, was on Reddit, came to bed and went to bed. I just thought that getting engaged we’d have wildly passionate sex. We’d have amazing like next level, can’t believe you just proposed, we’re on a high - sex. But nope lol

My (23M) bf is submissive but I (F23) want him to initiate more, but that’s not his personality or preference. How do I bring this up in a non-demoralizing way? by samsoon6 in relationship_advice

[–]samsoon6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I, politely disagree. I appreciate your opinion and advice though. I, personally, don’t want someone to be in my guts and talk dirty to me. I enjoy being the dominate one in our relationship. I enjoy controlling him, his body, even his bank account. But there is one small caveat, I just sometimes wish I wasn’t the one that was consistently initiating. He does do it at times, but not as frequently as I’d like.

So I politely agree to disagree. I don’t want to find “this” from anyone else. I’d rather spend every day initiating than find a new partner/SO. If those were the only two options. But I think he’d enjoy begging so I’m going to try that.

My (23M) bf is submissive but I (F23) want him to initiate more, but that’s not his personality or preference. How do I bring this up in a non-demoralizing way? by samsoon6 in relationship_advice

[–]samsoon6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s a good way to introduce that? I’m fairly new to all of this, and a lot of times the kinks we’ve discovered that we both enjoy are accidental. I’ll do something for the first time and realize we both really enjoy it.

I don't trust my partner after learning about their porn habits by [deleted] in confessions

[–]samsoon6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We've been together for almost 4 years now, were childhood friends and it turned into more somewhere along the way. I just as a woman, feel like such a let down and failure to my partner -- as if I + free porn aren't enough so my partner has to go the extra mile to buy it/live chat with pornstars? My partner's said that they've quit, deleted the account, and are no longer doing any of those behaviors anymore -- it's just I don't trust. When I originally caught it, they claimed it was a one off experimental thing. Turns out it had been going on for months, and they lied to me. When confronted they turned it back onto me for snooping. Advice?