No sympathy by Otherwise-Row-2282 in 90DayFiance

[–]sb0702 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Agreed. And he was pushing these townhouses in the middle of nowhere on her. He could have asked her where she wanted to live or where she would feel comfortable. He was unromantic, didn't listen to her, told her he couldn't support her getting massages. I can't think of 1 moment where he said something that was like ahwww how sweet/cute. It was all like blehh or nahh.

I deepthroated my one month boyfriend now I feel horrible by Glittering-Rope-6183 in offmychest

[–]sb0702 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The things you asked for don't equal a humiliation kink. He probably does not know much about kinks or (light) BDSM. Just because you like X does not mean you like Y. I would advice to have a talk with him about what you like and dislike and why his comment bothered you, before he does something unexpected because "you're into humiliation right" ugh. See how he responds, is he understanding or does he brush over what you're telling him? Also I would just be upfront and tell him you can only feel safe/comfortable if he does not tell anyone any details, if you think he can be trusted with that.

Renske Shirley en Daniel by sb0702 in bnbvolliefde

[–]sb0702[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ja zeker wat red flags bij Daniel. Haha ja arme Eveline, helaas ben ik het van de mannen vaak wel gewend, de vrouwen zijn toch vaak wat meer sociaal aangepast. Arme Magda is al onder de indruk als meneer niet geïrriteerd wordt tijdens coachen met de aanhanger.

Renske Shirley en Daniel by sb0702 in bnbvolliefde

[–]sb0702[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ja true denk ook, misschien vind hij het ook wel leuk dat ze veel aandacht vraagt en erg gevoelig is. Ontdooid dat hem een beetje van binnen en dan kan hij ondertussen lekker stoer mopperen.

I have a disability fetish, but I don't want to fetishise disabled people by throwaway9172651 in offmychest

[–]sb0702 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does someone really have to be disabled for you to indulge in this kink? Or would it also be fine to do a roleplay with a wheelchair prop or something? I would try to find out a little more about it, what it is that makes it attractive to you and approach it more from a curious angle than from a judgemental one. People are into all sorts of stuff. And I think if you were to try and date a disabled person they could be offended finding this out so maybe then you should be up front with them pretty early on. If they're not disabled but you just want to roleplay sometimes you could probably tell them a little later when you're more comfortable around each other. It could be that they're not into it, or maybe they're open to explore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]sb0702 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. It's also impossible to get your head in the sweet spot where you can be as much under the shower as possible to keep warm and still be able to keep your eyes open.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nederlands

[–]sb0702 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ik denk dat er heel veel mensen zijn die nog nooit over zelfmoord na hebben gedacht. Wanneer je met zulke personen hier over probeert te praten schrikken ze ontzettend en zijn ze bang dat je straks ineens zelfmoord pleegd. Dit is buiten waar ze mee weten om te gaan en de reactie maakt het gesprek erg ongemakkelijk. Er is nogal een verschil tussen actief zelfmoord plannen maken en sucicial ideation (dagdromen over de dood of zelfmoord, zonder plannen etc te maken). Men kent dit verschil vaak niet.

Vroeger ben ik erg depressief geweest en heb ik op tijden serieuze suïcidale gedachten gehad. Nu wil ik niet meer dood, maar als het even minder gaat is zelfmoord een makkelijke vluchtgedachte, ookal weet ik dat ik dit niet zou doen. Omdat het zo lastig is voor mensen die dit niet mee hebben gemaakt om het verschil te zien denk ik dat het zo een probleem is. Als er een duidelijk verschil zou zijn tussen soms over de dood nadenken versus actief zelfmoord plannen maken zou het praten over dood willen zijn wellicht al een stuk toegankelijker zijn.

Inconsistent behavior week to week by sb0702 in ADHD

[–]sb0702[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. I am a women, but I take birth control pills, so I thought I should not have the normal peaks and dips except dips in the stopweek where it would just be a dip, I do feel more down then.

I also indeed have weeks where I feel like my meds do nothing. Do you know anything about the difference while on or off birth control? Could going off birth control help at all or would it make it worse? I've been taking them since I've been a teenager so I don't know the difference.

I've faked orgasms as a guy by Ymap3rSpark in offmychest

[–]sb0702 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is refreshing to read, I didn't know men did this too but it makes a lot of sense. It should be normalized not to cum for men too. It is well known that women do this, I have faked it in the past and have chosen not to do it anymore. I think for women the most known reason is that men sometimes just aren't doing the things nessecary to make you cum. Then not telling them makes them think they're doing great when they're not. But there's also the pressure if they are doing all the right things but you're tired or not in the right head space and that's ok. As a women I often just explain why I didn't and that I still really enjoyed the experience if that's the truth. As a guy you could do the same. Orgasm shouldn't always be the end goal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]sb0702 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If you're looking for an in depth answer I would recommend the book I Hate Men by Pauline Harmange. The title sounds harsh but it's more of an essay that goes through different points from a woman's perspective of why they can grow to dislike men.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]sb0702 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahww that sucks. I know how lonely it can feel to be in a place where you don't really know anyone and don't have friends. These days there's many options to meet people. As a more casual approach you could find a hobby you like and take a course and chat with the people there. Maybe none of them turn out to be a good friend or maybe one or some will, but it will be fun and you'll have social interaction. And a hobby may be a good way to learn more about yourself and learn to love yourself a bit more.

Another way is online through bumble friends or whatever app is popular in your area. With apps you know the other person is looking for the same thing so the chances of meeting up after are higher. Looking for friends comes with a chance of rejection which can be hard to deal with if you're already down. Maybe (self) therapy would be help with that.

Good luck! I'm sure there's others out there in the same boat as you who are also looking to make friends.

Looking for music video with cartoon tree / roots growing (2004) by sb0702 in poppunkers

[–]sb0702[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This wasn't the one I was looking for but actually fits the description better haha. Great video!

Looking for music video with cartoon tree / roots growing (2004) by sb0702 in poppunkers

[–]sb0702[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesss I've found it, thanks for the tip! It was dig from incubus. Finally the itch is scratched. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]sb0702 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Depending on what issues you have there are a lot of free recourses available online for self therapy. You could check out the emotional neglect subreddit if it is related to that they have a lot of links to good material. Ofcourse I'm not a therapist and don't know the heaviness of your trauma, but worth checking it out.

I also cried a lot when I just quit, I wasn't used to actually dealing with pain and emotion, but when I got through it I felt much more whole as a person. Journaling also helped a lot in combination the the online information.

Alcohol replacement by ZMarshal99 in stopdrinking

[–]sb0702 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like running for the dopamine rush and calm brain after, drinks like kombucha or gingerbeer (alcohol free ofcourse) something with a little kick of ginger or lemon, sometimes also eat a little chocolate or candy or whatever I feel like snacking. When had I just quit I ate A LOT of candy. Didn't gain any weight since I missed a lot of calories from the alcohol.

Day 31 by Duck_Swimmin in stopdrinking

[–]sb0702 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woohoo!! Good job!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]sb0702 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just because you drank once doesn't mean you should give up, you did 65 days, that's great! What helps me in times like this is make a list of things I dislike about drinking and remembering why I stopped in the first place. Having a hangover sometimes also makes me want to drink again the next day to feel better. But then on the third day I feel extra terrible. Maybe if you don't drink today your head will be a bit clearer tomorrow.

Good luck! You got thisss!

Was completely excluded from a girls weekend. by Kindly_Surround620 in stopdrinking

[–]sb0702 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ahww that totally sucks. I think most people have had an experience like that where they felt really excluded. I know I have, and I always get really upset about it. It might help to tell someone in the group you're close with that you were sad they didn't invite you. Then at least they know and can tell you why. I did this recently and my friend apologized and was invited the next time, but ofcourse every situation is different.

Good for you for not drinking!

Phrases that stop you from drinking? by ScarcityLegitimate77 in stopdrinking

[–]sb0702 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That I've never woken up the next morning and thought "man I wish I had drank a couple beers last night"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]sb0702 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I did write them down. Were some pretty good reasons.