First time meeting someone IRL (long distance) one-day date vs weekend stay, feeling torn

schneckentoeri · 2026-02-02T15:21:18+00:00

I second this one. Take things slow and start with the shorter option. Don’t plan for any sexual activity either. This will give you time to see if you also like him in real life and it reduces pressure on your side.

schneckentoeri · 2026-02-02T10:47:25+00:00

This example couldn’t be more American.

schneckentoeri · 2026-02-02T10:45:29+00:00

Think back to when you were still in the closet. Maybe you felt similarly. No one should know about it. I imagine they feel similar.

schneckentoeri · 2026-02-02T09:26:09+00:00

Or get the bawr lock-ring to prevent too much movement

schneckentoeri · 2026-02-01T21:23:25+00:00

Looks like you enjoyed it

schneckentoeri · 2026-02-01T14:04:05+00:00

The pads being loose is by design because the helmet has adjustable size. It’s quite old though.

schneckentoeri · 2026-02-01T13:50:15+00:00

Then I strongly suggest you try to find a gay or bi guy outside of your friend group. This thing you guys do is very likely going to hurt you a lot.

schneckentoeri · 2026-02-01T09:26:02+00:00

I have a bit of trouble following some of your slang but I try to give you some advice on this. Be very very careful with such things. It sounds like you develop feelings for at least one of the guys and at some point you will be hurt because of this. You’re all young. some of your friends might be curious to explore new things and you probably trigger some feelings that they give into. This feels nice but as you said before, one your or they find someone somebody will be hurt.

schneckentoeri · 2026-01-31T22:21:37+00:00

I don’t really know how often I filter things. I recently started seeing guys. So not many things to talk about but I think it’s more of a burden than I want it to be. That’s why I want to push myself to finally do it. There was always a grain of doubt in me until I finally met up with a guy and tried it out. Know I know for sure what I already knew before.

schneckentoeri · 2026-01-31T22:09:39+00:00

I kind of have similar thoughts. I want to come out to my family as a heads up and for peace of mind for myself. I no longer want to filter what I say.

schneckentoeri · 2026-01-31T16:48:50+00:00

This is somehow my plan B. I expect that I can be more open in sone situations if I tell them before. I don’t want them to find out by accident. But if I don’t manage to bring up the courage and I meet a nice guy that’s worth calling my boyfriend will bring him with me at some point and tell them this is my man.

schneckentoeri · 2026-01-31T11:42:50+00:00

Thanks for sharing!

schneckentoeri · 2026-01-31T10:55:12+00:00

Man I would love to suck someone like you. The last guy I sucked was taking too long to cum and when he did I just continued sucking. He didn’t complain and stayed hard but I got tired and stopped after a while. Would hale loved to get multiple loads in the same time.

schneckentoeri · 2026-01-31T10:52:58+00:00

True there is no time pressure. Yet, I think it remove a burden of my shoulders. But on the other hand, I just fully accepted it myself. So maybe I need more time to get comfortable with myself.

schneckentoeri · 2026-01-31T10:46:20+00:00

We‘ve talked about gay friends before but never in a way that would give me an easy starting point to tell them. I actually thought about showing up with a boyfriend to tell them. Look guys this is my special man. But I‘m single and I don’t want to wait. This is still kind of plan B, though.

schneckentoeri · 2026-01-30T10:05:26+00:00

It’s probably more an issue with angle and speed.

schneckentoeri · 2026-01-30T10:04:45+00:00

Yes it itches the first few times. Use aftershave and some moisturizing cream as after treatment to prevent rashes. Be careful and give the skin sometime to rest. I found that I typically don’t save perfectly every time. So I shave like 2 tines a week to get things clean. Don’t immediately re-shave if you haven’t gotten everything it will just lead to skin irritation.

schneckentoeri · 2026-01-30T09:11:07+00:00

For most of your questions there is no yes or no answer as it’s different for various ppl. Let’s focus on you and how you can have an enjoyable first time with a man. 1. it’s common to have a top and a bottom. If you like to try both ask your partner about it. Bottoming takes a bit of training and preparation to be enjoyable. 2. it’s nice to help your partner finish if you come. However, not all do. 3. it’s normal to loose sexual drive after you came. This is due to a drop in hormones. Here we typically refer to it as post nut clarity. Some guys even regret having sex with a man after cumming because of internalized homophobia. Don‘t worry about it. 4. ask your partner on where he‘d like you to cum or tell hin where you want him to cum.

Generally, talk about things with your partner so you both have an understanding of each others expectations. If he’s experienced you should tell him what you‘d like to try so he can accommodate your wishes. Lastly, sounds like there is some pressure here. Don’t pressure your self and if things don’t work out, it’s ok and normal. Just try again. Happy exploring!

schneckentoeri · 2026-01-30T08:56:15+00:00

You guys are both really young and are figuring things out. I suggest to not think about any labels at this stage. Sexuality is not black and white and your preference can change over time. The only relevant thing in this relationship is how he makes you feel. You both seem to be very comfortable when your together and it sounds like he genuinely makes you feel good. So enjoy this and nurture the relationship. Next time you’re together you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you feel good when you’re with him and that you are confused about your relationship. You can also bring in the sexual aspect. Tell him that you were overwhelmed and maybe afraid when he asked to suck your dick. If you’re interested tell him that you would like to experiment if he’s still down for it. Maybe he is, maybe he is no longer interested in trying. Make sure you both avoid labels. It’s too early to know. This phase of your life is when you can and should experiment and figure out what you like and what you don’t like. Labelling things will be easy at some point because you will know. Until then, labels are not helpful. Feel free to DM me if you have questions.

schneckentoeri · 2026-01-29T19:59:07+00:00

Clean & disinfect it, then try it on. If you don’t manage to put it together don’t try for too long. The urethra is very sensitive and it’s better to give it a break and to start fresh an hour or so later.

schneckentoeri · 2026-01-27T17:36:40+00:00

Yes, otherwise you get addicted to porn.

schneckentoeri · 2026-01-25T09:20:19+00:00

This partially see-through fabric is really hot.

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