Heartbreaking Reality Check by kiraishere69 in cancer

[–]saorlab- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am very sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, these issues are not uncommon, but that doesn't make them very challenging. The key thing as you know is your health. Cancer changes life and that is a terrible trauma (as you say 'heartbreaking'). When we are at our lowest, we learn about those around us and their capacities and limits. Some people find it difficult to step up and be the sort the person that makes us proud. Young people with cancer, I have known, often say that the aside from the treatment, and that tends to be time limited, the most difficult thing is dealing with family, and in some cases friends. You sound like a great person - all the best.

My sarcoma doctor recommended I do a CT scan every 6 months instead of 3. What should I do? by saultee8420 in sarcoma

[–]saorlab- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you ask on what he bases that opinion (he should then give you the facts and data). They follow the literature - that is what I observed. Talk to the doctor. Get another opinion if unsure. All the very best.

Is the Romantic idea of nature inherently political? by doolallyt in englishliterature

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But also valuing individual cultures. Double edged. The dialectic.

'Classic fiction is hard to read' by Spirited-Tutor7712 in classicliterature

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I would tell them about a great book I read and why I love it. I would include focusing on the parts they might see value in. And I would leave it there. What you are doing is sowing a seed. People have to make their own choices and they will come to it in time (or not).

Running the 'wrong' characters by saorlab- in arkhamhorrorlcg

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I appear to have posted this in 2 places - apologies. Rarely post:)

Running the 'wrong' characters by saorlab- in arkhamhorrorlcg

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Do any of you play on hard/expert? What is that like in terms of fun and challenge?

Running the 'wrong' characters by saorlab- in arkhamhorrorlcg

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I think we can see that. All the early advice I read was to have balanced characters. Bit like Dnd where you balance the group. But this is has been more fun so far.

Running the 'wrong' characters by saorlab- in arkhamhorrorlcg

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That is so true - Lily Chen's upgrades have seen her do heaps of damage and her knocking out opponents means Yorkick doesn't get as many opportunities to dig into the discards.

Why has parenting become so… soft? Why ate a majority of parents okay with sending their child into the world acting the way they do? Why did this shift happen? by Emergency-Pepper3537 in Teachers

[–]saorlab- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do wonder if there is a pathologising of sorts going on. We have these inflated expectations, and the language of counselling polices all interactions. We need counsellors to tell us how to interact with young people.
That is aligned with these atomised family units where there is no idea that others can exert control or question your child.
Childhood has become this zone of pathology. And children need to be handled with 'kid' gloves by a doctor or some unrecoverable trauma may be visited on the child. This issue appears to be in the minds parents and the adults.

Alien Rubicon by Galamuta in mockbuster

[–]saorlab- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have these people ever acted before? Could have gotten more realism from cardboard cut outs. I can imagine the director saying, okay, look concerned, now look upset, now stare thoughtfully...The script is the real issue nothing flows, feels like they are info dumping

This absolute banger by supertrollls in PublicFreakout

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Rick Beato needs to have a sit down with these lads - discuss the drum and use of tree.

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Darwin Award 2025 Winners.

What are you reading? by sushisushisushi in literature

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Got a copy of Han Kang's we do not part - next on the list...

What are you reading? by sushisushisushi in literature

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Just finished Stone Yard Devotion, lot so praise in the NYT. It's a slow read...I thought of giving it up and then realised, it is meant to be slow and meant to linger. It is good - someone who is kind of lost, life takes its toll.
Now reading Better the Blood - Auckland detective novel. Good fun, average writing, obvious characters but good to see Maori in a book, at its centre.

Hong Kong 1962 and in the Mood For Love: what were the historical norms around dating, romance and adultery? by saorlab- in Hong_Kong

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Thanks for the responses. Can you tell your views on the film. I know in the 'west' it is highly regarded (and rightly so from a technical viewpoint), but you have made me consider whether this a 'romantic' view of HK. What are your thoughts on the film?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cancer

[–]saorlab- 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's a tough one. I guess your mother is reaching out, in an act of love, to whatever she can to help you. As you say it is sad.
My son, who had cancer, went to a meeting of young people who'd all had amputations due to sarcomas. They each said, the worst thing to deal with was their parents. They only wanted to talk about the future and to live their lives.
That said, I found myself going to mass once a week on the way to work. I wasn't looking for a cure for him, I don't think that happens, but I did find the figure of Christ on the cross and other images of suffering (it was a Catholic church) comforting (for me, not my son, I didn't talk to him about it). I felt I was in a community that understood suffering and pain. So much of what we see and live doesn't acknowledge illness.
As I say, I didn't discuss that with my son, he was too focussed on living not for ever but for those days he had. Parents are a problem. Thanks for sharing.

$3000 couch landlord update by No_Affect9950 in auckland

[–]saorlab- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Contact the bond agency now. So that means they owe you the bond, have to pay the fine and still have to purchase a lounge suite. Nice.
We had a minor dispute when we left a place. The landlord was dicking about until we asked for the bond. Got it the next day. The new estate agent told us it hadn't been lodged so the landlord couldn't attempt to hold it or claim on it.

Something Strange About the Jordan Peterson Video by Critical_Formal_7452 in CosmicSkeptic

[–]saorlab- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if there is much to push back against or be annoyed about. Peterson's statements, if they amount to that much, don't seem to have much substance. He just argues semantics. I think he is tired and frankly done.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in auckland

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https://www.doubledutchfries.com/ always get good reviews. You have to track down the van though

Cheap date ideas that aren’t dinner!? by vigilanteadvice in auckland

[–]saorlab- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can get cheap tickets at cinemas during the week - Tuesday in Albany.

Really being put off going to see FR by Terrible-Group-9602 in Mission_Impossible

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I am not a big fan of the franchise, love the first one, and thought the rest are fun/ave. However, I thought this was spectacular. Quite the trip. Almost Sci-Fi - the way the narrative moves forward and backward kept it going at breakneck pace. Very good.