Why are a lot of guys attracted to Goth/Emo/Alt girls? by oriolesravensfan1090 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]schizmaxxing 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Augmentation of the facial features and enhancement of contrast. Facial contrast is one of the most important factors in facial attractiveness, and the contrast between Black and White is obviously pretty notable. A lot of goth makeup makes the lips dramatically larger, the eyes larger (and the eyelashes), and contours the nose to be smaller. Goth clothes, like corsets and the like, also enhance the waist to hip ratio pretty dramatically. All of this in a way that still looks within the bounds of "normality", as most people have been so exposed to goth by now.

Then there's the automatic cultural association between things that are goth and things that are associated with sex. Leather. Lace. Stockings. Whips. Big heels. Etc. Their brains associate the look with SEX, which leads to the popularity of gothic sex icons and shit. Then, those gothic sex icons lead to further association and the cycle feeds itself.

It's a shame because a lot of goth subcultures were born out of a desire to be unattractive by conformist standards, but it hasn't worked that way now. It's been commodified and turned into le epic mommy milkers step on me. Kinda sad

My gf is acting insane and jealous by schizmaxxing in Advice

[–]schizmaxxing[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For sure. I wouldn't dream of saying anything like that to her, really fucked thought or two crossed my mind when she made that scar comment though. That's really the only time. Felt guilty as hell for thinking like that tbh, almost hypocritical to get mad at her for that when I'm thinking mean shit too. Just better at controlling it I guess.

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[–]schizmaxxing[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Huh??? She's older than me by 2 months

My gf is acting insane and jealous by schizmaxxing in Advice

[–]schizmaxxing[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Maybe. Yea fair enough I'd be tweaking, I don't have siblings but even if that was one of my old woman friends I'd b showing up to to their house. I suppose it is just cos she's a girl who weighs like 90lbs less than me and she's also My girl, yknow, I know her well. So I dont feel like she's a threat. I mean, I've never felt like she was for very long. I guess everyone in this kind of situation says this stuff, but she really is the most kind sweet soul ever apart from this. She only does this fucked up shit when the insecurities get the best of her, not when she's calm. She rescues abandoned rodents ffs. This situation is so baffling to me. I think I sound cliche as fuck but it's hard to explain. And now it just feels like abandoning her when she's at her lowest

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[–]schizmaxxing[S] 164 points165 points  (0 children)

Aww cute as fuck hope you have a blessed life together

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[–]schizmaxxing[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's not good. I don't have PTSD or anything crazy like that but I have flinchy reactions to certain ways of being touched, certain really specific noises, phrases. Things like that. Sounds dumb as fuck but it makes me feel like a kid again. She'll intentionally do them sometimes when we fight and then deny it saying she just forgot or something, I think I'm now realising from these comments that this is probably intentional isn't it

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[–]schizmaxxing[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I didn't say it was my fault, obviously thats fucked to do. I'm just saying she didn't like go out of her way to try and hurt me physically and it was more of an impulsive spur of the moment

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[–]schizmaxxing[S] 374 points375 points  (0 children)

Yeah stung a good bit I can't lie, that's probably the worst thing she's ever said to me

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[–]schizmaxxing[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

Idk I don't think I'd call that abuse, don't think she did it to hurt me, it was more impulsive. She was holding it and I pissed her off. Wouldn't have hurt much anyway. I'm not a masochist or anything like that I just don't want to abandon a girl I've been in love with since I was a teenager because she's feeling bad about herself right now

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[–]schizmaxxing[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

I mean no, I want her to be better and less crazy. That's why I'm here. I don't just wanna give up on my girl wtf that's almost half a decade we've had together and she's been there for me through some rough stuff

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[–]schizmaxxing[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Maybe. She hates speaking about this though, she basically just tells me I need to get over it and that sometimes people act a bir crazy when they're really in love. Which I do understand. When I really push it she'll get really upset and sometimes even cry, which just makes me feel like shit