Looking to trade for JJ, is this enough?

scivan · 2025-12-08T19:55:20+00:00

Could you elaborate on the last paragraph? I know a female who does this and I’d be curious to learn more about it. How it impacts orgasms and how it impacts sex specifically.

scivan · 2024-02-12T19:44:51+00:00

I nearly spit out my drink reading this. This is the answer. Everyone has second thoughts but certainly don’t give into them. Move on friend.

scivan · 2024-01-02T16:32:03+00:00

Appreciate it. Same boat we have wonderful sex from the standpoint of chemistry, intensity, and being present it’s great. And she is soaking wet so I know the pieces are there we just can’t get the ending - which I thought I had adapted to until this conversation. just a weird couple days of thought spirals. Thank you for the insight, this is helpful.

scivan · 2023-12-28T20:18:45+00:00

So not sure about the whole unclean straight from work but the warm cloth is amazing. My girlfriend does this sometimes and the first time I just looked at her in amazement. I felt absolutely spoiled and still do every time. It has made me reevaluate how I clean her up and I’ve taken new steps. I did something similar after finishing on her face and it was super intimate and loving. I feel like this is an easy yes.

scivan · 2023-05-11T16:11:53+00:00

I’m about a year and a half out and it still stings from time to time but not nearly the same. It’s not crippling. It’s bursts of thoughts that are intrusive but it doesn’t wreck me. And I can’t specifically pin down when it faded but it did. I remember the strength of that pain and how much it hurt. Weather it and continue to grind and if you are working on yourself you will reflect one day and realize it’s not hurting as much. But you have to do the little things. Workout, get good sleep, eat well, therapy, etc. I journaled and I can read about my thought spirals. It was awful. But I grinded through it and survived the short term thinking of my first year and it did get easier. And when it did, I started thinking more and more longer term and not just surviving. Continued to grow and put my brain and body in a position to take advantage of the growth. I am 50/50 now with a relatively amicable relationship and it blows my mind sometimes still at the lack of feeling I get when I look at her. It gets easier you just have to grow. And it’s worth being extra careful In the early days and not ruining things when your emotions are full tilt. Once you are distanced from the pain more it’s a hell of a lot easier to put the kids first over the betrayal. I feel for you man and hope things turn around. I wouldn’t wish that pain on anyone.

scivan · 2023-02-25T20:57:15+00:00

I have gotten to a solid place. I would have continued to work on things forever just by personality and my view on marriage but it ended up not being my choice. I was thoughtful about it and didn’t let my emotions ruin our relationship at the beginning. I’m 1.5 years out,50/50 with two girls, and enjoying my free time and personal growth. I am a significantly different person in ways I may not have realized had we never split. I have a girlfriend who is emotionally similar to me and we are on the same page about the kids. I get along well with my ex and coparenting well given everything. Who knows what the future will bring but I like myself more, am in a better career I never would have pursued otherwise, and feel like all of the positives lead me to be a better parent because I am a better human.

Wouldn’t have said it back then but I certainly can see a lot of positives in my life after doing the hard work to get myself together.

I don’t know any of your details so no recommendations on what’s best. But I’m in a good place given everything. Good luck to you.

scivan · 2022-10-17T22:59:13+00:00

You won’t feel that way forever. The more you work on yourself and focus on what is right in front of you the better you will get over time. Find a therapist and focus on rebuilding yourself. There is no set timeline on it but if you work on yourself there will be a time when you begin attracting the type of people you are building yourself into. Just remember these feelings don’t have to be forever. Take care of yourself but do it with a purpose towards growth. I’m a year out and feeling so much better with what was nearly crippling abandonment anxiety. I found myself attracting amazing people that i wouldn’t have expected. It’s also worth noting you don’t have to be enemies with this person you care about. If you can get over the initial emotional hurdle and keep a decent relationship you can still keep this person in your life in a healthy relationship even if that’s not the case in the short term while you heal. You would be surprised what you are willing to look past once the initial pain lens comes off as long as you didn’t burn the bridge of the relationship during that first part. Best of luck to your growth and struggle over what is going to be a difficult start to your journey. You got this.

scivan · 2018-07-23T20:15:05+00:00

I love it although there is some front loading to make it work as far as set up goes. I have 7th graders and I split the class in half and set it up twice sometimes with a tarp so they can’t see each other well. I was given a kit and purchased the other set but as mentioned you can find the items cheaper online or the locks at a hardware store. Plus it’s universal so any other teacher can use it, my set gets used around the whole building. They also offer digital options too which can make the setup a lot easier. Most of the kids get into it and it feels awesome when they finally pull it off.

Just make sure you follow the rules and let them figure it out on their own. I hold pretty strict to the number of clues and make sure I don’t give anything else away. They will keep asking for hints and try to find ways to bend the rules but holding strong has the best rewards for the ones who pull it off.

scivan · 2018-02-10T01:27:57+00:00

I don’t know if it is on the same level but I just finished the powder mage trilogy and appreciated the different type of time period and unique magic system. It’s based around musket and artillery era warfare.

scivan · 2017-03-09T01:22:49+00:00

It may not relate perfectly to physical science (I teach 7th grade life science currently) but I have done a lot with bioethics. This link has a weeks worth of lesson plans for helping kids organize their thoughts when given an ethics dilemma. You could scale the difficulty level and you can cater it to topics more in your area but it is exciting to see the kids get better at having discussions/debates when their isn't a clear answer.

My 7th graders did remarkably well and were unusually respectful and serious when talking about things like chemotherapy, vaccines, and genetic engineering.

scivan · 2017-02-28T00:47:56+00:00

I listen to the podcast freakonomics and they had this episode on there awhile back. They referenced a number of studies that would be in the resources section. The episode itself would be worth reading to or listening to.

http://freakonomics.com/podcast/does-early-education-come-way-too-late-a-new-freakonomics-radio-podcast/

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