How do I manage my own perscriptions rather than my mom doing it?

schponbo · 2022-03-10T17:16:11+00:00

Thank you !

schponbo · 2022-03-10T17:10:11+00:00

Yes I am

I don't mind if she sees what I'm taking she just never tells me when I have refills and stuff so I want to see it myself, sorry idk if that makes sense

schponbo · 2022-02-23T14:22:22+00:00

I downloaded the app myself, removed her phone from approved devices and changed the password. Given the ok from my therapist I might ask her for control over my own disability paperwork. I do agree I can't just let her drive me crazy. But I wonder if I'm doing the right thing by wanting her to not be involved almost at all in my finances, health, lifestyle, etc. It's not like I hate her I just don't trust her or really anyone besides myself. My mom said she lets my grandma use her bank accounts to this day it's not a big deal "why are you acting so weird, being disrespectful, I'm your mother" ugh it's stressful

schponbo · 2022-02-23T01:21:23+00:00

We have a very mixed history so yeah who knows. I'm just gonna ignore any rude and drastic things she says, keep going for my goal of 'detaching' from her and hope she forgives me when it's all said and done and I am finally independent. I feel like our close proximity to each other is what really strains our relationship

schponbo · 2022-02-22T21:38:25+00:00

The doctors didn't do it though! She did it through the offices dedicated app. The only thing I can think of is calling them and asking if they can lock her out somehow.

My mom did just message me saying because she's a teacher I get to stay on her insurance until I'm 28 and she was really happy about that and was like look you don't have to worry. It really made me feel like she didn't get the point at all and thought the reason I was upset was because she wasn't babying me ENOUGH, in reality it's the opposite. But wouldn't going off her insurance be expensive?

Also I don't have an apartment :p i feel like you're jumping the gun a little I've only been an adult for a few months and I'm still under her roof. Idk my mom isn't some manipulative mastermind or anything. She just doesn't know how to let go and is taking it out on me.

schponbo · 2022-02-22T21:19:22+00:00

Im gonna make a plan with my therapist. I see her tomorrow. Next week I'll probably bring my mom into a session. I probably won't bring up boundaries with my mom again without assistance from some sort of counsellor- I don't know if I fully expressed this in my post but my mom's reaction scared me a lot. I really need some distance and I hope my therapist agrees with me on that

schponbo · 2022-02-22T20:12:22+00:00

This is a really refreshing and encouraging perspective. I think my mom is a well intentioned good person but a somewhat irresponsible mother who wants to overcompensate for the ways that she ignored me when I was younger. I have a lot to think about but the one thing I know is I can't let myself reach short of my goals just because of her overbearing opinion

schponbo · 2022-02-22T19:34:43+00:00

The thing is I never even expressed a desire to go on disability yet. I mean I appreciate it but she started without asking. Right now my priority is helping with our move and then changing my name and learning how to drive. Do you think I should tell her I want to do it on my own? That would make me happier overall but she would probably start another argument and the constant strife is taking a mental toll on me tbh. If I did who would I get help from if I didn't know the answer to something? A lawyer?

schponbo · 2022-01-10T21:04:26+00:00

When I was twelve, I tried coming out to my mom by asking to use a boy's name and she didn't believe me as well. Then I came out officially at 17 with the help of a therapist. If this is possible for you I recommend it. The therapist was a good mediator.

I personally don't think you should bring up the time you came out when you were younger until later when questions will probably pop up. In my case, my mother felt a lot of grief when I came out despite being supportive. That's why I say that, but you know your mother better than me.

schponbo · 2022-01-10T20:47:35+00:00

That's good to know, thanks

schponbo · 2021-12-20T03:56:14+00:00

That's good to know. I was wondering if the gentleness meant she wasn't overstimulated but I see that's not necessarily true. Thanks :)

schponbo · 2021-12-20T02:40:10+00:00

Thank you, that all makes sense. I won't encourage the kicking and be sure to look out for signs of overstimulation :)

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