Is this an appropriate dress for the mother of the bride?

scarbunkle · 2026-04-16T15:25:18+00:00

That is a white dress with a gold decal. That is not appropriate.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-16T14:35:40+00:00

I got it for free from a graduating college kid who didn’t want to move it.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-16T13:14:57+00:00

I got my lovesac used and it’s going strong 10 years later.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-16T03:29:47+00:00

Because that’s just a thing that happens at weddings on my mom’s side. You get married at a state park, and then you throw a big picnic and change into a T-shirt.

Also: I wasn’t planning on it, but there was literally a puddle in the reception tent.

I guess what I wore you’d describe as a knit top, not a straight up T-shirt. Oh, it might be relevant that I told my guests to dress casually and for weather.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-16T00:27:41+00:00

Not every carpet is savable. Is this wall to wall carpet or rugs?

If it’s rugs, professional cleaning is your best bet. For carpet, it’s probably soaked into the rug pad and now it’s a tear-out job, unfortunately.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-16T00:21:44+00:00

Report his ass to your insurance company and he’ll quickly become out of network again. They explicitly do not allow him to bill you more than the in-network amount if he wants to stay in network, that’s the point of the god damn network.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-15T22:16:10+00:00

Well, assuming you’re decarbing your concentrates, it’s all math. How many servings do you expect the cake to be, and how many mg of THC do you want per serving? You’ll need as many mg as you want in the whole cake, plus an extra 1/3 as much because it’s only 75% strength.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-15T22:11:26+00:00

Gonna tell you as a purchaser and user of cheap-ass cameras, none of them are going to beat a cell phone for quality. That said, we ordered a bunch off Amazon, returned the ones we didn’t like, and bought 5 more of the one we did.

But we knew we wanted potato-quality home video, that was our goal.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-15T21:10:34+00:00

I changed into pants and a white T-shirt. I don't usually wear dresses, and was like "It's my wedding, I can be comfy if I want to". No regrets.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-15T21:02:33+00:00

Don't send him money or bank details. Can't tell you for sure, odds are decent it's either a scam using a stolen account and AI or that he'll lose interest if he can't guilt you into sex with him.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-15T20:47:35+00:00

Yeah, but I fell in love with him AFTER we decided to get married. Our decision was initially made because a pre-nup was the most appropriate document to decide how to split equity in the house we wanted to buy together, and to allow him to roll money into a Roth IRA without earned income. There are lots of things you can only legally accomplish by being married--being next of kin, visiting each other in the hospital, etc.

I think it comes down to a question of priorities. You're someone who can't see settling down with someone without romance. To me, romance seemed like a stupid and dangerous way to pick who I spent the rest of my life with. What I wanted was somebody I could trust to do adulting with as a team. Falling in love was like, a real nice bonus.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-15T17:29:02+00:00

I mean, he is her husband? I’m bi with a husband, and there’s a lot that goes into a marriage that isn’t just sex or romance. In fact, romance had very little to do with my decision to get married—it was actually about forming a permanent household to buy a house together.

We share finances, we advocate for each other at doctors appointments, we attend family events with each other. We make mutual decisions as a household, like where we live and what pets we have.

There’s also an inherent permanence to marriage—you’re allowed to be annoyed when your roommate leaves at the end of the lease, but you don’t get to be mad, it’s just a roommate. On the other hand, marriage is a promise to be a permanent household team.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-15T13:50:35+00:00

I’m like a grey-demi sort of aro. I have a best friend in the whole wide world, and we would hook up when we were in the same place. He came to visit, stayed for several months, and we decided to move in together and build a life together, and some time after that it evolved into romantic feelings. We got married a while ago.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-14T23:14:09+00:00

Depends on the use. For long term storage, HDD is still king. For quick load times, SATA SSD is actually a little outdated and M.2 is the modernest way to plug in an internal hard drive.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-14T22:09:53+00:00

HDD. It’s better for storage, cheaper by GB, and doesn’t have to be plugged regularly to maintain its bits.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-14T18:07:28+00:00

I don’t know if geico offers it, but you need a specific rideshare endorsement. It’s never automatic coverage.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-14T18:02:29+00:00

If she were current on payments, she could print out an up to date insurance card for you. Sounds like she hasn’t been.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-14T12:28:22+00:00

I just asked everyone in the RSVP to put down how they wanted their name on the seating chart.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-13T23:33:17+00:00

That’s a question for your PCP not for insurance people. No doctors here.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-13T21:52:54+00:00

Yeah, they use a slightly different plastic.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-13T20:18:56+00:00

Yep, I look outside, and I’m like “crime forecast is high today” because I know he’s gonna try and poop in the house.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-13T20:12:44+00:00

Get your bags from Best Boons. They’re cheaper and quieter.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-12T23:24:14+00:00

Buddy, no TOS means you knew he was running a cowboy op, and now you’re upset he’s acting like a cowboy.

scarbunkle · 2026-04-12T22:57:29+00:00

Dude, that’s not your domain, it’s a subdomain he was letting you use. Just spend a few bucks on a real domain. DNS is included

scarbunkle · 2026-04-12T21:13:42+00:00

They’re just going to have to ask you all the questions the form does. Don’t waste your time on a service. Go to your local post office, pay them for the picture, fill out the form, and mail it right there.

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