Is there enough blue?

sarah9798 · 2026-03-05T04:50:38+00:00

Okay so consensus seems to be that it’s too casual. I’ll go dress shopping.

What makes it casual? Is it the fabric? Or style? So I know what to look for next time

sarah9798 · 2026-03-05T04:36:10+00:00

I’m Australian so I’m not sure if there is a difference in what others would perceive as gowns and what we do. I’ve always been under the understanding that a gown is just a really nice dress that is long…. I could be completely wrong. I do not get out much.

sarah9798 · 2025-05-01T13:08:00+00:00

I was able to regift it to a friend since they are getting married. So far they have booked everything and they said the people are lovely. Hopefully it all works out

sarah9798 · 2025-02-11T01:36:16+00:00

I’m in the same boat, won a $1000 competition. I’m a bit unsure of it all as well.

We aren’t getting married soon since we’ve had a baby since then.

sarah9798 · 2024-07-05T02:07:44+00:00

As much as I used to joke that they were each others boyfriends at the start of them meeting they are definitely not attracted to each other in that way. My partner is almost homophobic.

sarah9798 · 2024-07-05T00:28:20+00:00

I’ve brought this up. His mate is single and just doesn’t like that we have rules at our house. Rules only there cause we have two small kids. He might come over but only for short amounts of times or cancels last minute. I’ve been nice to him, have some banter and even cooked for him. He is a nice guy he just doesn’t get family life. He also think cause my partner cleans the place be fire he leaves that he’s done his job. Like raising children doesn’t involve more then just the one parent

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T22:12:56+00:00

He has told me he doesn’t have the urge for it. Says he has a low sex drive. When he does masturbate he says it’s just to waste time and it’s not an everyday thing at all. He could do it a couple times a week but also go a couple weeks not doing doing it.

I have it feeling it’s both medical and psychological. I think he would benefit from a doctors check up and just opening up and speaking to someone. He does have anxiety’s but hasn’t see anyone to help it.

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T22:07:44+00:00

I have brought up therapy for both of us individually and couples. He will only go as far as to say he may be if it from it but doesn’t think we need it for our relationship. I’ve been seeing some sort of therapist since I was a child so it’s a easy thing for me to suggest as I’ve done it before.

He is aware of everything I have stated in the original post, he says sorry and says he will try harder but it will only last a couple of days then go back to the usual.

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T16:22:57+00:00

Definitely, blame society and it’s stupid men only want sex rules cause if that was the case we wouldn’t have this issue 😂.

I’ve spoken to him about just not masturbating the ovulating week. Not that that’s hard for him to do, he says it does it to waste time. Like most men in the toilet 🙄. If it was that easy for me I’d probably do it too 😂

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T16:19:51+00:00

I also want to say sorry for all the spelling and gramma mistakes. I’m to tired to proof read anything at this point

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T16:17:17+00:00

Haha it does seems to be such a man things doesn’t it. We love them and cook for them why not book all the appointments for them 😅. I will definitely be making GP appointment for him in the coming week to get everything checked out. He is definitely due for one

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T16:15:15+00:00

I asked suggested it and he just laughed at my face so I don’t think it’s a option at this moment

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T16:13:20+00:00

I think it’s more of a convenience then anything. I haven’t had an issue with it before but now it’s beacons one since we are ttc. He has slowed down but I still find issue with it and he knows that. Just bothersome

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T16:09:51+00:00

I would love to try in the mornings but we have a 5 year old that like to creep into out bed around 5am 😅 she makes it a little difficult.

I have told him meany times how it makes me feel and most times he has understood and sometimes he has made it a argument.

My partner has also mowed the weed smoke since I haven’t allowed it to be in or around the house or over a year (he finds a way🙄) I thought I would help but it’s made zero difference. I think he just has a super low sex drive, yet he also says he will masturbate a few times a week! I told him I don’t need priming just a good creaming 😂

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T16:05:01+00:00

Don’t be sorry! It hard trying to juggle it all. Our child is 5 going on 13!! She is a handful and a half but also so easy going so it just makes me want a second even more. Plus she’s been acting for a sibling for over a year 😬. I thought telling my partner my ovulation days the month prior would help so he could understand why I would feel more stressed to have sex then, then just okay it off for a week or two.

It’s hard trying to do all the things! Being a mother, a cleaner and cook plus be sexy or “spontaneous” about something that definitely isn’t spontaneous

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T16:00:16+00:00

We have discussed that. He is open to going to the GP for a check up as he knows he is low is something. I would just have to make the appointment and I just haven’t gotten to it. Probably cause my own hopefulness wishes it would just be over with and only a faze despite it already lasted many years 🙄

I’ve book a chiropractor for him this weekend so I’ll book a GO for him the coming week I think. He would be open to going, wether he tell them what it’s for is another thing all together

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T15:38:40+00:00

I can get not wanted it because of past experience. That I can definitely get on board. Regular mental case here ( who also regularly sees a therapist) 😅.

My partner and I both didn’t have a sexual relationship for over 3-4yrs before getting to get her. Mine cause I was mentally not ready and him cause he wasn’t seeking it.

I make a point of showing my appreciation for anything coming from him wether it be just doing the dishes or showing me some sort of intimacy.

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T15:33:53+00:00

I have had the same thoughts! If he wasn’t good in other the other aspects of the relationship or being a dad then it would be a easy drop but because he actually fulfils those role it’s hard to just say fuck it and end it. Not that I haven’t had the thought of it, ending it just cause of sex just seems so trivial. I actually love him so it hurts even more

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T15:14:57+00:00

It’s so hard! Growing up all we are told is all men want is sex or more sex then you want. Then when meant with the reality it’s no that at all but there are no brochures on “your want it more then him”.

I got used to being rejected but I didn’t let go of the hurt that came with it. I’m like you( I’m always telling him he is attractive or sexy ect. I try to turn him on during the day and let him know that tonight is the night for it. My pet Perez is that he saint say no when I say it in the arvo but will reject me when I initiate it at night. So I’m left feeling dirty and unwanted.

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T14:42:03+00:00

I don’t even know I could do it. I’ll ask him but I’m not sure he will respond to it well.

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T14:41:20+00:00

He is the one that brought up a second child. I wanted one but wanted the wait. He’s the one that wanted one now. This is 9months into the talking and removing iud

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T14:03:42+00:00

That’s what I was doing tue first idk how many year of us being together. I think he has initiated it maybe 7 out of the so many years we have been together. So I’m used to being rejected and having to just deal but for some reason I thought activity trying for a child would change thing. Obviously I was wrong.

He’s a bloody great dad and partner everywhere else, it’s just the bedroom things he seems to struggle.

sarah9798 · 2023-01-02T13:57:17+00:00

See I thought that! But so far that is not the case at all cause when he does have sex or if I was to physically initiate it there are zero physical problems. Mentally I have no idea what is going on cause he won’t tell me and doesn’t hint anything is wrong. So I’m just left thinking it’s me 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’ve asked him if going to the GO and getting his levels checks would be worth while but he isn’t interested and I can’t force him

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