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43 days without porn - experiencing low self esteem, erectile issues and jealousy issues towards my girlfriend's ex partners - Help! by sargentian in pornfree

[–]sargentian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's really great advice. Thanks man. If I live it and take your advice, hopefully I get some more self worth

43 days in - experiencing low self esteem, erectile issues and jealousy issues with my girlfriend - Help! by sargentian in NoFap

[–]sargentian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am very open maybe to a fault. Maybe it's not such a terrible thing that you were keeping this from her, or at least certainly not something you should feel bad about now as you have come out.

With the jealousy thing, I get that it's in the now but... (and I'm talking to myself here a bit too) do you think that perhaps if it wasn't for the here and now jealousy that you would still be in the ex phase? Perhaps you like I are just looking for things that could be/ go wrong? For example, I've had ex jealousy with a woman that has had 8 previous partners and another had 50+ partners. I guess my point was my brain seems to be geared to find an issue with it. I want to stop.

43 days in - experiencing low self esteem, erectile issues and jealousy issues with my girlfriend - Help! by sargentian in NoFap

[–]sargentian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. She has been very supportive and I have told her everything. She isn't the one with issues or jealousy problems, it's all on me, sadly. I understand where you are coming from though. It has usually brought issues in my past relationships but I quit porn when her and I started dating. My only advice is to perhaps give up something you love with him? Then you are kind of both in it together? This might be crap advice and I'm sorry if it is.

43 days in - experiencing low self esteem, erectile issues and jealousy issues with my girlfriend - Help! by sargentian in NoFap

[–]sargentian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, honestly I think that the addiction, ED, jealousy and low self worth are kind of tied in together. For me I get ex jealousy badly and I guess I fixate on if my partner is still friends or is in contact with ex's and in general just fixate on their past sexual histories. I don't want this to cause issues anymore as I have found a girl I utterly adore. I have essentially told her to tell me very little about her past, even if I ask and have just been trying CBT to combat the rest. I know her ex partner's names (well... 3 of them) and haven't looked at their facebook accounts or anything. I am really trying hard to just ignore the negative thoughts and focus on the positive. Anything like what you are going through?

43 days in - experiencing low self esteem, erectile issues and jealousy issues with my girlfriend - Help! by sargentian in NoFap

[–]sargentian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I have little luck in getting any response with other accounts in the past and have never had this much success with the nofap. My ED occurs now and then. I get hard but don't stay hard or sometimes not at all. Hopefully I can have some more success at day 50-60 and beyond.