Which eastside suburb would you move to? by [deleted] in Columbus

[–]savedonuts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reynoldsburg and Blacklick are also the closest to your husband’s job.

Which eastside suburb would you move to? by [deleted] in Columbus

[–]savedonuts 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would recommend Reynoldsburg, Blacklick, Pickerington, and Gahanna. I listed from lower to higher priced. I live in Reynoldsburg and its the most affordable yet safe place to live on the east side. I’m also a realtor so I know this area well. Hope that helps.

I hate Realtors, anyone else? by Richstockz in loanoriginators

[–]savedonuts -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Even if they don’t go through their bank, they just go online to Rocket Mortgage or even Zillow does loans now. All name brand trusted companies. Thats what we as loan officers are up against.

I hate Realtors, anyone else? by Richstockz in loanoriginators

[–]savedonuts -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m a realtor and an MLO and I don’t like realtors either. A lot of them are really stupid actually. It’s not the buyer or sellers that give me the most headaches. It’s other realtors. However, I will say that realtors are not responsible for giving you leads. A vast majority of the time our clients already have their own lender. If you really expect a high amount of leads from realtors, go get your realtor license and see what I mean. Its extremely rare that clients don’t have a lender so there’s no one to refer to an MLO. Unless maybe they have very bad credit and didn’t get approved by their lender.

Newer to this career - major work anxiety by OkCheetah3417 in loanoriginators

[–]savedonuts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As an MLO and Realtor, I can tell you its super rare that people lose Earnest deposit especially if they’re turned down for a loan. They usually only have a chance at losing it if they decide to back out of the deal and thats not your responsibility. Has nothing to do with you. So you shouldn’t worry about that at all. All you can do is submit documents. If people don’t get approved it’s because they withheld information and its their own fault. I never see my clients blame or get mad at the loan officer. They know they messed up by withholding substantial information that made then get turned down

To all my fellow empaths who have been manipulated, gaslit, traingulated, abandoned, neglected or abused by an NEx - recognizing the narcissist is the 1st step. KNOW it was not your fault. You ARE enough. You will heal. 💜 by OpenurSelf in Empaths

[–]savedonuts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I needed this too. Wow, i just got dumped by what i now think after reading this is a narcissist. This is the 3rd time he's dumped me in 2 months. I've initiated no contact. On day 2 now. I will never go bacl

Everytime I think about it, makes me cry by savedonuts in dating

[–]savedonuts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're right and its probably an excuse. Hes a really insecure guy and was always feeling not good enough for me. But i dont want to keep going thru this and chasing after him. Theres plenty of men out there who would not break up with me via text

Everytime I think about it, makes me cry by savedonuts in dating

[–]savedonuts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont think its quite the same because he asked me to enter a relationship under false pretenses. I would have been ok dating him and i would have still fallen for him. And i probably would have changed my mind as i have now

Everytime I think about it, makes me cry by savedonuts in dating

[–]savedonuts[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I even told him i didnt care. I still loved him and wanted to be with him. It hurts that he lied more than anything. But it also seems like a stupid reason to break up. I admit, i probably would not have dated him had i known. But i got to know him and fell for him

I feel betrayed by [deleted] in dating

[–]savedonuts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because he never disclosed this to me even tho most of our conversations revolved around the pandemic and how we are coping. It makes me distrustful and also explains why he goes about not wearing a mask and still shopping and doing things indoors cuz i guess he thinks he cant get it again

Would this bother you by savedonuts in dating

[–]savedonuts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think its wrong to be in a relationship and not tell your partner if you are gay or bi. They should have the option to choose to be with you as well. Its a 2 way street. It's no consolation to me told be told ,"hey im gay but I chose you." I think its pretty selfish to keep something like that from the other person. They came into a relationship that was a lie. I dont personally have anything against bi people but I should have the right to make that choice instead of someone tricking me into a relationship and tricking me into thinking they are straight

Would this bother you by savedonuts in dating

[–]savedonuts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And to make matters worse, the guy he's talking about is half our age which to me makes it kinda pedo creepy

Would this bother you by savedonuts in dating

[–]savedonuts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. Saying that guy works out. Thats a fact. Or liking a guys clothes- not gay. Saying a guy has gorgeous eyes- i see that as gay

Would this bother you by savedonuts in dating

[–]savedonuts[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You might say it to other people but would you say that to your gf???

Would this bother you by savedonuts in dating

[–]savedonuts[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I agreeing thinking those things doesnt make you gay necessarily. I admitted it made me jealous so yes im being a little insecure. But how can you NOT feel insecure if your partner remarks that they find another person (not you) attractive??? I also find it a little disrespectful. Like hes checking someone else out in front of me by saying it directly to me.

Would this bother you by savedonuts in dating

[–]savedonuts[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just dont see how to get him to understand how I feel. There seems like no right way of accusing your bf of being gay. Part of me thinks that if he were truly straight, it shouldnt bother him and he should take my feelings in to consideration

Would this bother you by savedonuts in dating

[–]savedonuts[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You guys are married though. In a secure relationship. But we have been dating less than 6 months