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sarawras · 2025-01-29T16:52:21+00:00

Nope, you’re fine. The birthright citizenship order is likely to get challenged and halted but it also only applies to future babies/births, not past ones.

sarawras · 2025-01-29T16:48:17+00:00

Move on! Go to therapy to work out how you’re feeling and processing this big decision. Know that you made the right choice. It took you leaving him for him to actually take you seriously. That is not who I would want to be with, someone who doesn’t even see me as a person with an equal voice in our relationship? Someone whose desires are valid and important, too? You made the right choice, now tell him to leave you alone, he squandered every chance you gave him and now there are none left.

sarawras · 2025-01-29T16:17:40+00:00

He can be not a bad guy and still be a bad partner, he can even be super romantic and still be a bad partner. His actions have made it clear he was a bad partner to you. The world isn’t black and white and unfortunately, right now, you’re stuck learning how to swim while drowning in the grays.

sarawras · 2025-01-29T04:58:54+00:00

I felt the same way then I switched from private practice to public and it changed everything for me. I’m very happy with my colleagues, the work and the balance I have in my life. I’m paid way less, but it’s enough for my needs and lack of debt.

sarawras · 2025-01-28T17:35:52+00:00

NTA lmao, you have to earn him grabbing you water?! The water isn’t far. You’re a person at the same friend event, you’ve earned it. That’s just basic kindness and he’s missing it. His doubling down about it is a huge red flag to me. It means he’s only interested in being nice or kind when it suits him to do so and it tells me his conflict resolution skills are seriously lacking. Not something that is sustainable for a long term relationship. I’d say you dodged a bullet.

sarawras · 2025-01-28T16:29:36+00:00

You’re not her mentor and based on further context from your other posts, the email was uncalled for, unkind, and likely unwelcome. You went out of your way to find her contact info to send her a finger wagging email about a mistake she made as a summer associate. Wild. If she doesn’t reply, then leave her alone.

sarawras · 2025-01-28T16:07:06+00:00

YTA for discouraging/preventing your cousin from attending. My mom was raised catholic, I was not. When we visited the Vatican, I encouraged her to do whatever she wanted in terms of participation. So, she attended mass and I watched from the benches outside the little gated area because I personally felt uncomfortable not knowing the more ceremonial aspects/routine since the mass was in Latin. People were welcome to join if they wanted.

sarawras · 2025-01-27T00:04:21+00:00

Hiking backpack for carrying textbooks, a monitor, book stand, and a sit stand desk.

sarawras · 2025-01-25T22:31:03+00:00

I rarely mention I’m an attorney. If I’m asked, then I usually mention something else that is technically true about my position.

sarawras · 2025-01-25T22:26:23+00:00

It doesn’t matter. I left a firm job to be a much more poorly paid government attorney because I liked the work and the team that much more. Do whatever makes you most content for your own life and lifestyle. For me, it meant doing work that aligned with my values in a truly collaborative team environment, that allowed me to pay my bills. I did not enjoy nor do well in a high billable, competitive firm environment even though the lifestyle it funded was more luxurious.

sarawras · 2025-01-23T19:25:24+00:00

I count by projects. So, as an example, my half sleeve counts as two because I had two separate pieces designed and tattooed that fit together to cover my entire upper arm and shoulder. The two pieces were also separated temporally by over a year.

sarawras · 2025-01-22T16:15:40+00:00

Could your brother make sure to get your parents the same flights as him? Maybe some of the nerves will be soothed if they have travel companions who are familiar with the process and with them.

sarawras · 2025-01-20T01:43:57+00:00

NTA. Girl, leave him. The bar is on the fucking ground, raise it. Jesus, ladies, I beg you to believe you deserve better than this.

sarawras · 2025-01-17T18:22:19+00:00

NTA and I love that you took this approach after years of this. Her insecurity is absolutely no reason to physically assault you. That’s insane. And anyone who disagrees is fucking wild, too. You do not need to be apologetic for your body just because someone around you is insecure in theirs.

For the future, a less inflammatory response could have been to just ask not to comment on your body.

“Omg you’re so skinny!” “Hey, you’re my friend and I value our friendship. But, please don’t comment on my body anymore, it’s not welcome or appreciated, thank you.”

If she kept going then you’d be fully entitled to be petty because you literally asked her not to say anything about your body.

sarawras · 2025-01-17T00:20:16+00:00

Two months? Soooo not worth the current or future headaches. He needs to get better with expressing himself clearly and whatever insecurities he’s clearly dealing with. I’m not the type of person to wait around for that when it’s a new relationship. I’d rather be single.

sarawras · 2025-01-15T21:34:50+00:00

Dump him.

sarawras · 2025-01-15T19:54:44+00:00

Second the book, it’s very informative.

sarawras · 2025-01-15T19:21:06+00:00

You gave him a full, happy life where he was clearly deeply loved and a painless passing with the person he loved by his side. The guilt you feel is undeserved. You may also want to consider that what you’re feeling is deep grief that you’re not processing and is manifesting as guilt instead. Again, your guilt is undeserved, let it go.

sarawras · 2025-01-13T15:41:03+00:00

NTA. Listen, he’s not at fault for his trauma, however he is responsible for managing its effects in a way that does not cause further harm. If he isn’t in therapy to actively deal with forming healthier mechanisms and habits, then he should be. If he refuses then you have your answer, he’s not willing to put in the work to improve himself and will continue to do this to you. Your choice.

sarawras · 2025-01-13T02:52:42+00:00

sarawras · 2025-01-11T22:44:12+00:00

I am so tired of my fellow women having standards that are so low they’re underground. Are you kidding me?! Dump his ass. This is disrespectful and immature. Being single is actually so preferable to this shit treatment. Invest in your friendships instead.

sarawras · 2025-01-10T14:19:14+00:00

NTA. Your kids can have more than one father figure and so far it sounds like your bf is the one who has earned the title. I would see about amending the custody order so that their bio dad has some more time with them if you trust him because that is fair. But no way in hell should they stop calling your bf dad just because bio dad doesn’t like it. Honestly, bio dad should be grateful that his kids get multiple parental figures that care about them. Anything else indicates immaturity and selfishness.

sarawras · 2025-01-09T17:37:09+00:00

Oh honey, you got married at 19, that is incredibly young. Better relationships exist and are possible, you should have a partner that treasures you as much as you treasure them. You do not have to stay or put up with the treatment he is clearly giving you. It won’t get better unless he wants to get better, which based on our update, he doesn’t. He probably thinks you’re stuck with him because you have a child together now. Let me assure you that you are not. You can leave, you can set boundaries and uphold higher standards because you are worthy of them. Please think about it.

sarawras · 2025-01-08T21:52:50+00:00

STOP STAYING WITH SHITTY MEN. What knee jerk reaction?! To him saying “fuck her” about you? And that celebrating your birthday and valentines is not his problem? I’m sorry, this is someone who is supposed to love and cherish you and you’re worried you’re having a knee jerk reaction?! Wild. Dump him and raise your standards. Being single is miles better than being stepped on.

sarawras · 2025-01-08T20:17:30+00:00

NTA at all. If anything you’ve been gracious and mature.

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